It’s amazing what our human minds can do to us.

Right now I want you to think about a recent ex. I want you to think of all the reasons why it did not work out.

Then I want you to think of another ex. I want you to think of all the great things about that person.

Think about how you felt when you met them.

Think about how you felt when you first fell in love with them.

Think about some of the cute things that he did.

Now, how are you feeling?

Are you feeling all warm and fuzzy about one ex but not necessarily warm and fuzzy about the other one?

Our human mind, our brain, is so very powerful.

We tend to romanticize exes at times when our current dating life is not going exactly according to plan. Sometimes we think we actually blew it with an ex.

What To Do When You Miss Your Ex

Dating is a grind. It really is. It’s a daily mind trip to stay as sane as possible.

Some of us retreat into our pets. Some of us retreat into our children. Some of us use the terminology that we’re happiest alone, and we like to have the time to ourselves. Some of us just say we don’t want a relationship.

But a lot of the time, we sit back because we get so frustrated with modern dating that we start thinking about our ex.

It used to be whenever we had an ex, we probably never really ran into them. But now, we run into our exes all the time through social media. You get to see their posts on Facebook or you get to see what they say on Twitter, or look at their photos on Instagram or Snapchat. Don’t panic! You’re going to see your ex online, but you don’t have to fall back into that trap.

It’s easier now to have your ex fall back into your subconscious mind over and over again, especially if you share a child with them. When you share a child with an ex, it becomes even more painful, and you start thinking maybe you should get back together because the kid will tell you things like they want their mommy and daddy together.

How many couples do you know that are staying together for the sake of the children?

How many people do you know, maybe including yourself, that stayed with somebody a lot longer because of the children that they had with them?

That’s always the biggest mistake because the child is only going to remember how mom and dad didn’t really get along and have a loving, warm relationship. So you’re actually doing more harm than good.

Why Do You Really Miss Your Ex?

How many of you romanticize your ex? You start thinking about all the good things, but you forget about the stuff that actually broke you up. You forget about the last year and a half of torture and you think about the first three years of pleasure. You forget about all the reasons you should just get over him and move on.

We romanticize the ex because we get so engrossed in our relationships that aren’t happening now and we start thinking maybe we blew it with somebody. Maybe there really was something there. Maybe we can work things out. Maybe they’ve changed, maybe they’ve grown. So many maybes and we start thinking about our ex in ways that we really shouldn’t be.

Today’s video goes deep into that, why we feel a certain way, why we think that we need to go and text an ex back or try to go and meet our ex after some time has passed, and why we feel like we’re not worthy of love in the present with somebody new. Because the person reading this blog post right now is a new person, somebody who your ex probably wouldn’t even recognize because of all the work that you’ve been doing. You’re somebody who’s actually reading articles and buying programs, trying to become the most powerful, amazing, loving version of yourself. You’re doing all the necessary work.

That doesn’t mean that the issues that broke you up are just going to magically disappear; nor does it mean that your ex is actually working on himself, trying to be the person that you wanted them to be in the first place. Let’s leave the ex where the ex is and focus on today’s video, which will go deeper into that and explain even more.