Want to trip out a little bit?
I just did an interview with a friend of mine, Christine, who’s also a coach. And our conversation sparked a thought: what if you’ve already met the person you’re supposed to be with?
What if you’ve already crossed paths with them? What if they’re somebody in your life right now that you haven’t yet realized is the right one for you?
Maybe they were dating a friend of yours. Maybe there was an attraction between the two of you regardless. And maybe you just weren’t ready for that.
It’s really interesting to look at life and think to yourself, have I already met the man of my dreams? Think about it. Think about all the men that have passed through your life, whether they ended up being intimate relationships or just friendships or neither.
Think back to a past date that you went on where you were so attracted to the guy but yet were so afraid to act upon that attraction. Maybe he was the same exact same way and neither of you ever talked again. Maybe he was a guy that you really liked and when his shyness kept him from calling, you decided to take it as a form of rejection and you never called him either. And he might have really liked you too and just thought you weren’t interested in him—all because you both were afraid to act on your passion.
Think back on all the people you’ve met in your life and ask yourself: did you already meet somebody great but weren’t ready for it? I think the answer you’re going to find is “yes.”
And here’s the deal: I don’t ever want you to miss an opportunity again, ever. I want you to be so prepared emotionally, mentally and physically for that great man to come into your life, that you two can’t help but connect when you meet.
The only way you can be prepared is by writing out what your ideal man and ideal relationship look like in a relationship journal. If you don’t have one—create one. This is what I advise every woman to do. If you do this, you’re going to find him. You’ll find him because you’ll know exactly who he is when you meet him (thanks to your relationship journal). And you’ll have the confidence to act on your passion because you’re not the kind of woman that would let the right one just walk on by.
Yes! I see tons of my dream man/men heee heee all day long, everyday! but how am I supposed to stop them when they’re driving by in their car?!?! lol
What if what we think we’re looking for isn’t what we’re really looking for or want but we’ll never know what those things are! lol How are we supposed to know what we’re looking for? lol And then you hear things about relationships like, “the thing that you love about someone will become the thing that you hate.” :O lol Should we then find people with things that we hate so that those things will turn into things that we love? lol just kidding! lol
I used to think “I HATE it when guys are so last minute!!” and it felt really disrespectful and like they say, if he’s like that, he’s not really interested! So then I looked for guys who planned dates ahead of time and then I was like, “Ugh…I don’t like guys like this! lol It seems so effeminate! I want a guy who’s fast and forceful!” lol But that’s not good, either! lol
There are lots of guys that I just click with and that it’s easy (like they say it’s supposed to be!) but I can’t tell what it is that they all have in common that makes that easiness so that I don’t have to ever have to go through the ones where it’s not that way….ever again! lol What is that? It doesn’t seem like it’s the same thing as chemistry! How do you SEE compatibility by just looking at guys? lol
Very much attracted to a nice fella who lives with his long-term girlfriend. There is attraction between the two of us – we can’t seem to break eye contact at times. sigh…
He once told me that he had meetings at my office building. I said nothing. I wanted to scream come and see me but I wasn’t sure if he had time to do that.
What if it’s an ex and he’s dating someone else? There is someone in my life that I think is “The One” and I don’t want him to get away forever. We dated 9 months and then he ended things and started dating someone else. It’s been almost 5 months since the breakup and since he got with the new girl. He didn’t exactly break up with me for her. He broke up with me because we had a fight about her and he wanted his “freedom” and then they started dating but I think it was less “I want freedom from her so I can date her” and more he wanted freedom to do what he wanted…this girl was a friend and then became something more and it just happened to happen right after we broke up. Anyways should I go for him one more time? Because I figure if he is “The One” then he’ll take the bait regardless and if not then it’s time to move on.