Those of you who are above a certain age will probably remember the great Simon And Garfunkel song, “The Sound Of Silence.”

I was thinking about it the other day, and realized how much it relates to dating. You connect with a man, you go out with him, things are going well, and suddenly he never calls you again. “It’s like the sound of silence.”

But today we call it, the crickets!

How many times have you been out with a guy, there’s so much chemistry between you, and you feel fantastic. Then without warning, he vanishes. No explanation and no goodbye. It’s like he was abducted by aliens and whisked off to another planet. All you hear is the sound of crickets chirping. Then a week later you’re out with friends trying to figure out what happened to the guy. “Did he meet someone else? Did I push him away? Is he married?”

You want to know what went wrong. Why isn’t he answering your texts? If it’s over fine, but at least let you know why right? You’re a woman and women always want an answer. It’s your natural need for conclusion. You’re curious and you want an answer.

It doesn’t make sense. The chemistry was there, and now you’re left with nothing but the sound of chirping crickets. For weeks and weeks you talk things over with your friends. How long can the post-mortem carry on? It’s been nearly two months since you last heard from the guy!

Eventually one of your friends comes up with the greatest answer in the entire world. Or at least an answer you can all agree makes some sense. THAT’S why he hasn’t called. Now you can move on and carry on with your life. But you see, in the weeks you’ve wasted trying to figure all this out you could have been meeting other guys.

You could have run into the man of your dreams!

Let me save you a lot of time and frustration. The minute you haven’t heard from a guy and the crickets start chirping, I’ll tell you why…

He hasn’t called…

Because he’s somewhere else!

When a man is interested in you he’s going to call you. When a man has chemistry with you he’s going to want to see you, and he won’t allow the crickets to take over your relationship. When the crickets come, the man is done!

I’m going to repeat that and I want you to remember it. When the crickets come, the man is done. It’s like a little kids song isn’t it. Let’s say it again. When the crickets come, the man is done. So, spending weeks talking about it, worrying about it, and trying to figure it all out is nothing but a waste of time. Because during all that wasted time, you could be talking to other men, you could be connecting with other men, and you could be having fun.

There are tons of other men who’d love to meet you, but you’re missing them because you’re trying to deal with the cricket guy. When the crickets come, the man is done!

Write it down in your diary. Write it on your forehead, or write it on that little notepad on your refrigerator. It’s time to move on when the crickets move in!