Comments on: Woo Hoo You Are Dating A Party Girl

By: rrr

rrr — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 00:13:10 +0000

David –

You’ve received a lot of good suggestions here, but I’m surprised no one has yet suggested Pilates, to re-balance those imbalanced muscles.

And yes, Real Men Do Pilates.

The inventor, Joe Pilates, was a boxer, and he trained boxers and hospitalized prisoners of war, so their muscles wouldn’t atrophy (the foundation of how he built the machines in his system in the first place) before Balanchine started sending all his dancers for rehab in the system.

Adam — is that an invitation for all ladies on this post who are having trouble meeting nice men in the cities where they are?

By: Susan G.

Susan G. — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 07:01:10 +0000

Howdy, David.

Remember that phrase, “Keep it simple, silly”? How old is your mattress? Yoga, massage and the Sybian are all excellent; too much of everything is just enough, I always say. But what is the point of doing all that for our health if we spend 8 hours per night undoing it all by sleeping on a crappy mattress. Think about it–that’s a third of our life! About 6 years ago I spent over 1500 bucks on a queen-size Stearns and Foster mattress, box-springs and frame. No fancy headboard/footboard/bedroom suite. Just the sleepset. Best thing I ever did for my back. During our divorce, my ex-husband took the big-screen gigantor t.v. and I kept the bed. Funny that he thinks he got the better deal. Seriously, David. Check into it if you haven’t already. Also, if you spend another third of your life on your feet, invest in well-made shoes with custom orthotics if need be. Oh, I know what you’re thinking, but they’re not your grandmother’s orthotics anymore. My cousin gets her new Birkenstocks outfitted with custom orthotics every summer and you’d never know they were there if you didn’t know they were there. I am sending healing thoughts your way!

By: Oliver M

Oliver M — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:12:11 +0000

i am twenty and did a job for a lady she seemed at first who was 37 at the time and she turned out to love mens attention and was as you describe a sad party girl – i personally feel sorry for her as she has never lived with a man and has a tendacy to stare at other men in front of me when i took her out which i think is disrespectful, all in all she was acting my age and i was acting hers. she was half indian and her name is nisha s and from the northwest uk if anyone nows her i dont care the truth hurts

By: Mastery

Mastery — Thu, 28 May 2009 09:44:39 +0000

Indigo Tiger: I am 27 and currently dating a party girl who is 32. I met her in a club and we always have a great time together, I really like spending time with her – partying and on the sofa…. As much as I like her, DW’s point rings true: Can I see her as the mother of my kids?

I love to party myself and have been into the house and dance scene for years. I have met lots of party girls on the way. Very soon I want to give that up and start a family and sadly I do not see my future wife as a party girl currently or even a reformed one. Me and my friends have dated a few before and their way of coping with bad times is to go out and get wasted – and occasionaly as a result go sleep with another guy. Sadly that sort of behaviour is not what I want from someone whom I want to spend the rest of my life with.

So in reply – it is not that old party girls are sad or desperate, they are just not very attractive options for guys who are looking for their “one”. DW is spot on if you are in your early thirties and still can’t meet that guy – the fun good looking guy who is standing at the end of the bar will not be standing a year or two later waiting for you at the alter.

By: T.Mastrpietro D.C.

T.Mastrpietro D.C. — Mon, 25 May 2009 01:06:12 +0000

Wow! in this day and age there is no excuse for going in blind like that, there are enough resources available now so that even amateurs should be able to find this accessible. What a risk of liability.

By: mark stone

mark stone — Fri, 22 May 2009 15:08:21 +0000

If you swim less than an hour from the time you’ve eaten you’re likely to get those crampy pains.

By: Mark stein

Mark stein — Fri, 22 May 2009 15:02:08 +0000

If you swim after less than an hour from the time you’ve eaten, you are likely to get those pains.

By: kismet

kismet — Fri, 22 May 2009 05:14:49 +0000

Hmm, whenever I swim, there would have to be a time when my calf feels like its muscles are too tight and i can’t move it. Its kind of like a cramp but not really. How do I prevent that?

By: Montse

Montse — Fri, 22 May 2009 02:54:55 +0000

Wow, I have several things to say. I check your blog every one or two months, and I always find something I can relate to. I also have a lot of lower back pain and what I have observed is that it is all a problem of posture. For some reason when I was a girl I was told to walk with my back straight because I had a tendency to the contrary, so I used to force myself to straighten my back especially on the chest area. Consequently, I put all the weight in my low back. I also have a lot of curve in this area and really hurts me all the time but somehow I got used to the pain. In order to keep my back straight I also pressed my glutes tight. I check myself not letting them drop when I am standing all the time. So maybe it is a problem relaxing the muscles and adressing the posture. I currently do power yoga and it helps me although it doesn’t remove the pain. I think tai-chi is really good and if you find a good shiatsu practitioner they can do a lot of good. There is this branch of psychology started by a german called Wilhem Reich and continued by Alexander Lowen that focuses in body-mind and what is contained in the pain and so on. I did a little bit and it is scary but at the same time you feel so good afterwards. They say that your body is a reflex of your soul.. I know this is a bit vague, and my explanations aren’t very good but maybe you can do some research .. . Good luck David!!! I actually wanted to write here today to tell you that I dreamed about you few days ago!!! I dreamed that you were my landlord and that we wanted to kiss but I had a chocolate chip cookie melting in my mouth, and we couldn’t LOL!!!!! For the record I am not interested in you in real life,I wonder where this dream came from ???

By: john k

john k — Thu, 21 May 2009 10:06:37 +0000

David,
Given your symptoms, you might benefit from a more thorough evaluation with a physiatrist, or Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation doc. This is an MD or DO who would take a thorough history and physical, looking for any of the host of possible reasons you are feeling ass pain. He or she would then work with a chiropractor, physical therapist, masseuse, therapeutic yoga practitioner etc… Generally the fix is exercise based, but its always good to get a plausible diagnosis and rule out bad things that can make your butt hurt.
I did residency with a really great Doc who is down in San Clemente named Alexandra Bunyak. She is who I would see in the LA area. She is super smart, super well trained.
Hope this helps
John K.