Here’s a quick tip today ladies, for the way men think.
We don’t read into everything.
If we send you a text that says, “Let’s meet later”, that text actually means, “let’s meet later”.
If we tell you, “Hey today doesn’t work for me”, it actually means, “today doesn’t work for me.”
There is no need to read between the lines or overanalyze the statements.
There is no need to think, “Hmm, today doesn’t work for him. What does that mean? Do you think I need to chase him; does he want me to chase him? Is he playing a game?”
We don’t overanalyze and read into things at all.
It is important for you to know that when you’re in relationships with us. We tend to speak exactly what we feel.
Sometimes it drives you nuts because we might tell you something and it is not a long enough paragraph. We feel in sentences, you want us to feel in paragraphs. You want us to actually feel in monologues.
But in reality, we just state things very clearly with no reading between the lines.
“Reading between the lines.” That is a woman’s phrase. And it is a beautiful woman’s phrase. It’s what makes the sexes different.
But don’t put your traits on us, especially when you’re in a relationship with us.
It’s funny, I just told a woman this the other day. She said something to me and I said, “Don’t woman-trait me.” And she started laughing. And when I said that, it actually clarified what I said to her very, very quickly.
So the next time you wonder what a man is thinking, ask him. He’ll probably repeat the same sentence over and over again until you finally realize that there’s no lines to read between, he really is black and white like that.
Yes, we are very different species – as soon as I read “today doesn’t work for me”, I interpreted that as meaning “Not intrested in meeting you at all EVER”
Thank you for this blog – another one i need to bookmark
This one guy kept asking me for my # and saying that he wanted to talk on the phone. Months later I forgot the never get on the phone with a guy rule and he asked “when are we going to be talking on the phone?” I accidentally gave him my # oh my god when he called all he kept saying over and over again is “so what’s going on?” omg…
I tried telling him a fun, good movie that I saw that day with a friend and he just cut me off- “never seen it”
ugh
so I was really giggly hehe
he kept saying “why do you keep giggling?” again, over and over (haha)
I tried asking him a question, “so are you originally from this area?” (wth do I know haha)
(come on, guy pick up the conversation!! You wanted to talk! I don’t have time to and I made time! AND I already had over 7 hrs wasted (I mean spent on hehe) another guy earlier that day that I didn’t have, either!)
He just kept asking, “so what’s going on?” and now “why do you keep giggling?” again, over and over
so I said, “because it was a stupid question” (hehe)
then he said, “If you asked it, then how could it be a stupid question?” but he didn’t answer. just the “so what’s going on?” and now “why do you keep giggling?” again, over and over (haha)
then he just hung up
I was super sweet and polite the whole time. So apparently he doesn’t like happy, bubbly, giggly women.
I hadn’t slept that night and after that I went to my room and cried my eyes out *waaaa* *waaaa* (hehe) I hadn’t got a good cry out like that in like 10 years!! Ahhh… I felt so good afterwards!!
What an unkind guy
The other guy earlier in the day wanted to get married n all but all man boys (sorry it’s true) say that on day 1. Then, eventually they get mean. It’s like they open up your feelings with a bunch of sweet talk so that they can hurt you really deeply afterwards.
why am I still doing this?!?!
oh well
Love to everyone, God bless ya’ll and I wish the best for everyone
Well, being polite doesnt mean giving indirect or mixed messages. It’s possible to be polite and straight at the same time, I do it all the time. Heck, what’s the worst that could happen over the internet or phone? If I wouldve been in that guy’s place, I would’ve told you straight-up NITE NITE and hung up as well. Chit-chatting in circles is a complete waste of time (fact!). If you’re not gonna give your phone number to guys over the internet then I suggest that you stop waisting other mens’ time. I recently got 2 numbers over facebook and MSN Messenger because those women wanted to meet me in person and get to know me seriously. If I knew they were just gonna play stupid games I would’ve screened them right off my accounts in a split second.
So my suggestion is this: make up your mind! are you going to date seriously or are you gonna play junior-highschool games for girls in their puberty? The choice is yours.
-Erick,
LoveForever aww I feel you…I wouldn’t feel good being hung up on..
