I want to ask you a question.
Why do women let this happen to them over and over again?
The scenario:
You don’t get many dates.
You finally find a guy that you really like.
You start seeing him.
Everything is going great. You start having sex.
You start to get emotionally invested in him.
He looks at you and says, “I can’t see you on Friday night.”
And up until then you had been hanging out every Friday night. But for some reason or another, this Friday night he tells you that he can’t see you.
He tells you he’s got some friends in from out of town and he wants to go and hang with them.
You immediately get inside your head and you start thinking, “He’s cheating.”
Are you like this woman?
If so you’ve got to realize that you’re a mirror, and that’s what life is all about.
You don’t get a lot of dates. Then again, a lot of people don’t get a lot of dates. You met a man who probably doesn’t get a lot of dates either.
He’s very happy and content with you but needs a boys night out.
Doesn’t matter how old he is. Men will constantly need the boys night out.
He calls you on Friday and tells you he’ll see you Saturday night. He wishes you a good night, and that’s it.
You know what he hates?
He hates when you text him incessantly throughout the evening.
See, when he had a boys night out, you decided it was girls night out. And during the girls night out, you do what most women do: you do the relationship recap from hell.
Your best friends says that he’s probably cheating on you.
He probably has another girl coming in from out of town.
She feeds your head. It makes you paranoid. And the next thing you know, you’re spending the night testing him.
How are you? (Starts out innocently.)
He ignored the text. He’s out with his friends. He may have his phone deep in his pocket. He may not have even noticed it. Then all of a sudden, you turn to your friends and after an hour say, “He never ever ever waits an hour before texting me.”
So you send him another one, as your friends tell you to do so.
What’s up, how’s your night? Any hot girls you’re flirting with?
Oops, you couldn’t resist. And there it goes. You showed that you’re jealous and you don’t trust him.
And that’s what he hates.
When a man has a man’s night out, embrace it. Send him one text and say:
Hey babe, enjoy your night. See you tomorrow. Thinking of you.
That’s it.
Then at the end of the night, you never heard from him, before you go to bed, say:
About to check myself into this big warm bed. Wish you were next to me.
That’s it. You want to intrigue him, wish him well, and know that the invitation to snuggle with you is there.
He wants the cool girl.
You do this and he’ll talk about how cool you are all night instead of, “Geez guys, you should’ve seen it. She sent me 30 texts! Straight blew up my phone.”
But what about the guy who doesn’t text you back for days upon days?! Just wondering. But I’m sure I have been guilty of something similar to that scenario.
The guy is just not that into you then.
LOL! This scenario is so true! I see girls doing that all the time.
David wrote
“You know what he hates?
He hates when you text him incessantly throughout the evening.”
I concur. Nobody wants a woman who is constantly insecure, who is so high-maintenance (needs so much feeding and grooming) that he cannot have a little space to himself at whatever time is appropriate for him.
If he is being dismissive of you or ignoring you or whatever that’s bad and he should not be doing that, but there is some sort of line that can be crossed where you go from legitimately expressing your needs to “being needy.”
And “being needy” is like being a ball-and-chain. Confidence is very sexy.
Dorothy,
If he’s a regular “texter” then that’s bad, but some people, male or female, just never get in to the text thing.
What if u just broke up & you decided to have space but he still wants constant communication then when you give that to him he kinda ignore your texts?