People choose lies due to short-term focus at the expense of long-term. People choose what’s immediately comfortable and avoids work rather than what’s going to make their life easier in the future, even if it’s harder in short-term.

This is why many people do not succeed in business. First rule of business success : Thou shalt not bullshit thyself.

The truth is far to valuable to give away, live an honest life BUT only with yourself.

I only got one spanking from my Dad my whole life – even then he barely touched me! I was in about 6th grade and I lied. My Dad said: “If it’s one thing I can’t stand it’s a liar and you’re going to get a lickin’. ” Boy, the lickin’ didn’t hurt a bit, but I NEVER forget it. I can’t stand liars either – I hear you!

The scene you referenced above with Jack Nicholson was the most stellar performance I’ve EVER seen from an actor. I will never forget it. He is amazing!

Thank you for addressing such an important topic.

1. I tell her I have a girlfriend and she stops talking to me.

2. We don’t hang out or talk much so we drift apart and nothing becomes of it, mainly because I do not want to give girls the impression I am interested in more than friendship so I don’t put myself out there too much.

3. She say it’s ok that I have a gf and we can be friends, so we hang out for a bit, but then they try to get frisky anyhow

Alright Mats, I will talk to my gf. If she went out with other guys, I honestly would not mind, but I do have boundaries as I’m sure she does as well. I will finally sit down and hash them out with her.

Thanks for the advice guys!

To find a soluton, what would you say if she wanted exactly what you wanted, as in the roles are reversed? Personally I would definitely talk about it with your gf. I think there is such a thing as bening too honest. Like telling your GF every single doubt you have for example. But in this case I think it would be the best way to talk to her about it.

The problem though is that as soon as you talk to a girl without wanting anything more from her then a fun encouter, they’ll often want more . The human comedy!

Thanks for clearing that up. I had tried to post a response but I am not sure what happened to it. I have no ill intentions to cheat on my girlfriend, as someone said earlier, I just would like to expand my social circle to include more than my gf, guys, and my old female friends. I was just asking how do you go about making new female friends without ruining your current relationship.

Do you tell a girl that you have a girlfriend the first time you talk to her? Is going out for coffee in the evening too much? Drinks? Dancing? I know I can ask my gf what her boundaries are but I was curious as to how others handle this issue before I broach the situation and possibly say something that comes out wrong.

once again, do all u can to help me to come to the reality of the race.

Evans