I’m in my 50s and I feel like I’ll be alone forever. Do you feel that way?

This is a really important article I want everyone to read, whether you’re in your 20s, 50s, 60s, your 40s or 30s, it doesn’t matter.

I meet so many women who are younger and act like they’ll be that way forever. They probably never think they will be like Patricia.

Dating in Your 50s

Patricia is an amazing woman who sent me an email that made my heart absolutely ache. It made me want to help in any way possible. It went like this:

Hi Dave,

I’ve been single for ages and usually attract unavailable men. I’m working on that.

Currently I feel an ache in my heart because I’m alone. I haven’t met someone who wants a relationship because I’m not out there on the circuit. I guess I have an internal belief that nobody wants me, and that it will take a long time to find that special person who’s right for me. I’m in my late 50s, maybe at retirement I’ll be sharing it with someone.

I read your posts all the time and they make me realize I need to value myself more.

Cheers,

Patricia

Patricia,

First off a big virtual hug. I want to squeeze you tight and not let you go for 10 minutes. And as I do that, I want to whisper in your ear something that you need to tell yourself over and over and over again:

If you believe that nobody wants you, that belief is stopping you from actually meeting somebody.

What you’re telling yourself is that it’ll take a long time to find that special person who’s right for you. So you’re putting that out to the universe.

Put Out Positive Beliefs to the Universe

You’re putting that out to the universe, and it’s actually what keeps you from not getting up and going out there and meeting someone. You’re creating your own problem with your thoughts and your beliefs. You don’t put yourself out there on the dating circuit because you believe that nobody wants you and it’s going to take a long time to find that special person who’s right for you.

I want you to change that right now. I want you to hear this, I want you to write it down and I want you to say it 10 times a day:

I am an absolutely amazing person. The second I put myself out there, men want to meet me. Everyday I put myself out there on the dating circuit, I’m going to be more open. I’m going to smile and I’m going to take in every interaction in person. I know that for right now I just need to let him know that I’m available and open.

That’s what you need to do to change the way things are. That’s how you change your mindset, that’s how you change your belief, that’s how you meet somebody great.

dating in your 50sHe’s there. Just waiting for you. He wants to be with you. You need to believe this.

There are so many men who would love to retire with you, so many men who would love to be around you, so many men who would love to have a relationship. Change your belief. Every single time you have a negative belief, say the above statements to yourself over and over again so you program that mind of yours to believe in what life can be. You are so beautiful.

This is a great message for anyone, whatever age they’re at. Because if you don’t believe it’s out there, it will never be out there. All right, big hug to all of you.