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The Plain Dealer
March 16, 2005
This is not a time of subtlety or indirectness. The reigning guide on dating, “He’s Just Not That Into You,” tells readers that if a guy is wearing his heart anywhere but on his sleeve, they should keep looking.
David Wygant takes this philosophy of eschewing games and mixed signals and applies them to the first stage of dating – meeting new people. Instead of waiting around for love to happen, Wygant says people need to be more direct and make it happen.
His strategy begins with a rather expensive physical makeover. Once the recommended wardrobe is purchased, the gym membership is paid for, and the hairstylist is tipped, some readers won’t have money left over to go on a date.
But if a mental makeover will suffice, then Wygant can help. In one section, he writes about following a friend around for a day, noting all of the opportunities she missed to connect with people who were paying attention to her. It’s in these random meetings that love can be found if we stop leaving it to chance and put ourselves out there, Wygant says.
As the title suggests, Wygant advises starting conversations with strangers in nonpick-up ways. In some cases, the icebreakers are natural and nonthreatening. In others, they are freakishly overfriendly.
But knowing the alternative is to never again see this person, perhaps a little pluck will prove to be worth the risk.
Pam Lilley Special to The Plain Dealer |
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