You know what I think about during sex?
Sometimes I think about how dominating I feel being inside her.
Sometimes I think about how powerful I am, and how much control I have over her orgasms.
Sometimes I have sex just to shut her up.
That’s right.
Sometimes I’m just tired of women talking. I don’t care about the drama in your day. I don’t care about the fight with your best friend. I don’t care about the person at work that’s jealous of you.
Sometimes you just talk way too much. So I just fuck you because I want you to shut up, and then after I’m done and you start talking again, I’ll just tell you to relax and ‘enjoy the moment.’
Other times, I like to talk dirty during sex. I like to whisper dirty things in your ear. I like to tell you what to do. Give you commands. Sometimes I like to do it because it makes me feel more powerful.
I never think about fantasies. I’m not a role player. I’m not the guy that thinks of picking you up in a bar and banging you on the street. Those types of things never got me off.
Usually it’s just something very animalistic. I either want you, desire you, or I don’t, or I just want you to shut up. It’s fun shutting you up with my dick.
It’s a power trip that I have.
But regardless of my reason for having sex at the moment, I’m always 100% present. If I’m having sex with a woman, even if I’m screwing her just to shut her up, I’m 100% connected to her. I’m not thinking about anything but what we’re feeling in that moment.
So now, let’s flip the switch. You know what I think about sometimes during sex, what do you think about? Do you ever just sleep with a guy just to shut him up because you don’t want to hear about his fantasy football league?
Do you ever sleep with a man just to shut him up? Do you think about other men?
Do you think about three-ways, do you think about girl-on-girl experiences?
What do you think about when you have sex?
I want to hear from you today.
David, will you ever come to Asia?
For me, I’m always in the moment. I want to be dominated and sometimes I want to be in charge. When I’m in charge, sometimes its because I’m pissed off at the guy for whatever reason I choose. I’ll be the one doing the fucking..this is my show. Sometimes I want to just be in charge to make him weak. Especially when his dick is in my throat..most satisfying to make them weak. But mostly I like to be dominated.. relinguish my body to him. He is in complete control. I may do role play in my mind sometimes but I never think of anyone else..he’s there with me the whole time. This is how my mind works.
Well it seams no one else is brave enough to speak up, so I will. What do I think about during sex?…omg…a million things. When I was with my husband (20ys), things were not very good, so my primary thought was usually….”god I wish his ego could handle me telling him this sucks.”…..“Please let it stay hard long enough”……“oh, that again? yawn” and “Please, oh god, please hurry up”…I think that explains my marriage. So yes, I have had sex to shut him up. To shut up his incessant whining about not getting enough, despite the fact I am covered in baby shit.
But now that I am single, I find many other things going thru my mind. I’m a woman, so of course there is always a self conscious thought or two zipping thru my brain. Like…”what does that face mean?”….”omg he thinks I’m fat” or “I hope he is enjoying this and I’m not the worst he’s ever had” But usually I am just thinking things like….”oh god I hope he is brave enough to take me like an animal, yet kind enough to not to take it too far”.
I always want to be a bit nastier than I want to be perceived and hope that my little clues are picked up on and he is man enough to take me where I secretly want to go, yet letting him be the man by not telling him. Sometimes I want Conan to drag me by my hair and toss me around, and other times I want to be caressed like an angel….and sometimes there is only a few seconds between those two desires. If only men COULD read my mind.
I often, too often unfortunately, have to wish that men’s ego’s, ie: hard ons, could handle a wee bit of instruction or guiding. I guess my fear is that if I speak my desires or discomfort, that his ego will think that I think he’s not good enough, big enough, thick enough or man enough….(what ever men’s neurosis’ are) and that it will end quicker than it started.
Sometimes I just want to get it on like donkey kong, and I don’t care if it’s a first date. Other times I hold back because I really don’t want to be treated like a woman who ‘can/will’ sleep with someone on the first date. So many men totally blow getting lucky because they treat me like I’m a sex object, when I am not acting like one. And I could have been that very thing for them, IF they had just treated me with respect and passion. Instead they turn me off and get booted out the door before they even knew what hit them in the ass.
Some men, but only a few, have the charisma and respect for me….. to take me right where I am DYING to go. Granted, now we are not really talking about forming relationships here….but even when we are….I am always DYING to have a real man take me “there”. I don’t mind being conquered when done with respect…but often I am the aggressor and I like that too. I like when a man plays a little hard to get….but teasing and goading me into taking HIM where HE wants to go.
I also love it when I can get him to think….that HE caused his idea to become my idea….so he can walk away feeling like he is so masculine and sexy that he caused a real “good girl” to go real, REAL bad. That is probably one of my favorites because I think it is obvious just how much I love the yin and yang of seduction. Nothing turns me on more than the tension of desire during that dance. So I hate it when men fuck it up by being so damn direct. I’m screaming in my head…”shut the fuck up and tease me you jack ass…and the world will be your oyster”.
But mostly, my hope, desire and thought, is to share myself fully, heart-soul-body and experience what my man has to share with me, be it for one night or a lifetime. Thinking about how good I can make him feel. Feel about me, what we are doing and feel about him self. And If I can get him to say out loud….”oh my fucking GOD”, as if he has died and gone to heaven…..I feel like I’ve won the Olympics and I can fly and let loose even more. I’m always hoping he will be vocal with his pleasure, because it fuels my bravado and I get REALLY into it. And then all I am thinking is “yes, Yes….YES”
I love to tease my man, and do little things to make myself irresistible, so Conan HAS no choice but to drag me back to his cave and blow my fucking mind!
~S~
Oh my gosh Shelly, your thoughts during sex while married were SO much like mine! My goodness, and his ego would NEVER be able to handle the truth. After I got divorced and found someone to be with that I really, really liked, during sex I only thought about how good I can make him feel, and how good he was making me feel…the best ever.
Unfortunately, after 8 months together he passed away suddenly, so now, 5 1/2 months later I’m finding myself almost ready to get out there again and I just don’t know about all this dating again.
Giving a blow job is the ultimate power trip for me. None of the men I’ve been with has ever resisted it.
Just to watch how they let go and relax (yes, men lead/dominate sex most of the time) makes you realize how much power you wield at the tip of your mouth.
Once, an f-buddy wasn’t in the mood for sex, so I went down on him. He tried to resist it, just to give away after a minute of licking. I left him so boiling hot that he didnt think it twice when I told him to f*ck me.
What do I think about during sex? I think about being fully pleasured..and focusing on feeling every sensation in my body and just melting completely into my guy..
I’m with you, Nathalie.
Pam <3
very erotic moment
Men forget everything and he looks only our facial expression.
Yes! I agree with your answer Nathalie. I just enjoy the moment and feels every sensation I felt while he kiss and plays into my body. I never think of anything but I just response his needs and it makes our sex very happy.