Your Own New York State Of Mind
January 15, 2010 
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Billy Joel sings a song called “New York State of Mind.” That song describes what a New York state of mind is, and how he feels when he is in that state of mind. You can see how powerful that state of mind is to him.
Your state of mind is everything when you go out to meet women. Everything.
If you go out to a bar with some friends after your boss has ridden you all day long and made you feel insignificant, then that is precisely what your state of mind is going to be at the bar. Then your night will really be about cleansing, vomiting and regurgitating the anger and all the feelings you have built up that day.
Say you are going out to the market first thing in the morning. You had a bad night the night before, you are not feeling well and you are in a bad mood. Your state of mind will be exactly that.
Your intent may be to go out and meet women at the market. Your intent may be to go to that bar, flirt and meet women.
If your state of mind is not positive and feeling good about yourself, though, then it doesn’t matter what your intentions are. You will never accomplish anything if your state of mind is not in line with your intent.
It’s amazing how much frustration people have and feel about meeting people due to other sources and stimuli in their life. A little trick I tell people all the time to help with this, is to put a picture on the home screen of your iPhone or BlackBerry of something that makes you feel incredibly wonderful.
It could be a picture of your dog. It could be a picture of the first girl you ever kissed. It could be a picture of the mountain you just climbed last weekend. It doesn’t matter what it is.
Whatever image you choose, look at it whenever you feel funky or nervous before you approach someone. Look at it so you have a smile on your face and feel joy.
That is just one thing you can do. There are so many things you can do to create an amazing, peaceful and joyous state of mind. Whatever way you use to get there, without your own version of the New York state of mind, it doesn’t matter what technique you use to meet people. They will never work.
Funny thing is,that since I work in printing for 12 hours on nights (lucky me) No matter how bad the shit has been hitting the fan (press doesn’t seem to want to run) and the supervisor is on our ass for not getting much production done,and everyone is in a panic I just keep smiling cause I don’t let it bother me,I’ve done this for years.When I walk into the locker room and punch out,no matter how bad of a night I had,once I punch out,It all goes away…On my nights off,I don’t think about work, I don’t talk about work…and anyone reading this shouldn’t either.
Kevin- It seems like you gotta strong state of mind.
I believe what David says, no matter what technique we try if we don’t work on creating our own state, it will not be effective.
I can totally attest to this. This technique is simple and it totally changed the way I used frame beautiful women. Over doing for long time, I feel like I don’t even need to look at the picture in my blackberry, I can just picture it. Its so automatic. If you guys still have approach anxiety try this asap!!!
Clint-
Awesome job being consist with this technique. What’s amazing is that now you don’t even have to look at the picture!
Clint: how do you feel now compared to when you first started to use this technique?
Is that all you do or is there another technique?
Jacob- Thanks man. Its because of you guys that I can feel this empowered feeling.
Howe- I like to keep it simple. I used to use lot of technique it really messed up my head. I even used some of pua technique which really killed my success with women.
But I’m glad that I found a better way do this. So in the past I just was really nervous around hot women. So you know whenever I got really nervous, I would try this technique. Sometimes I would change the pic in my black berry. Sometimes I put picture of my dog, inspirational quote from David, and my favorite was the one that Jacob send me.
Now I’m intrigued what did Jacob send you????
He send me a picture of a woman masturbating LOL
hahhahahah you know what thats a great idea, can you send me that picture.
Kevin:
Did you always have a good state of mind like this or is something you worked on over the years?
I agree Howe:)
You know you can just find one in the internet.
‘While the night is still young’ is my favorite song by Billy Joel. I was often asked to play ‘New York state of Mind’ when I played on cruise ships but never got around to learning it!
Interesting if you read ‘Angry young man’ about his life. Much of his motivation for music came from Women.
Steve-I had it for years. I keep work at work.No job/career should effect your personal life,that’s why it’s called the workplace.I don’t even remember the name of the last job we printed 2 nights ago.
This a powerful topic today. I believe great works arts, literature, music or just about anything creative, begins with a right state of mind.
That’s a cool song by BIlly Joel, first time listening to it today.
Greg- are you a musician?
Jacob- Absolutely. Feel free to check out my website (link to my name)
I notice you are from Washington; I’d love to visit there one day.
“state” is huge, and if you go out and feel terrible you’re just spreading that vibe. You really need to spread a positive vibe if you want to get a good response
Greg-
You are awesome man! “Dream On,” is a cool song.
Come visit Washington, you would love it here.
I guess I’m one of the lucky ones because as soon as I walk out the door from work I leave whatever happened that day stay right there. As I walk to my car I focus on the good and fun things that are about to come.