Your New Sex Instructor-A Hot Sexy Cougar
April 8, 2008 
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Sexual Mentorship by David Wygant
If you’re a guy in your twenties that hasn’t had much sexual experience yet, and you really want to learn how to please a woman, I suggest that you look for a mentor.
I’m not talking about myself, and I’m not talking about any other dating or sex guru. I’m not talking about anybody with a nickname that can supposedly teach you how to be the world’s best lover.
I’m talking about going out and finding an older woman who will teach you how to please a woman.
When I was in my early twenties – I was probably 23-years-old – I had a summer share out on Fire Island. For those of you who don’t know, there are two places that single, horny New Yorkers go on the weekends: either Fire Island or the Hamptons. Fire Island is great – you don’t have to drive around, and there are just a bunch of drunken single people looking to hook-up over the course of the weekend. It’s just one big party.
I remember one night, I was 23-years-old, and I was dating a bunch of girls in the city that were 21 or 22 – all hot, cute, who made me chase after them – the usual game playing you do in your early twenties.
So I was hanging out on Fire Island one weekend, and an older friend of mine was 26 (so old at that time! It’s amazing when you are 23 and you have an older friend who is 26 – wow, so old!) So I remember hanging out with this guy and we were in a bar, and there were these older women sitting at the bar (and by older, I mean probably 32 to 35 – they weren’t really old at all!)
He called them “cougars” because that term had been around for quite some time. He said to me, “those are cougars. Those are what we need to sleep with,” and then he laid out the most direct of all direct approaches: he said, “I’m going to go pick that brunette up – she’s been looking at me for the last half an hour. I’m going to walk over, and I’m going to tell her that she wants a young stud tonight, and she wants to be satisfied by a young stud.”
He continued, “I’m going to laugh, and I’m going to look directly into her eyes, and I’m going to go home with her. Because as much as she’ll play hard to get, there aren’t many younger guys going up to her and propositioning her this directly – plus they are all drunk.”
So he went over there, and about 15 minutes later he left the bar with her. It was now my turn, and I was terrified.
There was a blonde staring at me, and she was pretty too. So I walked over and looked at her with a smile, and I said, “you know what? My friend just left here and he left me all alone. I really know that you want to go home with a young guy tonight that will take care of you all night long.”
She laughed right in my face. I looked at her, and I said, “no, I’m really serious.” She responded, “I know you’re serious, it’s so cute! You’re fun, you’re adorable! Sure, let’s go back to my place.”
She said, “do you want to know my name first?” and I said “I don’t know, should I?” She responded, “naw, it really doesn’t matter! Come on…” and she took me by the hand and walked me back to her place and we had sex.
And let me tell you something – doing that was ballsy, and I had a LOT of trouble getting it up. The whole point of it was fun, but I didn’t think it would actually happen. And I’ve always been more about connecting with women than just the physical humping side of it anyway.
But I remember that she was so cool about things – young girls I had to beg for head. The minute I got naked, this woman got down on her hands and knees and she started sucking me and literally worshipping my body.
I was like, this is unbelievable! As nervous as I was, this woman was teaching me things.
So I spent the rest of that summer sleeping with older women. They were all probably 30 to 35 – I think the oldest woman I slept with was 48 when I was 23. And what I learned that summer was the way a woman craves sex, but I also learned how to be a better lover.
I learned how to be more patient. Instead of doing the usual 23-year-old jackrabbit sex, where you go seven times a night, consisting of 10-minute marathon sessions going 100 miles an hour, I learned how to slowly have sex with a woman. I learned how to please a woman. I learned how to seduce a woman. I learned how to kiss a woman.
So if you’re a young guy, and you really want to learn about sex, yeah, I have great products – you could learn about it through my Girls Tell All audio series and listen to what women want – but the best experience is to find yourself an older lover.
There are tons of women out there who would LOVE to have a young guy that would satisfy her all night long – and she would love to teach you.
If you really want to learn how to be a great lover, start applying. Start looking at some older women, and start being more honest. If you’re out with an older woman, basically tell her, “hey, look – I don’t have much experience, but I’d love to learn and I find you absolutely and incredibly attractive.” She might actually go for that! The direct approach is often the best approach.
If you want to become a great lover and be less nervous in bed, find yourself an older woman who will teach you everything. Then when you go back to chasing and sleeping with the younger ones, you’re going to give them an experience that will leave them texting you all week long to get more of you.
It’s about becoming a good lover – do what you need to do!
A great place to meet these type of women are on match.com and all the other dating sites.
Today is part 3 of how to succeed in online dating.
Is the direct approach (being honest) the best one with older women?
What is the difference in approaching with younger ladies?
Slava: Being in my late 40′s, Cialis seems to do the trick!
Nice. I’ll have to find one of these cougars.
David, your description of you and your friend remind me of many young men I know.
I live in a small city with a big University. Over 1/3 the population are college students. It seems as if half the young men want to have at least one experience with an older woman. I’ve had a couple experiences with beautiful young men, however, I’ve come to the conclusion I’m not interested in becoming “Theresa’s Sexual Tutorial Service”.
Regardless of age, one mistake too many men make is assuming women over 35 or 40 are desperate for affection and attention. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The fact is, at 43, I have young men courting me for their “cougar” experience; I have older men interested because they want the company of a younger woman; and I have men my own age who want a romantic friend/peer/companion. I’ve never been less desperate in my life.
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Now, I’m only 28 — but in my day I’ve taught a guy a thing or two.
I have yet to find myself a ‘cougar’
I’ll look into it David, thanks for the tip. I’m actually getting a bit sick at the moment of the 20-25 range in my town at the moment anyway. At times I really can’t be bothered playing hard to get at 2am in the morning at some nightclub with some young drunk girl.
If I’m 25, and he’s 19 year old triple major in physics, math and computer science, does that make me a cougar?
If I’m 28 and he’s a 22 yearold wrestler/rock-climber/forest-firefighter . . . does that make me a cougar?
Is soooooooo. . .. MEEEEEOOOOOOWWWWW.
Ah, the cougar bit was fun for awhile…
Huh…what does one do when they’re approaching cougar age themselves?
Virgin;
Is this name pertinent to your sexual status, or just a “nickname” if you If you are don’t mind me asking that.
Hey, whatever age your approaching, be it cougar, wild cat, panther……ENJOY YOURSELF
Get your “roar” fine tuned, then get out there and pray you find some good prey
It is NEVER too late in ones life to start enjoying the pleasures of living.
I am 46, and I feel as if my life has really just begun. I try to savor every morsel of the good, spit out the bad, and swallow what I have no say over
I always tried to convince my girlfriend’s parents.
But they always doubt me,…and it affect my
girlfriend’s decision…
I do know how to behave and talk to the older.
But, it seem doesn’t work.
Can u suggest me, what am I suppose to do?
I do honestly love her very much and want to make her happier.