Let me explain…

When you first start out in game, you are looking to have more options with women, and hopefully, you are out to become the best version of yourself.

And just like when you learn any new skillset you have to go through a period on in-congruency in order to become good. you have to adopt behaviors, ideas and beliefs that may seem foreign to you because those are what is needed to ‘get the girl’.

(I’m not speaking specifically to routines her, but just the process of having to do and say things that are outside of your comfort zone/incongruent with your present reality.)

So in essence whilst you are learning ‘pickup’ you have to be willing to live a little lie. Ideally as you get better and understand the psychology of attraction you will become more congruent with the “new you” but until then? you have to ‘fake it till you make it.’

most guys have grown up telling the truth and getting rejected. because we live in a world where we cant just walk up to a pretty girl and say what we’re feeling/thinking without negative effects. would i rather be 100% honest and alone? or tell a little lie and be loved?

Now i don’t make these claims lightly, adn let me stress that i love to be honest with women, indeed i dislike the fact that we live in a world where we have to play so many games. I have been a member of the community for some time, i teach with some of the best, but even i know that human psychology dictates that we must lie.

Example? i recently met a girl who has totally rocked my world. I barely know her, but in the little time we spent together i have fallen hard.

This is a new feeling for me, i have been in love before but i have never felt a connection like this.

The ‘honest’ part of me wants to tell her how i feel, i want to tell her that i think she is incredible, different from everyone else.. I want to tell her that i’m falling for her.

but my experience has taught me that if i say this so early in our relationship, i will lose her. we simply don’t know each other well enough for me to be totally transparent with her. I know that there will come the perfect time to say what i truly feel, but it isn’t here yet.

So what would you say when she says “what do you think of me?”

honesty? or would you you play the game as you know you should and exercise self control in the short term, to end up with her in the long term?

honesty or the lie?

Good blog.

Being able to speak your mind, no matter what. When I am honest, I am very direct in what I say, I do not like to beat around the bush.

Great blog.

Nice excercise for the remainder of the week

they even tell some of there other male friend’s to talk to me about how to be honest with out being mean or an ass.

Jeff