You know what’s missing in so many people’s lives?
Love.
So many people are just not present.
They go out and they date with expectations.
It’s always about expectations.
I want to be careful what I say to this person because I want a relationship with them.
I want to make sure that I don’t expose a lot about myself, so I don’t ruin it.
When you date like that, you’re basically dating safe. And when you date safe you’re not being present and you’re not having the feeling of being in love for the day.
When you let go and have no expectations, you become 100% present. This is to say that every moment of the day you’re there. You’re with that person. You’re enjoying that person. You’re not thinking about tomorrow or the next day or where the relationship is going.
You settle down and have an amazing time with that person, whatever you’re doing.
And it’s all about love. That’s what life is all about. It’s about loving your life, loving the moment, loving the person that you’re with and not expecting anything. Because when you don’t expect anything, you actually get everything in life.
Life is just an energetic flow; that’s all it is. Everything in life happens for a reason.
Everything.
Everything you do, everything you say has a cause and effect. That cause and effect is what’s going to change your entire life.
I don’t expect anything when I’m with a friend, when I’m with a woman, when I’m with my daughter—whoever I’m with.
All I’m about being in love with the moment.
And that’s a beautiful thing.
You cannot have said it plainer David.
I just came back home from vacations, where I had no expectation other than to enjoy myself and I ended up meeting such amazing people!
If you feel good with yourself, people are going to notice that energy and want to hang around you.
I’ve noticed that I seem to attract happy positive people whem I’m on holiday. I act like a child at times and people seem to want to join in with me.
I need to keep energy alive once I return home!!!!
I think that women are really bad for worrying where the relationship is going after a small chat with a boy and also after one date……
Hello David,
I want to thank you for helping us find love. I listen to your tapes and read your blog. I opened my eyes and became aware of my surroundings. I stopped the inner tapes that were playing in my head. Reading your book Naked was a bonus. I found myself meeting wonderful guys that I could share incredible moments. Last Friday, I was going out with my girlfriends. I had no expectation of meeting someone. I wasn’t nervous for I knew I’m a great catch. My friends and I went to the Farmers Market to listen to the band. I wasn’t even aware I caught someone eyes until I looked around. At that moment, our eyes met. I glanced his way three times and he came over. WOW! I couldn’t believe it work. Then we made cute remarks. I didn’t do the fifty questions. We went out the next day. We didn’t realize we were neighbors. Our kids go to the same school. Both of our families are from back east, the same town. Our date lasted the whole weekend without any sex involved. By Monday, he ask me to be his girlfriend. I’m glad I took every opportunity that was presented, in front of me, to meet men every day. I had a chance to date different types of men. So when I finally met him, I knew he was the one. There was no fear or doubts in my head. Taking it one day at a time. Enjoying every small moment. Its nice to share it with someone.
Jennifer, thank you so much for sharing your experience and for letting us know that it works. I hope to make it happen for myself very soon; I read both of David’s blogs and subscribe to his newsletter but I still need to request Naked from the library…I am going to do that right now!
Yes, be yourself ladies but I certainly wish men would take this advice as well. They act a certain way to get sex, and they can be quite charming for weeks and even months. When they feel secure, the truth comes out. This is no way to keep a relationship going.
There’s someone out there for everyone, even sociopaths! Just fly your freak flag right from the very beginning.