That’s right. You women are all obsessed with your feet.
I’ve been in New York City the last five days, and all I see are women on the street looking at their feet.
I think to myself, why are women so obsessed with their feet? What’s going on? Do women of New York City have a foot fetish?
No, it’s not a foot fetish—it’s called a fear fetish.
That’s right. You have a complete fear of looking at men. It’s no wonder why women don’t meet men—they’re constantly looking at their toes, their feet, their boots, and everything else!
Here’s the deal, ladies: you aren’t going to find men by looking at the ground; unless we lay down on the ground, you’re not going to meet us there.
You have to stop living in fear.
Women are so fearful of looking at a man in the eyes.
I know right now that some of you are thinking, “It’s New York City, there are so many crazy people.”
But there are so many crazy-awesome people too! Nothing bad is ever going to happen from smiling at somebody on the street. (Plus, there’s a million people around you to protect you if something bad happened, so no real worries there.)
Women do this all the time. They’re constantly looking at the ground, and then they wonder why they don’t meet more men.
Here’s the deal: most men are not going to do anything extraordinary to meet you.
Most men are not going to even stop you on the street and talk to you unless you smile, say hello, and be friendly.
If you want to have more success with men, you have to give men the feeling that you’re an approachable woman. You’ve got to start looking at men that you’re attracted to.
You need to start making more eye contact and smiling and being flirty.
If you don’t start looking at men that you’re attracted to, you’re not going to meet men.
Does this sound too black and white? Well it is.
I’m sorry for pulling you out of your comfort zone. I’m sorry for addressing your fears.
But in life, if you sit back and allow your fears to dominate, then you’re going to live a very unfulfilling life.
So play the eye contact game.
Make it a game to look at every attractive man directly in the eye when you walk past him.
Every one!
You’re guaranteed to meet some interesting, (hot) men if you do this.
Have fun.
Guys think if we’re looking at them, that we’re looking for sex! lol
50% of people give a dirty look bad
I don’t want to see any dirty looks!! lol
Let’s all list our favorite shoes!! lol OMG!! I SOOOO WANT THESE HEELS!! http://www.betseyjohnson.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12756627 BUT $130?!?!? UGH!! I can only afford the non expensive heels (which look like stripper heels to guys!) lol Every guy asks me, “Are you a stripper?” lol
I’m like, “Do I LOOK like a stripper?!?!” lol
They’re like, “no”
and I’m like, well then why are you asking that?!?!” lol
“Are you a prostitute?”
“WHAT?!?!?!” lol Do guys think ANYTHING else BESIDES this?!?! lol
“When are we going to have sex?” lol
(hitting him)
They make them so short!! lol Once you go 8 inch, you don’t want to go down!!
TO “LoveForever”
Although I know nothing about you, I feel compelled to point out something to you that you might want to consider changing about your writing style.
In the post above, which meanders to the point of confusion (why bring up shoes??), in 15 sentences, you use the term “lol” 11 times.
ELEVEN TIMES.
Really?
Would you truly “laugh out loud” eleven times in this type of exchange?
Your very casual and approachable style of writing is appealing on a number of different levels, and conveys that you are an open and casual gal.
That’s a plus.
But the excessive use of that “lol” really negates all the positive.
Thus – my suggestion to you is to work on excising this ridiculously overused acronym from your texts and emails.
Not only will you be taken more seriously, it will cut down on the thumb-related stress fatigue you might experience later in life by diminishing the number of letters you have to type.
Best of luck,
Dana
Thank you, Dana!! I really appreciate your advice and help!!
I’ll switch to smiley faces! 
I always want to put a bunch of smiley faces but I got in trouble on another site for “overuse of smiley faces”! 
Also, most of what I write (and I’ve been invited to write on 3 different sites so if I get kicked off of this one for “overuse of smiley faces”, 
people will recognize me elsewhere since there’s only 1 person who overuses smiley faces on the whole web! 
) I’m just joking and people (on other sites) would read it, take it seriously and write these huge rants at me 
and I’m thinking, “uhhh….I was just joking!” 
so I thought I would put “lol” so that people could tell that I was joking and giggling but I agree with you that cliches are so…ugh!!… Unoriginal! 
Thank you so much and I greatly appreciate it, again!! I can’t tell how other people are perceiving what I’m putting and (like, for instance, when a guy friend read an online dating profile that I once had up, he was like, “change this!!!!! Guys are reading this and seeing sex!!!!!” 