Hmm he said what’s going on..You told him about the movie you saw, did you describe how you felt about it? What it meant to you, How you were feeling that day?
If he were to keep persisting with the same question, I would say something like, what you were truly feeling: I feel bored being asked the same question what’s going on…You can giggle and then just pause, and wait for him to speak and pick up the conversation..then you could say “I am feeling kind of nervous with all the silence..”
Being as authentic and into your feelings as possible..
Love and Blessings to you!!!
Thank you to infinity Nathalie sweetheart. I love and appreciate your help, advise and everything that you write. I love that and I will definitely do that from now on.
) and can block certain people (because I’m not reading Bob’s bs. Enough negativity in the world. No one deserves their day ruined with that).
I wish David had one of those forums where you can go through and read all of certain people’s posts (because I want to read all of yours
OMG You will never believe this! That guy that hung up on me and wouldn’t contact me back when I contacted him after that asking why he hung up on me had the nerve this weekend to contact me. I swear! WTH?!?! Do guys have PMS or something?!?! Phone Misogyny Symptoms hehe
He was nice before he got on the phone otherwise, I, of course would never have gotten on the phone with him in the 1st place!
And the mesmerizing movie was “The Last Song”. I’m curious if you ever saw it.
Love this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHI23YHkJjs
Thank you again. I’m super grateful always for your help. I love you and God bless you
xoxoxo
Awwww Love Forever, honey I felt so happy and smiley just seeing your name!! I appreciate your words and all your comments…You’re so cute, I feel like I just want to be your best friend!!
Oh you are so right, there is enough negativity, bad things happen, deaths, losses..Life is too short to be anything but happy and enjoy all the good this life has to offer us…and spend time and energy loving ourselves…
I am thinking of skipping over his negative comments, I don’t like that they are directed towards women…This is a relationship blog, it is not meant to judge and criticize!!
Hahahaha pms you’re so cute! I think they do, worse than us sometimes
It sounds like he likes you and maybe he finally rethought the situation and gave it another shot?
Oh my goodness I felt so teary and touched by Miley Cyrus, she is so beautiful and authentic singing..aww I never saw the movie but I even checked out the trailer, It looks so moving the parts about her dad..I was so surprised to see it was from Nicholas Sparks from the Notebook one of my favorite movies! hehe Now I so want to see it and I am going to go get it and watch it this week! Feeling grateful for you sharing this with me…
I love you too and God Bless you!!
xoxo
Hey ladies,
Love seeing both of your posts. I’m probably not going to comment anymore on the men’s side of things, because of the negativity from two particular people. Like you said, LoveForever, we don’t need that crap. I have found the best way to deal with negative people is to stay far away from them and don’t engage them. You know, I showed that thread to a male friend who was appalled and said that he couldn’t figure out why either was posting as they contributed nothing positive to the conversation, just vulgarity and meanness. You really got to a be a sicko and need therapy if you have a problem with other people’s happiness. I notice one of the neanderthals continues to bash women in general–he really needs a therapist.
I also wish David or someone on his team would moderate the threads and remind people to respect each other’s opinions. The lack of it has turned me off.
Anyways, I’ll be around…just quietly observing from the background. I hope both of you ladies have a lovely week!
Pam
Pammm!!!! I feel so happy seeing you here!!
I spoke to my beau about that thread, and the time he completely cursed me out. He was appalled as well..He wanted to get involved but I thought might not have been the best thing..aie yie yie Talk about this blog being blown off the web lol
Really though I thought the exact same thing, Pam..I feel like David Wygant should monitor some of these comments Bob is making about women, its feels bad and degrading, and triggering..
I know on other blogs, especially one I am often on, this kind of thing would never be tolerated..I was even surprised nobody took this into their hands.. it continued! Normally comments go into moderation if they even contain certain words..
I find it almost amusing that someone could be part of this community for years on end yet behave in the exact same manner..You would think it would be beneficial to use the practice and techniques David teaches ..starting on the live women of the blog!
Not make them feel disrespected and horrible…
I really hope you stay on this side Pam at least, I so enjoy reading your words..I was thinking of you and wondering if you ever got to enjoy the car show..
