Women really over estimate who we are.
Let me explain.
The other day I saw this woman.
She grabbed her kid and she said, “God, I miss you so much and I love you!” and just kept kissing the kid. I noticed that she had no ring on her finger.
So I started talking to her and I said, “You know, that is so beautiful the way you are with your kid.”
“Thank you.”
“Single mom?”
“Yes.”
“Let me tell you: the next man you meet, to greet him like that every single time, and tell him you missed him and give him a big kiss and treat him just like he’s two, and you’ll keep a man forever and forever.”
“Nooo, it can’t be that easy.”
“It is. That’s all we want.”
Ladies, the way you treat a child is the way you should treat us, because really we are just big children. We’re actually better than big children.
We don’t make doo doo in our underwear.
We breast feed, but we only do it for your pleasure.
We’re very loyal at times.
When we throw a temper tantrum, it’s pretty easy to calm us down. A little bit of head rubbing and we’re right as rain.
And we’ll buy you nice gifts and we won’t throw up all over your nice clothes.
Really we’re just giant children, so stop making us into something more that we are. We don’t mind being children, we actually like it. We enjoy being giant children.
So treat us that way.
And now you know how to treat a man.
That simple.
LOLLL hehe..I felt smiley reading..cute..
My guy admits himself men are big babies..I notice when a tantrum would occur usually never directed at me, instead of getting upset, I would stay loving and it would pass..
This is pretty true of people in general.
I’ve often heard it advised that if we treated those we loved the same way a pet dog treats us when we return home, we’d all be much better at showing others how much we care. But, I understand that “Men are like babies” is a more empowering statement for women than “Act like a dog for your man.”
I just got over a wicked case of food poisoning and in between puking I read this blog and saw how true it was.
I’ve gotten food poisoning 3 times in the last 3 months because of my guy thinking around food. Salad to be exact. “Yeah, this wilty lettuce is a little brown but I’m sure it’s fine.” NO, IT’S NOT.
My girlfriend, bless her heart, has patiently taken care of me all three times. It’s meant a lot to me.I’ve concluded that I, and most men need some sort of female supervision in order to stay alive. And in this way, I’m still kind of a baby.
Dan, I think that’s sweet…and hope you’re feeling better! If I had a boyfriend, I would definitely take care of him when he’s sick.
Thankfully I do feel better. Physically. My ego is still a little sore from getting sick a third time hahahaha!
Oh, good. I wonder if it was lysteria if it came (you think) from lettuce. Fortunately my mother supplies an organic supply of homegrown lettuce and other veggies for most of the summer but during the other months, if I can’t buy organic I wash and dry all of the leaves before storing it in the fridge.
I think/hope it was just because the lettuce had gone bad and I was dumb enough to eat it. My friend had lysteria and it messed him up for months.
Aww hope you are feeling better!!!
My beau has a tendency to get low blood sugar, after once almost passing out on a very hot day, I always make sure I carry extra snacks in the car for him wherever we go lolol
Thinking of that day I was panicking but did what I could, brought water and food from the deli on the corner, afraid I had to call an ambulance..He kept saying I “saved his life that day” aww
Come to think of it, its beautiful in love when two people take care of each other..
Last year I actually mysteriously came down from food poisoning, no idea from what..my beau came and brought me soup and kept making me tea and took such care of me..aww
It felt so good to “let” him take care of me..It was a good change..I’ve always had a tendency to close myself off when I’m sick..not want to be seen..deal with it myself..
Love it!
True, goes both ways but we (women) often treat our baby better we treat our husband.
I fell in this trap and successfully got out of there but it is such an easy trap to get into!
This blog post crossed my mind today and made me think..This can also be pushed too far..taking care of your guy too much? Too “mothering” which can translate trying to fix or change someone..hhhmm
I talked a lot with a good friend of mine today who is going through a break up right now, she just broke up with a guy she’s been dating for 4 months now, basically they want different things..They will still maybe remain friends but she is hurting and I noticed her to be very focused on trying to “help” him and take care of him…Sometimes too much is maybe too much..and not healthy….just musing…
Almost all guys won’t admit the item, but most of you find “first date” experiences can consist of mildly anxiety-provoking to absolutely nerve-wracking. And usually, that’s for a decent reason. Like they claim: you never get a second chance to make a first impression. And the stakes should never be higher than when you’ve simply just met a great woman you could possibly share the rest you could have with, right?