) I would like to sweet, fun people who are playful but take me seriously and for some reason online it just comes off all wrong (everything I write guys are reading as sex, sex, sex, sex, sex!! 
“playful, fun, physical, exciting, teasing, flirting… hello” 
) I’m always giggling! I guess it’s hard to tell without being with me and hearing me! 
They need to make an “edit” and “delete” button on here so that I can clean up my mess!
I usually just write my stuff for myself! 
I didn’t think people read them! 
I presumed that they just saw “LoveForever” and thought, “Oh God! Not again!” 
and skipped over whatever I wrote and went onto read whatever the next person wrote! 
I was going to come on here and whine
“Why do I always attract guys who are into comics and the man boys!!” 
(I’m giggling and joking 
but it’s true! 
) these are my mom’s type! 
These are the type of guys that my mom loves and told me that’s what she loved so much about my dad! 
omg! I used to never want to hear anything that my parents had to say 
or to find out about them because I was afraid of ending up with someone like them 
but I guess it’s good in that now I know what *not* to look for! 
These guys must have gone to the same perm place! lol http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yrUvqG3Nu8E&feature=related
I used to be guilty of this, but I am getting better and better with the eye contact. Today while I was going down the stairs of my office building into the lobby (because I was going to the cafeteria to eat lunch) this cute guy walking through the lobby with an older female coworker was looking at me. So I looked back and held my gaze, and we smiled at each other. It didn’t feel awkward at all–it was empowering.
The guys that I’m attracted to all say that they dreamt of being a fireman and I’m like, ugh! Firefighters treat women like garbage! lol I’m not into this guy (or that guy or that guy or any of the other guys lol) anymore! lol (I was going to tell this to a guy friend of mine but then I remembered that he also said that he wanted to be a fireman! lol)
@Pam
That cute guy has noticed you before and most likely is an admirer of yours and when you gave him the indication you are friendly, he is thinking about what to say to you next time. The more you make yourself open to being approached with simple stuff like smiling and eye contact, even a “hello or hi” would work too, the more guys are going to come and talk to you
I’m totally a “in the moment”, “now or never” “live everyday like it’s the last” person but everyone else takes everyday for granted and this comes off a desperate or dominant to guys (when it’s not like that!!) so I have to pretend to take things slow and it’s such a waste of time and life!!
Oops! I obviously meant “doesn’t take everyday for granted” but I’m not going to correct anymore of my mistakes lol because we’d be here all day! lol
“50% of people give a dirty look BACK” LOL
ok! that correction was a mistake, too! lol
Oh! cute ho shoes! http://www.endless.com/Womens-Shoes/b/242169011/ref=topnav_sd_womensmore_b?ie=UTF8&pf_rd_r=0DD05WZYMFM40C126S9H&pf_rd_m=AF16NM0QF9TKW&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_i=241747011&pf_rd_p=1360251442&pf_rd_s=headernav#ie%3DUTF8%26cAsin%3DB004JHKM8A%26fromPage%3Dsearch%26sr%3D8-96%26qid%3D1334311278157%26asinTitle%3DPleaser%2520Stardust-702%252FC%252FM%2520Platform%2520Sandal%26contextTitle%3Dsearch%2520results%26clientPageSize%3D100%26node%3D382776011%26sort%3Drelevance-fs-browse-rank%26page%3D8%26nodes%3D382776011%26asin%3DB00775OKQQ%26ref%3Dsr_8_96%26pageCode%3Dd
I think I’ll wear these for my wedding!!
(Shopping for my wedding! No longer shopping for the groom! He always wants me to move somewhere! “Mmmmm….nope! Don’t think so! Like it here!”)
I’d like to know who’s walking around carrying this:
http://www.endless.com/s/ref=topnav_sk__s/192-1824759-7483245/?onsale=&showDesigner=&keywords=betsey+johnson+&x=0&y=0#ie%3DUTF8%26cAsin%3DB005NGRIMO%26fromPage%3Dsearch%26sr%3D4-20%26qid%3D1334311741576%26asinTitle%3DBetseyville%2520BV66305%2520Cross%2520Body%26contextTitle%3Dsearch%2520results%26clientPageSize%3D100%26node%3D241745011%26sort%3Drelevance-fs-rank%26keywords%3Dbetsey%2Bjohnson%26page%3D4%26nodes%3D241745011%26asin%3DB00646QLSE%26ref%3Dsr_4_20%26pageCode%3Dd
What kind of girl is she?!?!?