I was sitting around the pool yesterday, doing a little bit of exercise to alleviate the pressure in my lower back.
A bearded guy walks into the gated pool area—he’s in his early to mid-30s.
All of a sudden from one corner of the pool you hear a man chirp up and say, “Almost 5:00pm, he’s alive!”
Another guy shouts, “That is the latest walk of shame I’ve ever seen!”
They start laughing. Man talk follows.
Then, as bearded guy walks closer, they start clapping and shouting to him.
“Man of the hour!”
“The walk of shame!”
“How was she?!”
Then they start clapping some more. Now the whole pool starts clapping and everybody gets a good laugh out of it.
He goes and sits down. He’s congratulated.
“A gentleman won’t tell,” he says. His friends look at him with admiration. He’s the hero. He’s actually playing a role for all. He actually loves the validation.
He felt good. He was milking the moment. He was enjoying being the center of attention. He was like the quarterback on a high school football team.
If that was a woman walking in like that, nobody would say a word—not one person. She’d quickly go talk to her friend and share all the details with them. The whole pool wouldn’t validate the fact that she got laid.
That’s a guy thing. It’s okay for the man to go and bang some girl—he’s validated. The whole pool clapped. Everybody knew what he did last night. He was the stud.
His coworkers loved it, that’s why they love having him on this corporate vacation, because they know he’ll create a story. The story he just created in Maui will then go back to the office, probably right away via e-mail.
He’ll be validated. He’ll retell that story probably 70 times when he’s back at work. Each guy will congratulate him even more.
A legend was born here. Or maybe his legend was just cemented because he already had that notoriety. But this experience will live on and through the corporate world—the buddy-buddy system of the corporate world.
This could actually get him a raise down the road, because somebody will want to be around him and have it rub off.
Apparently, it’s a good career move doing the walk of shame at 5:00pm in the afternoon.
For a man.
. . .
So how do you feel about this double standard?
How come a woman walking into the pool area isn’t congratulated by other women saying “Alright Betty, four orgasms last night, good job!”
How do you feel about that?
My mom said that’s gross! People have germs!
I think the double-standard should stay as is. Women are supposed to be of higher moral character than men. That’s what holds the standard. Ok – so noone waits until marriage anymore. Can’t we at least not make it ok to discuss it out in the open like guys do? Leave something as special? I know you are all into this free sexuality stuff, but seriously – what are we losing by going down this road? I think we’re losing the special place that girls hold and one day, guys aren’t gonna see any difference between men and women anymore and then we’ll REALLY be equal – I guarantee no woman really will want that when they get that….
I’ve never met a guy who doesn’t treat a sexy women like garbage. It really upsets me that they all seem to have this side to them. They think it’s ok. I would like to know what the heck is wrong with them that they do this. They treat them horribly! I hope that someday that changes. I know there are tons of men out there that probably don’t do this, I’ve just never met them, unfortunately.
I was talking to a friend about this when the whole Charlie Sheen thing was going on and everyone was trashing his pornstar girlfriend. THat is how guys treat sexy women. Oh they’re sluts, they’re this, they’re that, like they aren’t people! These girls deserve to be treated the best, not the worst! They’ve often been abused the worst.
It’s so boring always having to be this good girl in order to be treated well by guys. It’s not real and it’s not having a complete personality where some days you just want to be sexy! I haven’t experienced that women treat women like trash the way guys do. It’s sad.
jmo- I’m no expert!
Yes! we have higher moral character like, “look how much money of his I spent!!”
“OMG! What did you get?? I can’t wait to see it!!”
“I got like $200 worth of stuff at the M.A.C. counter!”
“OMG! That’s fabulous!! I’m so jealous! What are you going to get next??”
“I want to get like this $300 dress and these $150 heels!! What do you think of these earrings??”
“OMG! Those are gorgeous!!”
“Make sure you don’t tell him!”
“I won’t. I told him it was for auto maintenance”
Notice that I didn’t say that women DO have a higher moral character, just that they are SUPPOSED TO….
Personally, I think women are the ones who cause and can fix the problems we have.
We clearly have all the control at the end of the day – we have what guys want.
Respect yourself, ladies. Act like a real woman, don’t lie, don’t cheat, don’t take advantage of people, don’t manipulate, don’t be self-centered.
Love people and it will come back to you the way you give it out.
If enough women did that, things would change.
We’re not lying. Auto maintenance: taking care of oneself
Well if I was told by my girlfriend/wife that my money she took was for car maintenance, I’ll ask her “What did you have done to it”?
Any guy would find out right away.
Hey, David
firstly I’d like to say you are the best. This is my first post on your board.
Yes, man do what men do best, however I believe to observe let it go because there are man that are classed good man out there.
We women are beautiful and wonderful sirens it would be nice to be chased and showered. If a woman gives that guy a piece of herself than thats her choice and good on her. Not encouraging here. Be yourself and treat your self with great pride and respect. Sex is sex and man can get it anywhere they can. Thats enough from me. Regards M
Auto maintenance isn’t anything to do with…. you know what.. forget about it.
sweet i with you your very sweet girl but i think your not satsfay not lack you marride guy he is must like you fill sweet you went your fill satesfay must you go africa