Last night I was heading to a friend’s birthday and on the way to the bar my buddy and I stopped of at Poquito Mas on Sunset. For those of you who don’t live in LA, Poquito Mas is an awesome burrito, healthy yet still tastes authentic.

As all of you know i teach the art of connecting with women in casual places and last night was my turn to connect. I was sitting across from my friend and we needed a few napkins. So I turned around and standing right in front of the napkins was this really cute brunette.

So in this situation what can you do to speak with her? As you know, I don’t believe in routines and pick up lines. 1., they can smell a line a mile away, and 2., you need to learn how to connect with a woman so she is all excited that she met you.

So I walk over and as I am walking over I gathered information in my head: she was right in front of the napkins so this was going to be real easy. I walked over with no hesitation and said excuse me are you the napkin guarder? I smiled as I said it and she was quick with a response.

“Yes I am I am all about protecting the napkins,” she said with a smile. So now we went back and forth about the napkins and I looked around and saw that the forks were right next to the napkins so I asked her,”Are you also the protector of the forks and spoons”?

Now before I tell you what she said, I need to explain why I changed the subject. You need to move the conversation forward. You can not keep going around in circles and by doing this it shows that you are playful. I opened her with a tease and busted her about being the napkin police. Now you need to look around and find other talking points to move the conversation forward.

” I am all about the napkins, maybe next time we can talk about the forks,” she said. So she dropped her first hint about the next time. “Well see what happens,” I respond confidently. I smiled at her and walked away. Now why did I walk away? Well, I knew that I had her and she still needed to place her food order so she was not going anywhere and the power of walking away really turns them on. It shows that you are confident and it leaves them guessing and face it, we all like a bit of mystery in our lives. So I sat back down and ate some of my food and about 4 minutes later I walked back up and busted her one last time. She was waiting for her food in the wrong area.

“Hey Napkin Girl…I know your job is to guard the napkins but you are standing in the wrong area!”

I smiled and she laughed and we kept chatting about food and stuff. She then got her food and I peeked into her bag to see what she had (I did this to find out if she had 2 meals in there, always need to find out if she is single without asking). Never ask a woman if she has a boyfriend. If she is on the fence she will always make up one so you don’t ask her out. When you ask a woman out assume that she is single.

So what do you do in this situation, up until this point you have totally intrigued her and had some fun with her.

This is what I call a foundation so you can ask her out and she is intrigued by you. Most men will try a routine on a woman and even if they get the number the woman will leave feeling all confused. Why would she be confused with a routine? Well, once she processes what happened she will start to have a weird feeling about the whole thing.

What I teach is to be natural, when you are natural a woman will feel all comfortable and she will be more intrigued by you and your boldness and confidence.

So how do you close her in this situation. Here are a 3 ways to do that.

1. You grab a few forks and tell her to grab a few more napkins. She will do as you tell her because up to this point it has been all about fun. Now look at her and say: “Perfect we now have all the napkins and forks for the next time when we grab some burritos. What’s your number?”

2. Or you can just say: “Nice meeting you tonight have a great dinner.” And as she is about to leave, you let her take the first few steps and then you say: “Hey Courtney, wait….give me your number – we need to grab some napkins together real soon.” This approach will bring her back to the original fun opener and the first close will make her anticipate the next meeting.

3. One last thing….wait about an hour and text her this: How was your nachos…did you have enough napkins:) Add your name so she knows who you are and you will make her smile again.

We will talk more about why the follow up text is so important another day.

‘Till then.