So, you’re dating a guy, and his Facebook page is open to a hot female friend of his.
When you ask him who she is, he’ll tell you that she’s just a friend of his.
So then, of course, being a woman, you’ll start becoming a little bit of an interrogator, and you’ll ask him how he knows her.
You won’t be satisfied with his answer because you already think something’s going on.
And you really want to know the real answer: you really want to know why he’s looking at hot women on the Facebook.
The reason why men look at hot women is the same reason why men watch instant replay. A man loves to look at beautiful women—pictures of them, movies of them, whatever. We’ve been born and bred that way since we saw our first Playboy magazine.
Ladies: it doesn’t mean that we want to go to bed with them!
It just means that we are being normal guys. If we never looked at another woman again, you would be dating an abnormal man.
We’re not corresponding with her; we’re not doing anything; we’re just checking her out.
Men love to check things out. Men love to look at pictures. Men love to watch instant replay.
Men love to just look at women.
The next time you see him, don’t go into interrogation mode. Just realize, it’s no big deal.
His eyes may be looking at another woman, but his heart is all yours.
Better yet, BE that hot woman!
I am not someone who gets jealous. A man either wants to be with me or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t, I am not going to try and convince him otherwise. I don’t need to nor does any other female.
David, for me a guy going out of his way to look up other women is disrespectful.
I will check out a good set of shoulders and arms on a man. I don’t ACTIVELY go and seek this out when I am in a relationship with someone.
What is being suggested here in this article is a purposeful act rather than random.
This is an issue of respect to the relationship. Personally, I wouldn’t like it.
Which contradicts your first statement: I’m not someone who gets jealous.
Leanne, you just said a special case where you feel justified in that jealousy, but I think its under the same rubric
It is so easy to pull a different person’s facebook page in the presence of the significant other. Its not a bad thing that he does.
And we just have to use their credit card. It does not mean we are into them for their money or that we’re gold diggers. If we never bankrupted you, you would be dating an abnormal woman.
Just realize, it’s no big deal.
LOLLLL!! I nearly spit out my water from laughing at this one hehehee
Yeah, I have to agree with Leanne. It’s one thing to check out hot chicks when you’re out and about…quite another to surf through his Facebook just to look. Seems rather intentional. And too personal.
But we are just supposed to be “okay” with everything, aren’t we?
Check out this article I just found today, 10 Ways Guys Use Facebook For Their Dating Lives. Don’t like number 8.
http://www.divinecaroline.com/24138/130684-10-ways-guys-use-facebook
Please…men don’t know how to be friends with hot woman. That’s a load of farce and we women would be stupid to believe that.
I have an issue with men purposly looking up someone not an automatic glance at a woman who just walked by.
hmm ok ladies my feelings,
A man who is committed to you and loves you does not stare for more than a few seconds at a woman and certainly does not obviously stare or turn around looking at other women..for this is very disrespectful of your feelings..
If this were to happen, definitely it should be brought up and state how it made you feel; bad, insecure, angry. It should not be something that you keep to yourself and then it can turn to resentment. There needs to be a talk and see what he says..
I feel like there is a big difference between a brief glance, which is normal as we all can take notice of someone, whether it be men or women..think they are attractive for a second and that is it..
I had a date with a guy from Match years ago who stared at other women throughout the afternoon he spent with me. He even turned his head around to check out every woman walking through the door of the cafe we were in. If I had more brains and confidence at the time I would have stood up and ended the date there and then. If you’re not attracted to me, fine, but don’t be rude by openly oogling every live female right in front of me.
@ Pam – that is incredibly rude!!
On a first date, the guy took three telephone calls and talked for 20 minutes. I look back on this and try to figure out why I just didn’t leave.
Wow Pam that felt triggering just to read, I would have felt so insulted, how rude!!!
To me, any guy like that to me right away is someone who has problems committing to anyone or anything..