Have a great happy week filled with blessings and good things..:-)
this is my problem. “i’m in meeting, please call me later” or “i miss you too, talk to you soon” i ask him what’s a good time to call back. i ask him soon meaning later today or tomorrow. my problem is i never understand the time length of later and soon. and not knowing the specific time frustrate me. so how long is ‘later and soon’. what to expect when man use the word later or soon.
Yup, men just go straight to the point.
Hey ladies,
Love seeing both of your posts. I’m probably not going to comment anymore on the men’s side of things, because of the negativity from two particular people. Like you said, LoveForever, we don’t need that crap. I have found the best way to deal with negative people is to stay far away from them and don’t engage them. You know, I showed that thread to a male friend who was appalled and said that he couldn’t figure out why either was posting as they contributed nothing positive to the conversation, just vulgarity and meanness. You really got to a be a sicko and need therapy if you have a problem with other people’s happiness. I notice one of the neanderthals continues to bash women in general–he really needs a therapist.
I also wish David or someone on his team would moderate the threads and remind people to respect each other’s opinions. The lack of it has turned me off.
Anyways, I’ll be around…just quietly observing from the background. I hope both of you ladies have a lovely week!
Pam
Thanks, Nathalie! Great to hear from you. I feel better knowing someone else feels the same way I do.
The car show was fun! It was mostly retired age gentlemen who owned the vehicles and lots of couples attending it, but it was held in a beautiful venue on the ocean and they had vendors selling their goods, music, etc. I will definitely go again next year, and I’m eyeing a Volkswagen lawn show a car museum in the Boston area that does a different themed car/motorcycle show each Sunday.
I had a great weekend. I was in a Sports Authority store on Saturday picking up a glove and top for golfing when the guy in line ahead of me turned around and gave me the remaining $5 left on his gift card to use towards my purchase. I thought that was so nice of him…I’ll pay it forward. That’s why I’ll never stop practicing the law of attraction, because I get lots of lucky moments like that.
Pam, I felt so good and smiley reading about your weekend
Beautiful cars near the ocean must have been amazing..You should definitely go to the VW lawn show, that sounds like a fun and interesting place to frequent and then who knows? hehe
I feel so good and excited reading about the $5 gift card..How good he was to do that, some reading good, giving people out there..I love receiving random unexpected gifts like that from the universe..We must be willing to receive and putting our energy into positive thoughts really works..I too will never stop law of attraction..
It made me think of a time (this is different) I remember some time ago feeling annoyed about getting so many bills in the mail and thinking about how I have to pay them, I decided to reframe my thinking, like oh how great I can pay for these bills, how wonderful that I enjoyed these services that I am using and now I will send money to them..
Not so long after that I feel I manifested a unexpected refund I forgot about in the mail along with a check for money I forgot about…yummm
xoxoxo
Nathalie — that’s awesome about the refund. My mother has attracted money and it always came in a way she didn’t expect and when she least expected it. I find when the universe delivers, it always does so at the right time when you’re off guard! I also attracted an extra $1,000 after putting it on my vision board. That’s why I have no doubt that I have a match out there to share my life with.
That felt so inspiring and yummy to read Pam..
I bought another board to work on a new vision board since I have new desires and I want to make a new one..Yay for manifesting!!
This is amazing to listen to..there are many more..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FBxp1zTA9c
Thanks for sharing that video link, Nathalie. It reminds me of the message in the latest newsletter I got from The Secret about the difference between inspired action and activity…activity is work, and trying to make something happen by doing hard work that doesn’t necessarily feel good, while inspired action feels right and easy.
Ooh I have to sign up for the Secret newsletter too..Do you get the TUT notes from the Universe? They are so inspiring to get everyday…
I haven’t heard of TUT. Is there a link where I can sign up for it?
Pam, I am going to check out Wayne Dyer more too, I read some of his stuff a while back, I want to refresh my memory, he is really good..
Go to
http://www.tut.com/
and click on free sign up, and you get a note every day from the universe! hehe Its so cool and very uplifting sometimes when you need it most..
