Comments on: You Asked Her Out . . . You Pay!

By: naturaldiet

naturaldiet — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 07:12:30 +0000

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By: Marissa

Marissa — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 21:54:23 +0000

lol…did i do that 2 u? or wat?

By: Faryn

Faryn — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 21:52:39 +0000

It has been a very very long time since I have been literally caught with my mouth open and nothing to insert ….

Goodness … my face is even on fire.

I read in one of my research marathons that in the family of big cats, the females sometimes eat their own cubs.

By: Marissa

Marissa — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 19:25:35 +0000

can i join the sandbox?…i can be a panther….i love pumas! i never been on a date…am i showing my age?lol. but i love the park & board games…do i sound like a kid? lol.i agree with sean on phone dates…im usually attracted to someone mentally & im shy, so talking on the phone helps.

By: hunter

hunter — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 04:21:15 +0000

mmmmhmmm, yes, most of the time, there is no one good enough, for a mothers son/daughter….

By: Bertie

Bertie — Sun, 09 Sep 2007 06:07:39 +0000

Ah yes. I don’t want you to think he isn’t a good guy, he is. In fact he gave me some very good advice when I told him I was falling apart during the dark days leading up to my ex leaving. He also gave me some very good Xanax, but I had to take more than I was comfortable with taking in order to just show up to work. I’d never gotten all girlie on him every before, pretty much all business, but things were very very bad and to be blunt I wasn’t sure how I could make it through all this, but felt I had to absolutely hang on for the kids would not have done well living with their father who is a guy of convenience and a step-mothe who had already said she would have nothing to do with “his” kids. I couldn’t exactly take a powder but I was having a very difficult time holding myself together. I think actually that his mother has a list of suitable brides for him and eventually he will comply. I’m pretty sure my kinds of girls would not be on that list.

By: hunter

hunter — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 19:48:18 +0000

Bertie,

I can relate to your friend, for me it used to be all fun and games, and fast cars,,,,,,’till I met a counseling thunder that set me straight on who I am.

By: Sean

Sean — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 18:52:15 +0000

87 responses already? David, do you know how to make a post that isn’t open to and leading into heated debates? LOL

I agree, first dates, who ever asked the other out should pay. Unless it happens to be a gal that is very independent and insists on splitting the bill. In that case I split it with her, who knows what rules she had at the time about a guy paying for her dinner on the first date.

As far as what you do on the first date, it depends on how much you know and talked to this person before you actually see them. If it is someone you just met that you know very little about. Coffee or a walk in the park is great. It’s cheap, and the focus is on each other, not the food or movie or whatever you do. For the record, I’m not a big fan of going to movies as the only part of the date (or even to “hang out” with family since you can’t talk during it).

Or if you talk alot via email/myspace/txt/phone for a week or two before you first meet. You have a better idea of what she is like and about, so going to dinner isn’t a bad thing at that point.

After my last gf, one thing that I found to be very important, is having at least one or two “phone dates” where all you do is talk on the phone for a couple hours. I haven’t quite figured it all out, but there is something connection or bonding or something along those lines, that helps a relationship take off.

In college I had a relationship that looked like it wasn’t going to take off at all, but did after a 6 hour phone conversation. My last gf, we never really talked on the phone at all except for her getting lost, and we had more of a fling then dating.

The best part of “phone dates” they are cheap. unless you go over your cellphone minutes or rack up long distance charges that is.

By: Bertie

Bertie — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 12:45:40 +0000

Joe,
LOL! My pigtail puller is a smart guy and just a few years younger than I am, 39 if I’m doing my math correctly. He is indeed very handsome. He also is like that with absolutely every female from 2 to 100. So that hardly makes me special huh? He is just all in good fun and even if he were to suddenly wake up and find himself attracted to me, I don’t think anything could possibly come of it. His cars are all about speed not character and utility with their power. So no worries on that front. All you have to do Joe, is google the offroadrn, and my myspace page comes up…It has many things you wanted to know about Roberta but were afraid to ask.
As far as loneliness, I don’t usually feel lonely. Sometimes when I am confronted by the others involved in my divorce. My ex is married to his girlfriend and her ex hooked up and married an old family friend. I am the only one alone, but then I think about how I don’t have to be married to be happy. I’m pretty complete on my own.

By: darkpoet

darkpoet — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 05:19:02 +0000

agreed RC i’ve always enjoy my european up bringing, but sometimes it a conflicts with this america culture… in sweden they have a saying
“Lagom ar bast ” basically it means, modesty and moderation is a virtue… no ones better then anyone else… we’ll all equal in some way… material good should matter to nothing…. they can come and go so quickly… but nature and art, they may go, but will always leave a lasting impress in ones heart.
cheers,
Joe