So you met a girl.

She is amazing. Well at least in your mind you think she’s amazing. You haven’t gotten to know her yet.

You start to think to yourself, what do I do, where do I meet her, where do I take her?

It’s not where you take her. It’s not what you do. It’s about having a plan.

I’m going to tell a story about Bill.

Bill emailed me.

The email went something like this.

David, I met this amazing woman. Her name is Amy.

We met. We had a long dinner. It was so cool. We were talking about everything and I feel so comfortable around her.   

The hours passed by. We didn’t want to leave. But finally we had to.

I couldn’t wait to see her again, so I texted her the next day and said I’ve got to see you tomorrow.  

She agreed.

I woke up that morning and was trying to think of what to do with her. I came up with an idea, but it didn’t work out, the activity was all sold out.

So I just picked her up and I had no plan. I said, where do you want to go eat? Later that night, after dinner, she looked at me and said, you know, I work all day, I’m busy, I don’t want to think about dinner. I just want you to make a plan.

I cowered. I felt upset. She looked at me and smiled and said it’s okay. Now you know something about me.  

Did I screw up? 

Bill.

Bill, you didn’t screw up at all. As a matter of fact, you met a very cool woman, and she’s telling you what she likes.

Women like to have a plan, or they like it when you have a plan. It shows them you put some thought into it. The problem is, men tend to wing it. We’ll walk five extra blocks, we’ll drive an extra mile. We’ll look around, if one place has a line, we’ll go to another place.

We don’t care, we’re men. We’ve already been snacking throughout the day, so we can wait an hour to eat.

A woman can’t. A woman wants a guy who has a plan. If you’re going to go to Joe’s restaurant at 8:00, she wants you to make a reservation.dating-tips-match-me-happy

If you’re going to meet her for a cup of coffee, she wants you to tell her where.

If you’re going to take a walk around the block and go look at architecture, she wants to know that as well.

If you go to the park, same thing.

You see, she plans how cute she’s going to look for you throughout the day, in her mind. Then, when she goes home, she’s going to shower and smell great.

She wants to know what she should wear. She wants to know where she’s going. Does she wear heels? Does she wear sneakers because you’re going for a hike? Are you going for coffee? Should she wear her cute coffee jeans and shirt?

I’m telling you guys, it really goes down like this.

A woman wants to know where she’s going. It’s not about where you take her or how you try to impress her. Impressing her is just having a plan.

It really is that simple.

When you have a plan, she’s going to respond to the plan.

She’s going to dress accordingly, and she’s going to feel like she’s in the presence of a man who has a plan.

It’s that easy and it’s always one of the best dating tips you can possibly have.

It’s going to save you time, aggravation and she’ll be impressed by it. She won’t be talking to her friends about the guy who didn’t have a plan.

There’s plenty of time later in the relationship when you can figure out a plan together. In the beginning, just make a plan, and make it happen.

Show her that you are a man who knows how to treat a woman.

I am guilty of not doing this sometimes, because I’m so casual. Even I forget this step from time to time.

So it’s time you remember it.

It’s time we remember it together.

Make a plan.