My favorite topic to talk about lately is love.

I spent a lot of the first part of my career talking about meeting and greeting and all that other stuff. But now? Now I’m talking about love.

I truly believe that when we leave this planet, whenever that time is, the last thing we are going to think about is how much love we had in our life.

How much love we have with our kids. How much love we have with our partners, and friends, and whoever else.

But many of us, when it comes to love, are afraid to express what we really need, want and desire.

I had a free weekend. I planned it out accordingly.

I had dinner with my friend Kim on Friday night.

I met with a client for a couple hours in the afternoon on Saturday. I went to go finish a book I am working on and I went to go eat. In the middle of all that, I spoke with another client on the phone.

One of the things I said to her was don’t be so afraid to express what you need in a love relationship.love_blueprint

I’ve written about this a lot and I would like to talk about it again because love is a blueprint. Once you’ve figured out your own blueprint, you’re able to present it to somebody else. It really is that simple.

I was talking to this woman on the phone. She’s wonderful. She’s deep. She has a great voice. I enjoyed connecting with her and I enjoyed giving her the little push and shove that I think she needed.

Love is a blueprint and a lot of the time we make lists of what we want. We have a list of what we want in love. We have a list of what we want in our partner.

So I gave her an exercise that I have all my private clients do. It’s an exercise I have in the Love Blueprint program. It’s one that I’m going to tell you about today.

I want you to write down the man you want to experience and feel. I want you to write down everything about how it feels.

I’ve mentioned this before, I’m going to mention it again.

I want you to write it down.

I want you to write down exactly how you want to feel in his presence. I want you to write down how it’s going to feel to be in love with him.

I want you to write down how it feels to be loved by him.

I want you to write down how it feels to make love with him.

How you feel in his presence, all that great stuff.

Then, what I want you to read it out loud to yourself.

If you don’t emotionally and physically turn yourself on, if you don’t feel all warm and flushed inside, if you don’t get physically excited, then you need to write it again and again until you do.

Here’s what happens when we’re searching for love: for some reason or another we’ve been programmed all along that love is something that should be difficult.

Love is something that should be something full of compromises.

Love is something that should be hard work.

Love doesn’t need to be that difficult, that hard. Love is easy, love should flow, love should be effortless. Love should be something that you enjoy working on.

It’s a project. Call it Project Love.

When you meet somebody, there are going to be challenges. There are going to be differences. But you know what, you’re so committed to Project Love, that it doesn’t matter what the challenges are.

You welcome the challenges.

You know there will be differences of opinions. You know you’ll have needs and desires that are different. But learning about each other, looking at it as Project Love together, well, that could be awesome.

It’s the way that you speak to your spouse. It’s the way you speak to the universe. It’s the way you speak to everything. It’s the way you will be able to have a loving relationship.

We all have a blueprint.

A blueprint that defines what we need, want, and desire. And if we’re able to have this loving communication with another person, and we share in this Project Love together, then that is exactly what the relationship will be about.

One woman recently said to me that she’s so frustrated. She’s frustrated because the man she’s with doesn’t really want what she wants. He says he does, but his actions don’t support his words.

She even told him that she was falling in love with him. He didn’t say anything back. She said she’s okay with that, but deep down, she’s not.

She’s afraid to talk. To talk about her blueprint.

You need to be able to talk about your unique blueprint.

Love is give and take.

Every single day when we wake up in the morning, we need to look at our partner and say how can I serve you today? How can I love you? How can I make you feel desired, wanted, loved? How can I make you feel absolutely amazing?

That’s what we need to do when it comes to love. Otherwise, we’re going to frustrate each other. We’re going to frustrate each other nonstop.

Love is a blueprint. Find your blueprint, share it and discover your partner’s blueprint.

Then, dive into this Project Love.