It’s funny, I spent my first week here in Hawaii and I haven’t laid down once.
Maybe 20 minutes here, 20 minutes there, but not for any extended period of time at all, have I been “relaxing”.
I just really enjoy walking around, talking to people, checking people out, having short conversations, looking around, seeing all the different hotels, all the different sensations, all the many different sides to the ocean, talking to people in different hotels.
I just walked and took in nature. I can’t even sit still. I know it’s beautiful and it’s great to just lie there and relax, but I want to be able to take this place in.
I love to walk and experience the things that are around me.
So what’s your takeaway from this?
Most women will sit back, wait for the man to approach, wait for him to come over, wait for him to do everything.
You’re not aware of your surroundings at all. You don’t even notice him half the time. And if you did notice him, you wouldn’t give him any love—no smile, or anything. You basically just wait.
So you wait for him to come over. How long have you been waiting?
If some of you are 25, and you started liking guys at 15, then you’ve been waiting 10 years. Let’s say your 45, and started liking guys at 15; you’ve been waiting 30 years.
You get the math.
Let’s be blunt here: how long are you going to kick back and wait? How long are you going to wait for him to approach? Isn’t it time you started making yourself more open, more aware, more in touch with everything that you are?
It’s time to take it all in, because then you’ll stop looking down when a man walks over and you’ll start smiling, unleashing that sexuality, unleashing the beauty of who you are as a woman.
You’re a sensual, beautiful, sexual being, that’s not afraid of her feelings. If you live from this understanding, you’re going to start seeing new things happen in your life.
You’re going to see men and you won’t be afraid to turn on your sensuality.
And you’re going to start getting asked out.
Drop your old habits and get new men. Not a bad trade right?
It’s so true that when you are open up and be comfortable with everything and everybody around you, then you become more attractive to people and yourself. It’s a valuable lesson I learned this year and it transformed me. Thanks David.
Check your arithmetic. 45 – 15 = 35?
I used to get very frustrated with friends, who I believed did nothing to get men approach.
It was only recently that I realised that I wasn’t smiling or talking with them to encourage them to come on over. I was more angry with myself.
This is absolutely correct. It isn’t the 50s anymore and most men won’t approach unless you give them a friendly reason to do so.
Which words to I use to search your other blog to check and see if you’ve already written an article on tips that help you multitask with dating? You’re exceptional at multitasking but I don’t have that. I just focus on one thing at a time and I need to focus on my work so I’m going to ignore dating but I did that for years and it doesn’t really get me anywhere when it comes to dating!
When I focus on something that’s really important like my work is right now, I shut out everything else. Some people are just natural at multitasking so I thought maybe I would ask them!
p.s. I made an online dating profile that was just written from my heart (not a fun one unfortunately because I want to be taken seriously but I made the headline a trick question that’s a joke but no guys will get it!) and while most guys don’t read it, I love it!
correction- Which words *do* I use to search your other blog to check and see if you’ve already written an article on tips that help you multitask with dating?
I don’t have time for online daters anyway or the b.s. that they pull!
I learned A LOT focusing on dating/meeting people though! I wouldn’t have guessed before that when a guy says, “I like to go out to eat” that this really means, “Looking for a girl who cooks for me”! Before I would have thought, “Oh yay! We get to always go out to eat!” because when my mom says that she really means that and we get to always go out to eat!
and I got this one $400 dating course and it taught us that we need to have a facepaced busy successful lifestyle! Uhhhh….why do you think that we are in this predicament in the 1st place?? because we have all the time in the world to go out and meet people?!?!
*fast-paced*
and then their next piece of advice: “do not go out on a date and try to impress him with your fast-paced busy successful lifestyle. He’ll be turned off by competition and it comes off as masculine”. Then why again are we supposed to have it?!?!
We’re not!
I’m going to be thinking about this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&feature=endscreen&v=h6pHXPPWQI4 while I’m waiting the rest of my life for them to approach!