Here’s an example of one I saved from a few days ago
Nathalie, the top 10 signs a really huge dream of yours is about to come true, are:
10. You regularly visualize the end result, the after-party, or beyond.
9. Every day you “show up,” doing something about it.
8. You’re not attached to how it will come true.
7. It really matters to you; you really care.
6. You know who the first 3 people are that you’ll call with the news.
5. You’re smiling and winking way more than normal.
4. Sometimes you speak and behave as if it already has.
3. It probably doesn’t depend upon specific people.
2. You already know what your next goal is.
1. You keep whispering, “Sweet! Thank you! Yes!” with clutched fist.
Sweet! Thank you! Yes!
The Universe
Just read this today
:
If you look around and see a lot of what you
don’t want in your life, you’re experiencing
“negative attraction”
Debt, bills, stress, a job that leaves you
unfulfilled (or perhaps no job at all) -
strained relationships, lack of passion or
creativity.
Nobody “wants” these situations or problems.
But most people spend a lot of time THINKING
about them.
And we know from the law of attraction that
what you think about – you attract.
So how do you stop thinking about your
problems and start attracting your desires?
The law of attraction (combined with Inspired
Action) makes it possible for you to turn
things around, to find love, to lose weight,
to attract abundance…
To create a new life rich beyond imagining –
no matter where you are now.
But if your mind is focused on your problems,
on what’s not working – if you spend time
feeling bad about yourself, about your life,
angry towards others…
Then what you’ll attract will be in alignment
with those thoughts and feelings.
Yep, Nathalie, that is true…what you focus on tends to show up more often in your life, again and again, so one needs to be sure they’re only focusing on good things. I also follow Wayne Dyer’s “I am” advice from his latest TV special and book.
Yeah, what is with the negative responses from those two – One in particular can really nasty with us.
Thanks, Nathalie! I like that top ten list!
You’re welcome, honey
here’s my note from today..I hope you got to sign up..
Here’s a tip, Nathalie, on how to bring absolute joy into your life faster than it may have otherwise arrived: every day, in some small way, even secretly if you like, look for a chance to help someone else.
Did that help?
So happy,
The Universe
I did sign up, thanks! I didn’t realize this site was started by Mike Dooley, cool! It looks like it’s packed with lots of useful stuff and when I have some free time, I’ll poke around in it.
Yay!! Oh yesss I forgot to mention Mike Dooley, I have also yet to explore the site more right now I just love getting those notes..
I saw this video on Facebook yesterday and thought it seemed like sage advice…from the show Twin Peaks:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjkVgc6gIqk
Pam, thank you for sharing that with me..That was fantastic, upplifting advice!!! Give yourself a gift everyday hmmm this feels so good to think about..yess..
Its funny because it kind of happened to me today, I was feeling a bit overwhelmed with things to do and I wanted to make sure I took some time to do something by myself to feel good..so I remembered right near my work they have the open market thurs and fridays and I haven’t had a chance to go…and it felt good to feel the sun on my face and I bought some fresh apricots yum and a piece of foccacia yumm hehe
Happy Friday Beautiful Ladies!!!!
LOL I love the lyrics to this song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QjWn-ueeeLw
Cool, it’s retro! I’m all about the retro (I write a blog on retro pop culture.) I enjoy being a girl, too. Hope you have a great Friday!
Ooh I love retro..I would be so curious to see your blog! Have a great weekend too, beautiful..
Thanks! Sure thing; it’s http://goretro.blogspot.com
Wow very cool Pam! I’ve been enjoying the retro fashion and 60s makeup articles yummm I love 60s/70s eye makeup looks hehe
I will check out more of the article too, you have a lot of good stuff there..
I have been playing around in my head with ideas for a blog too hehe feeling inspired..
Feeling appreciative of you sharing… <3
Thanks, Nathalie — I’m planning on updating the look and layout and just wish I had more time to write and devote to it.
Man here.. The original post WAAAY up at the top was “Why Men Don’t Think Like Women”. Go on, scroll back up & read it again. Now carefully re-read all the reply posts. Go on, do it now. Between each reply post, go back up & read at least the headline & ask yourself.. what does this response have to do with the original. You might think of venturing a medical diagnosis of ADHD. I often do think this when reading MOST girls replies on blogs. Superior communications skills with multitasking or a total lack of focus? Of course some female would point out how politically incorrect & offensive I am, I would just die if that happen.. so here is my response: “I like your shoes”