abused husbandI’m going to ask you a question today, and I’m going to get really personal. Do you allow women to control your relationship? Do you let her make all the decisions, and let her dictate your life?

You stop seeing your friends a little bit, and you’re only allowed to watch one football game on a Sunday. You’re living by her rules. You feel like she’s forcing herself on you, and telling you what you can and can’t do. You’re probably shaking your head right now thinking, “what kind of guy would be part of that sort of relationship?”

Well, here’s what I want you to do. Go to a Walmart on a Sunday, or take a walk around your town at the weekend. Look at couples and watch who’s dominating who. You’ll be amazed. There are lots of women who dominate their men out there.

They literally de-ball the man and make them feel like a little boy. In fact, someone I know has that dynamic in their relationship. She’s the dominant force of the two of them. Her boyfriend is actually terrified of her, because when they do fight, she tends to get carried away. That’s right. He’s an abused man, and there are more of them out there than you know. Why? It’s because a lot of men don’t know how to stand up for themselves, and especially don’t know how to stand up to a woman. To be honest, my Father was one of them.

My Father couldn’t stand up to anybody. Way back in sixth grade he allowed his old basketball coach to bully him all season. He had low self-esteem like a lot of guys, and low self-esteem can be killer. It makes you feel like you’re not worthy. Some men with self-esteem issues feel like they don’t deserve a woman. They feel like they’re never going to find a great woman, so when they get into a relationship, they stay in it just because they’re glad to be with someone. They stay in a relationship which could be abusive because it’s better to have someone, than nobody.

A dominant woman needs to be with someone more or equally dominant than her. The problem is, most dominant women keep running into passive men. I believe it’s because no other guys want to butt heads with a dominant woman other than the passive guys. They exchange their balls, for the chance to have a relationship. They settle for their lot, and allow the woman to bully them.

I’ve seen it first-hand. My Grandpa was like that. I used to see my Grandmother boss him around. She’d bark an instruction at him, and he’d always meekly answer “yes dear.”

I know friends in relationships like this. The question is, is that what you really want from a relationship?

It’s time to become the man you deserve to be, and to take control of your life. If you’re dating a bully, don’t settle for it. Get rid of her. It’s never worth being with someone who treats you badly, just because you don’t want to be single. It’s time to re-attach your balls, and to find a relationship with a woman who doesn’t want to call all the shots. Relationships are all about give and take. If she can only take, then standup and tell her you’re not having it.

NEVER accept anything less than happiness.