A friend of mine just asked me a really funny question.
“Would you rather masturbate or have bad sex?”
I had to think…
The question isn’t easy to answer…
But in the end, I’d rather masturbate than have bad sex.
Here’s the deal: masturbation is quick, easy, and painless. I can think about whomever I want, in whatever outfit I want, doing whatever nasty things I want.
Quick, done. I feel good, and relaxed. The tension is taken care of.
Granted, I’m missing the kissing, the touching, the holding, the intimacy, and the conversation. I’m not getting the total package, the whole nine yards, the whole seduction.
And isn’t that what we all really want?
But get this: bad sex is awful, it’s awkward, it’s terrible. And afterwards, you have to lie in bed next to somebody you just had the worst sex with ever.
Think about it.
You’re not aligned with them sexually at all and now you’ve got to lay there, and hope and pray that they disappear or ‘have to get up early for work’ or ‘go home to let out the dog’.
What’s even worse is when they spend the night!
The perks of waking up next to someone you resonate with on a physical/sexual/emotional/mental level, is that you get to express that attraction in the morning. I’m not a morning-sex guy but it’s awfully hard to resist when you’re waking up next to your sexual match.
But when the sex is bad?
Not only do you have bad memories from the previous night, but now you have to contend with his morning breath and crusty eyes. And he wants to use your toothbrush and take a shower with you, and he doesn’t realize how bad he was so he wants to have more bad sex with you right now!
Some of you may agree with the saying that ‘sex is like pizza—even when it’s bad it’s still pretty good.’
Whoa, ladies. No.
Bad sex is not good.
I’ll avoid it at any cost.
I don’t believe in it.
And I think all of you should hold out for good sex. All of you should hold out for men that you are really attracted to.
Get out there and date—by all means! But don’t settle for the first man to show you sexual interest. And if you do end up having mediocre sex with them—let it end there! And spend your energy getting what you really want.
It’s all about good sex people.
Get. It.
Good.
. . .
How about you? Would you rather have bad sex or masturbate?
Let me know in the comments below.
Masturbate any time over bad sex. :]
(I need a connection now over just getting off. Conversation, affection, similar likes, a positive attitude, and adventures is what i put out there and i want that back ‘especially’ in sex.)
Thanks for the smile and good read today David.
I’m not kidding, I use this metaphor all the time! But in the way that David describes. I’ve had guys offer themselves to “blow my mind” with their skills in bed, but I tell them EVERY guy says that. I feel like for me (and a lot women probably), there’s a good chance I will get pizza versus filet mignon, and why would I settle for pizza? Those same guys reply, “Wouldn’t you rather have pizza than nothing?” And I always say, “No, I’d rather have nothing! Like my palate, I need good sex just like good food. I never eat chain store pizza, so why would I settle for mediocre/bad sex?”
I’m with Sue. I can’t wait till David and his coaching crew get his male clients to understand this principle.
I think one of the reasons they prefer to go for the Bad Sex (for which I think “BS” is the unbelievably perfect acronym) is because they think that’s not what’s happening at all — that they’re actually doing well.
What I think needs to happen is that perhaps their coaches — *ahem* — could encourage them to check in with their partners once in a while during the deed’s doing to make sure what they think is happening is, in fact, what is actually happening.
In case anyone is wondering … that is a GIANT HINT.
Well, since I found this site by typing in, I’d rather have NO sex than bad sex—I guess I’m of the mind that if it’sw bad, it’s just not worth the time and effort to fool with it.
I’m married,(long time) so all those other “connection” things are there, it’s just not worth the effort to get started and end up aroused but not satisfied. Leave it asleep.