How many of you are outcome-oriented in your search for love?
How many of you envision what love is supposed to be?
Maybe you’re supposed to be a wife and a mother and have the perfect family.
Then again…maybe not.
I’ve been working on a new book about Online Dating and have spent a lot of time over the last couple of weeks just reading a lot of online profiles. I just really wanted to read these profiles because I wanted to read and see what people’s quest for love is.
Here’s the deal with love. Love is never what you think it’s supposed to be. Love has no outcome.
When you set goals for love, it never seems to work out the way you want it to. It’s because you’re not present in the moment. It’s funny how many women I run into in their mid-30s to early 40s that so desperately want to have a family.
My heart goes out to them. I feel that they deserve a family and should have one of they desire.
But maybe, just maybe, whatever/whomever you believe in—God, the universe, whatever it might be—does not have that in the plans for you. Maybe this so called plan inside your head that you so badly want, won’t materialize because the universe has a whole other plan for you.
See love is about waking up every single morning and loving yourself for who you are and giving love to others unconditionally in every way, shape and form.
Love is not a game that we’re playing. Love is not something that we can manipulate.
Love is something that if you give it every single day, may end up circling back and giving you the greatest love affair of your entire life.
The most important lesson in life is that love doesn’t exist in your head. And I think most people are too much in their heads about love.
They want something. They say they want it in their heart but they really want it in their head. They have a vision of what life should be, what love should be.
But to love from your heart is to open your heart to the possibility of anything happening.
You may want a family so badly, but meet somebody who doesn’t want that. And the two of you may fall in love deeper than you’ve ever imagined. And you may travel the world and work at all these orphanages and give love to everybody.
What I ask everybody to do is to stop becoming so outcome-oriented about love, and just start loving.
Love every single day. Love people for who they are and what they’re all about.