So…once you have these first date “basics” covered (do I really have to say it? Things like good practices and manners) it’s the perfect time to master the 3 most powerful ways to make a great first impression using a first date:
#1: Talk with A Woman Like It’s To start a date, Not A Job Meet with
Men who focus on behaving politely into a fault on a first date are Greatly predisposed to come across as stiff…anxious…or worst off, totally BORING. These guys behave like they’re out on a position interview or something. The reality is, most women come clear of SUCCESSFUL first dates saying stuff like, “He was so funny…there was this chemistry between us…I come to feel something for him. ”
That’s why it’s critical that your man “heat up” the common, polite first meetings in addition to conversations by nurturing fascination, enticement and excitement within a woman. The easiest way to accomplish this is to speak to her as if you would like have fun — that she’s a FRIEND rather then a potential employer.
As soon as the first “hello” moments on the date, feel free for taking the usual conversation issues (careers, movies, whatever) and redirect the conversation in a fashion that creates FUN instead connected with TENSION and STIFFNESS. In the event she’s wearing something useful, tease her gently concerning this. Ask her to keep the door for YOU. Tell her you’re tired with talking about your job…you’d rather look at an ultra-cool experience you recently had. Or (even better), one who SHE’S had.
Oh…and if she will give you a compliment, take it as an opportunity to challenge her in small solutions set you after that usual, nervous first time frame guy. Make a lie like, “Look, I’m not like other guys. Compliments won’t bring you anywhere. ”
In different words, treat her such as a friend (and not like you’re seeking to “win her over” in addition to impress her) and you’ll view amazing results.
#2: Halt Asking Those Lethal “Attraction Killing” Issues
Once a woman you’ve just met starts to think about you in a unique way, she’s likely to hold thinking of you in that way. This is why I might suggest that men avoid this impulse to ask these standard “first date” questions by any means costs…most of which usually are guaranteed ATTRACTION KILLERS.
No matter if it’s because he’s tense, insecure, or just hasn’t thought out ahead, I can’t explain how many men tell me them to ask questions like, “So…how ya think it’s going? ” Even more difficult: “Do you think we’re a superb match? ” Worst off: “So, do you including me? ”
These sorts of questions reek of desperation…and desperation would be the biggest ATTRACTION KILLER, clubhouse none.
Instead, ask issues that signal you’re knowledgeable, inquisitive, and interesting.
#3: Operate the Right Body Language
When you meet a woman for once, I just can’t claim it enough…you MUST be aware of your body language. Of course, it starts “speaking” into a woman before you previously say a word. This means making sure to help keep eye contact (but don’t ignore to blink…there’s no easier way to see as a little little scary).
Sit upright. If she ever draws cool off from you, never “chase” the woman by leaning in. As a substitute, make sure that you draw back, too. When you chat, use a low, slow-moving voice tone. If people rush your words, you’re almost certainly going to stammer. During conversation, go searching the room a little to break the stress.
All of this gets you off into a great start — and just might keep you from losing the experience before it even will begin
So act like someone instead of a stiff…avoid wanting to know those “lethal” questions…use the suitable body language…and getting an incredible SECOND date is nearly assured.
Hey american, just an FYI that you’ve posted this on the women’s blog….although I suppose pretty much everything you’ve listed is sage advice for women as well. Just letting you know in case this was intended towards men.
There is something about us women and our children – the love comes straight from our souls. There is nothing else like it.
I can see why this works. When I am with my children, I light up and glow from the inside.
I can imagine that glow being very attractive because it is so pure.
I just realised something – us women are no different. We are just all little girls at heart in a grown up body!
Hi David. Your recent posts have made me wondering how, in practical ways, we women can be and behave more self confidently? How to project self confidence, which is so attractive to men? I’d be thankful if you have advice on that.
Best!
Ana (Mexico)
I’ve heard if you tend to your man’s needs too much it becomes “mothering” and he thinks of you as such….not what we’re aiming for. Have always kept this in the back of my mind.
Even recently I spoke to my ex and he was telling me how his new girl did nothing but take care of him while they were on holiday together. made me cring a little. I have no qualms looking after my guy but not in the way I would take care of a child.
Yep, after a minute of self-denial, I have accepted that I am a big baby, and indeed I do like my head rubbed.
Men being like big children is a generalization, and an exageration.
Let’s be fair- everyone needs special attention and pampering once in a while, not just men. I’m a very sensitive woman, and require plenty of affection from my boyfriends. In return I give them attention. I divorced my husban of 10 years because he wasn’t affectionate, and I ended up in the arms of a man who was sooo loving, I felt like a little girl, despite him being a few years younger. I felt so special.
Also, women who are the youngest child in a family, are used to more attention and pampering.
All we need is love, love is all we need.