My friend and I were out.

We went to this restaurant in Culver City and we had a great time flirting and talking to the waitress.

She was absolutely adorable and vivacious. She was an amazing girl.

She even knew Fantasy Football. She was a sports fan. She is the type of girl that if you met her, you’d want to take her out.

I enjoyed every minute of connecting with her. Then, as we were about to leave, she started telling us about her boyfriend.

And I said boyfriend? Ugh, man, all the good ones are taken.

I said tell me about your boyfriend. Where did you meet him?

She said OkCupid.

I started laughing. I said OkCupid. Really, what was it? What was it about him?

She then described her profile. She had a Wonder Woman outfit on in one of her photos. She showed a little skin, but not a lot of skin, but you could tell she has a good body.

I said, I wrote you.

I remember that picture because I remember thinking you were classy. You were showing just enough skin but not a lot of skin. I literally repeated exactly what she said in her profile because I remembered her to a T.

She said, Well, I probably didn’t email you back because you are a single dad. You’re a dad. At that time, I wasn’t dating people with kids. 

I get it. It’s fine.

More importantly, what was it about your boyfriend that made you feel the zing?

Zing is that connection you feel when you go and meet someone and you feel that spark, that something. I call it zing, other people call it chemistry.

Anyway, she said to me, He was just really a man.

I said, describe that to me. What do you mean by really a man? 

She said, he just went after it. He wrote me and he said, I love the Wonder Woman costume. I’d like to get to know you, what’s your number?

She said yes, because he had balls.

I said, you know what, that’s what I tell men to do all the time, have balls. 

There really is no competition out there because most men play it passively. Most men walk around like they’re trying to protect themselves, but he had balls.

And that’s what it takes to get a girl.

It takes balls.

Every day, you’ve got to put your balls out there on the line. You can’t be afraid. You can’t be afraid of rejection. You can’t be afraid of not wanting her, or her not wanting you.

I said, anything else? She said, yeah, I almost didn’t go out with him.

I was kind of liking somebody else at the time. 

I wrote him back and told him that I was kind of liking somebody else, and he wrote back and said no, no, no. I’m not going to take no for an answer. I want to meet you even if we end up just being friends. 

 He said I want to meet you. There’s something about you that I need to get to know.confident-guy

She went out with him and the rest is history.

He’s her boyfriend. She’s happy as can be and she’s an awesome girl. You would want to date her. She’s cute, adorable and fun.

I’d date her. She was that good.

The point here is that he put it on the line.

That’s what all of you need to do. You need to stop thinking and stop overthinking and stop analyzing and stop over analyzing.

You need to put it on the line.

You need to look at a woman and you need to tell her I like you, I want to get to know you. She may run, she may get scared, but who the fuck cares.

In life, when you walk around and you’re afraid to fucking put it out there, and you walk around like a male pussy, you’re never going to get the thing you want the most.

You’re never going to get the amazing girl.

Man, she was amazing. What a great person to connect with. When I left her I said, I want you to tell your boyfriend that he got an amazing one.

She smiled. I said, I mean it. You’re an amazing girl. It’s been great to meet you.

Go for it guys.