But you know, no beating ourselves up over how we should have reacted at the time.. You dealt with it the best way you knew how at the time..
I have a coworker who’s been dating a guy for 3 months, he does the same, ogling every woman he sees, literally turning around. She told him how she felt, and he said he didn’t even realize he was doing it..He did stop after she said something, but they are not together now.
He is afraid of committing to anything..even buying a bike..lol He wanted only a friends with benefits situation, and she wanted a real relationship..
Great article ladies:
http://voices.yahoo.com/why-men-treat-women-badly-it-5566671.html
No problem, just don’t get mad when we check out our hot guy friends.
I think whatbis tryin to be said is. Since men are more visual then it is intellectual, men are to be looking more and usin their eyes instead of their minds. Obviously you would not want to be with someone who would disrespect in such a way that would be oogling every girl that walks. I believe what is trying to be said here is that SOME Men may look and admire a woman’s beauty. And that should be all right AS LONG as it is not OOGLING a woman. I will say though that when I was with my ex before we broke up. I believe in commitment and I was commited to her. I didn’t want to look at another woman, but When I did, it was not out of lust. It was merely “oh what a gorgeous girl
” But it was not ever just to go out and see beautiful women. If I saw one all right. I will admit I did go on the internet to see women, not porn sites but the reason to see them were much differen’t. I saw them because I was in a relationship and I looked at myself as wow I have a girlfriend and these gorgeous girls are there…. but I don’t need this. I had something special with my ex so I was happy and didn’t care about others. Sure they were pretty but my mind was with my ex when we were still together. As for other comments. Don’t take it as oh men are going to do whatever they wan’t. Fuck no. If you are with a man that is oogling others and disrespecting you, then advice from David Wygant that he said something like this. If she ( or he ) is not giving it to you……. GET……THE FUCK….. OUT OF THERE, They are not going to give it to you. Which means if they don’t make you happy, leave them. Happy relationships to you all. 
Don’t take my words out of place. I mean them with great intention to help. 
Victor Hugo, that felt interesting and good to read, getting of your insight..
I completely agree, ogling is very disrespectful, and women need to rethink any relationship she is in if this were to happen, I also believe women need to talk to the man about how she is feeling..Sometimes we ladies tend to hold things inside and feel resentment later..
Thank you Nathalie. You are right. Talking to a man about how you feel is right on. So many times I would have liked my ex to tell me what was bothering her, maybe then we may have still been together, but I will admit I have my flaws too… Power to you. Best to you all. May you find your man come true as I look for my woman.
Hello everyone:
I agree with Leanne and a few others. I started dating someone recently, and when he kept repeatedly checking out a table of blond women, I became quiet. He asked later what ‘was the problem’. I told him and he apologized….said that he thought that he recognized someone. I thought that I would give him the benefit of the doubt. We went out for dinner tonight and he checked out another woman at a nearby table…more than a few seconds. I didn’t get upset, or angry, but simply brought it up on our way home. Of course he denied it and said that I had a problem. I told him that I saw what I saw, and whatever he said wouldn’t change my mind. We basically disagreed on our opinions….but the relationship is over. He had told me to talk to him about anything that made me uncomfortable, but when I quietly brought it up he told me that I was definitely wrong. I am so tired of excuses. I’d love to be with a man who focusses his attention on me and doesn’t have to check out the rest of the restaurant or room. I show him respect, and I think that he should show me respect.
This article is pure BS. Any man who respects his woman is not going to behave like this. Men use the “we are more visual” line on women to get them to accept their heathen behavior. It doesn’t work on me because I see through it. Women are just as “visual” as men, we just have some respect and dignity when it comes to what we do online, where everything is there for all to see. A man liking pictures of other women on FB is disrespectful, period. Or anywhere else for that matter. If a man loves you, he will not be doing these things, especially if you tell him it bothers you.
This article is yet another thinly veiled attempt to get women to be quiet about them wanting their cake and eating it, too.