Okay, before you get all angry…
…thinking I’m taking away one of your favorite toys—hear me out.
I’ve told women that I’ve coached to break up with their vibrator and they look at me like I’m asking them to stop playing with the greatest toy that’s ever been invented.
They act like a little kid that had their Big Wheel taken away, or their Lite-Brite taken away, or one of their favorite stuffed animals—maybe Elmo—taken away from them.
And before you think this is just a woman only thing, I tell the same thing to guys: stop the chronic masturbation, and I’m going to tell you why.
I was recently talking to a woman I’m friends with. She cannot orgasm at all by herself unless she has Mr. Vibrator doing the magic dance on her clitoris.
So, if she can’t bring herself to orgasm, a man can go down there, camp out, bring marshmallows, s’mores, and ghost stories, and not even a moan will escape her lips.
She’s too caught up in her head. She’s too vibrator dependent.
My friend’s reasoning was that vibrators are a quick, fun and painless way to orgasms.
So I looked at her and asked, “Do you masturbate with your hand?”
“No, it takes too long.”
A-ha! There it is.
How many of you desire orgasm with men, but you can’t have it when a man goes down on you, yet you can orgasm with the vibrator?
Raise your hand right now.
Okay, good.
Here’s the deal: all orgasms are built the same. The orgasms are in your head, not in your body. You can orgasm, but you need to teach yourself how to orgasm first.
You need to start masturbating with your hands. You need to wean yourself off of the vibrator. You need to get yourself wet, you need to play with yourself, and you need to explore every little inch of your vagina.
You need to know how it feels to rub your clit in a certain direction, how it feels to rub your clit fast, slow, whatever it might be. You need to do this and experiment on a regular basis.
That way, you can enjoy sex with a man; because that’s the whole point: enjoying sex with a man.
So for those of you that are vibrator dependent, I want you to become un-vibrator dependent. I want you to spend some good alone time: you, your fingers, your hand, and your imagination.
It’s time to create that intimacy again. Bring the vibrator back once you’ve trained your body to orgasm in a different way. But for now, I want you to start teaching yourself how to come.
Men everywhere applaud your efforts.
“Do the happy dance…” LOL.
This is off topic…but David, how about a blog post on how women can stop comparing themselves to other women? This is my downfall…despite being happy and enjoying success in several areas of my life, I cannot help thinking that I am inferior to other women who have someone special in their life…who get dates easily, who are married, etc. I feel like a failure when I start comparing, or that there is something wrong with me. It’s my stumbling block. I would like to learn how to to stop comparing myself and feeling badly about myself as a result.
I just got off the phone with David a few maybe and hour ago. We were speaking and we ewere talking about how girls well. Who to put up with and who no to put up with. He ends up telling me afterwards that no one is perfect. What I tell you is that you need to stop thinking anout the bad and only the good. David, I bought his ultimate collection and so manu great thing are there. He teaches me w that even …. that if there is something I can change about myself I don t like. Change it. If there is something you cannot change. EmBRACE IT!!!! David is a very well man. I like how he coaches. In oreder for you to love you must love yourself. Love everything about you. And when you love yourself, that special person I know will come. THese are not my words. These are words I learned from David. Mr awesomeness.
Because it is true. And if you don’t believe me.. well I a m sure David will answer your question much better. 
Hi! Yes i am a dude ive been following david for like 2 years now and i used o feels just like you
in my case i was really depress an didnt feel i was enough :S then i got the book by david NAKED! and it changed me you dont know how! so please do yourself a favor and read and but that book right now and read it! i know how you feel and im sure that you are way more awesome than whats you think you are! Let me know what happened 
Feel the same way Pam – great suggestion for a blog.
I can be a very good flirt at times but i don’t seem to be “encouraging” the nice fellas to ask me out.
I don’t understand all the hype about vibrators, they aren’t that great.
ditto what Pam said. Every guy is looking for his “dreamgirl” and I always tell myself that they deserve that and I’m not that so don’t bother. haha I also feel like such a loser dating because I haven’t “won” at dating and it’s looking really bad the older that I get. I look at all of these gorgeous perfect girls and it’s like, why should I even show interest to guys? THey’re chasing them anyway.
I start to feel like maybe there is something wrong with me like my mom told me my whole like (just because she has no self esteem) and that I should do what everyone has always told me and keep my mouth shut haha
I’d also really love to know what we should say. There’s this one guy that I REALLY like and it’s not like lust it’s more like love at first sight haha but I don’t want to talk to him because I always ruin it with whatever I say.
There’s also this other guy who is interested in me and while he doesn’t know it, he kind of resembles a young version of my dad haha
hey! im a %100 percent sure that you are better than you think. Im going to say this to everybody: buy NAKED! IT REALLY CHANGED MY LIFE! BELIEVE I AM BEGGING YOU! BUY THAT BOOK! NOW! IT TOOK ME OUT OF YEARS OF DEPRESSION!
David, I have only recently discovered you and I am so excited! I am almost 30 years old and have never owned a sex toy of any kind! This is not because I am prudish in any way, but because I agree with you completely! You see, I was that 13 year old using the bathtub faucet and after I “figured it all out” I thought to myself, “there is nothing that a man can do for me that even comes close to mimicking this feeling!” I decided that I needed to explore my own body with my own body parts-same thing a guy is capable of! Since then I have attempted to teach so many women how to have vaginal orgasims, multiple orgasms, etc. and many don’t even understand the foundations upon which I base my “teaching.” Many people try to talk me in to the toys and think I’m silly for feeling this way! So glad to know I am not alone with my crazy ideas! Haha!
Howdy just wanted to give you a quick heads up. The words in your content seem to be running off the
screen in Chrome. I’m not sure if this is a format issue or something to do with internet browser compatibility but I thought I’d post to let you know.
The design and style look great though! Hope you get the problem fixed soon.
Many thanks