sex relationshipsHere is a wake up call to all of you women. Just because you have sex with man doesn’t mean he’s planning on putting a ring around your finger. Sex doesn’t equal a relationship. What I love about today’s modern world is that everything is documented. Every flirting session….

Every date…

Every conversation documented, via text, for future generations.  So how do you make sure you don’t fall into the trap of falling for a guy who just wants you for sex?

You Aren’t Listening To Him Before You Take Your Clothes Off

Why is it such a shock when a guy tells you he doesn’t want a relationship?

Did you read the text he sent you?

Didn’t you see how quickly your relationship became about sex?

Do you think the guy who immediately started sending you semi-naked pictures and dirty texts is looking to walk down the aisle with you?

A lot of you love to have sex, yet immediately after, there’s this built in guilt trip.  All of a sudden, even if you don’t want a relationship with this guy, you immediately become committed obsessed.

You Don’t Know What Sex Really Means

You don’t understand it yourself. Sex is just a consensual act between two adults. Yet, you always seem to have some type of after-effects. They’re like seismic earthquakes that cause ridiculous amounts of guilt, pain, and expectations.

You’re talking to some of your friends who are telling you not to be such a slut. They tell you this guy isn’t interested in anything but your body, but you like sex. “I’m enjoying this sexual relationship,” you tell yourself.  In reality you’re enjoying your body. The physical act of sex is not a relationship.

You’re Confusing Sex with Love

It’s easy to mix romantic feelings with sexual desires. You can’t be closer to someone then when they’re inside of you.Your heart instantly forms a link with this person. It tricks you into thinking this is love. Endorphins are released and for a while you feel so happy.

However, as those endorphins wear off you start to realize this relationship is only sex and you begin to feel guilty. Not because of the sex, but because you want more. Doesn’t matter how you feel about the guy. Maybe you do have feeling and you think this is the one. Perhaps it’s just the sex, but the reaction is the same because the want is the same.

Even if the man has been up front and honest with you about what he was expecting out of the relationship. Even if he’s told you point blank, “This is only sex.” You’ll guilt trip him because you want more.  Here’s the simple solution, stop sleeping around. Don’t stop because of morals or whatever other bullshit. I don’t care how many sexual partners you’ve had. Doesn’t matter. You should stop sleeping around because you’re not getting what you want; a relationship.

If you’re horny buy a vibrator. You can buy them online, they’re inexpensive, and they come in regular brown boxes so none of your nosy neighbors will know. If you want a relationship, you’re going to have to work for one. You’ve realized how easy it is to get a man to sleep with you. Every man is programed for sex. They don’t need feelings or cuddling, they’re just looking to get off. It’s how they’re programed.

If you give them sex, they will take it. The next time you have sex with somebody – take a look at the text message history between the two of you. Was this guy texting you naughty things right from the get go?

This guy is not looking for a relationship.  He is looking to get into your pants.  Or is this guy flirting with you?

Has he explicitly said he’s looking for a relationship?

Is he trying to get to know everything and anything about you?

That’s the guy that will deliver the promise ring. But I can’t believe that every single time people have sex, there is still this grey area that they haven’t considered.  If you only want sex don’t confuse things. Just sleep over. Let it just be sex. Don’t go on dates; don’t let yourself fall in love.

If you want clarity with a man before you decide to spread your legs, open up your heart, open up your soul, and allow this guy to enter, then ask him what he is looking for point blank. Don’t forget you can look at the text history to see what he wants.  Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time.