Before a big fight, a boxer’s manager gives him a pep talk to pump him up and motivate him for the fight. Before and during a big football game, the coach is there to get the team fired up, believing in themselves and ready to kick ass. Why should you be any different?

I’ve said so many times before, when it comes to confidence, charisma, and self-esteem, it all starts from within you. How you feel about yourself is everything. How you feel about yourself dictates the image you show the world. If you think you’re short and ugly, you’re going to walk around with your shoulders hunched and your head down. If a woman smiles at you, you’re going to think she’s just being friendly, because “there’s no way she’s ever be interested in a guy like me.”

If you walk around thinking you’re not good enough, or that you can’t do something, that’s the result you’ll get. I remember reading about an experiment some researchers did with some school kids a while back. They split them into two groups and gave them a math equation to answer. They told one group that it was a pretty easy equation to work out and to just take their time. The second group was told it was one of the most impossible sums in the world to figure out, and that they shouldn’t worry if they couldn’t do it.

Guess what happened?

Of course, 14 out of 20 kids who were told the equation was easy managed to get the answer right, where only 7 of the other group got it right. Why? Because they already believed it was impossible, and had an excuse not to get it right. It’s the same when you tell yourself you can’t talk to women, or when you tell yourself that “all the other guys get the girls I want.”

How Do You Learn Confidence And Charisma?

It all starts from within you, and it’s all down to learning the art of self love. Unless you love yourself, you make it impossible for anyone else to love you either. Today, I’m going to give you a very simple mantra and a set of steps to work through each day. They’re stupidly simple and take seconds to do, so don’t use time as an excuse. I’m telling you right now, if you start your day with some self love, and appreciation, the way you feel about yourself will change, and your confidence will sore. You need to become your own coach. You need to become your own motivator. You need to become your own best friend.

I can give you all the dating advice and confidence tips in the world. I’m more than happy to be your coach, but I can’t follow you all around everywhere you go, and you have to do some of the work yourself. Check out the video below, and from tomorrow I want you going through the simple routine I show you. It’ll be very interesting to see how the comments develop over the coming weeks. Come back and let us know how you’re getting on. Let’s start getting some serious results.