I looked up all of the popular girls that I went to school with and they all settled for rich guys when they could get any hot guy they want. I would shoot myself if I ended up with any of those guys and they look like they are about to shoot themselves! Thank God they finally got punished for the misery that they put me through!
They all went to the best colleges and they became…nothing. What?!?!
We went for the same trophy wife future goal but now I don’t have to feel bad that I didn’t waste my time in college.
They are all still picture fake perfect with new perfect gorgeous kids that they cut off half of the kids face off in their pictures…
I wish I could have stalked them back then and seen that they’re all home eating grass and counting weight watchers points while putting anyone in their site down
I can’t find any of my friends who were the real sweet girls! There are a billion other girls with all of their names! I’m sure they got good guys! It would be neat to see who!
My evil aunt did that. She went to the best college and law school in the country, became a lawyer, used none of it, became a school teacher and now she’s just a full time alcoholic!
You really do attract what you are. I thought my mom was the kindest person when I was growing up and I kept thinking how could she end up with this nutball that she married and although she says he changed, I’ve now seen that they are sadistic twins! She’s not the kind person that I thought she was! So although no guy will want me because guys don’t like the good girls they want the stupid challenge, I don’t have time for that crap and I’m just going to be the boring good girl (who writes mean things online! jk! I’m joking in all of it! but if those rich guys that the popular girls married are great, why are they a mile away from their wife in their pictures or look like they don’t want to be touching her- oh wait- they are great guys! Who would want to touch them?)
I’ll check back on them again in another 10 years…this time over on Ashley Madison!
I’m pathetic! I’m the only one not married! I’m just going to say I’m a lesbian! They’ll be like, “you seemed really close with that one girl friend of yours”
“The only one who was sleeping with guys in 6th grade?”
“yeah”
I’ll still be single in 10 years! I’ll be back here going, “I’ve been sitting back and waiting for them to approach. They’re only still looking for sex.”
My ideal place to meet guys is the gym but I only meet gay guys there. Ballet…dance…makeup…only gay guys. Which is fine but I shouldn’t expect a proposal.
The pops told me that I was fat and that I had anorexia. Get your stories straight beeches! Aren’t you supposed to be counting weight watchers points?
I remember seeing this when it first aired! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PefdHNnDuv4
that’s the only good part of having to live with someone who blasts the tv 24/7 so that they can replicate the chaos of growing up in nyc!
Ugh potatoes are so fattening! I don’t want to eat them! Dr says everything needs to be injected so I need hyaluronic acid injections!
that’s so true what the can you dig it girl says about coconut oil gets rid of wrinkles but only nutiva’s works
that’s the good part about working for a doctor is you read all of these medical studies that say the opposite of what pop magazines tell everyone
What I have learned about guys so far:
they are only interested in looks…oh wait there is one other thing that they are interested in…no wait no there’s not.
Posh Posh Posh guys want posh girls. If you want the most gorgeous guys, think Posh Spice. I don’t want the most gorgeous guys or to be Posh Spice, though. not my style. I wish I knew what type of guys are into me it would help a lot. Seems like ones who wear pink shirts. ooh wow we’re matching! We’re both wearing pink!
It takes you to stare at guys for them to get it through that you’re interested. The type of staring that women teach is rude!
That’s all that I’ve learned so far!
I want this song at my wedding http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLvdjg2IxBk&feature=endscreen&NR=1
I hope it doesn’t have bad karma associated with it
and this song at my honeymoon http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPqPpng9Fok&feature=related
Wow! and Wow! again, we are on this beautiful planet and there is so much hype about finding the right guy. just want to say there are lots of guys out there who are looking for genuine reason like I am looking for someone. I have met a few online and agree with what David says, there are so many – you have to keep away from. Q why do married man go looking for singles – especially when they are comfortable with children and a mortgage and properties etc. I believe I will meet the right guy soon and iam looking with my head held high. For those still looking, don’t give up. Regards M
So all of this that you are saying is to help out men? help your own species? U want us to do all the work…they will all get lazy, and never want to do anything by themselfs…is more grantfull to do thigns by your own effort, than just to sit out and wait, for her to do it…so lame!!!