Comments on: Women Show Your Interest: 4 Reasons Why

By: unknown

unknown — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 13:48:41 +0000

I like my aunt(she is my wife’s mother sister)age 45, her husband 50 years he is smoking and sugar patient. I want sex do my aunt how to approach,Iam going her house, sometimes she is showing her knees and legs self touching,self neck strock etc. please tell this signal what shows? she is interest to do sex or not? What I will do

By: not important

not important — Sat, 28 May 2011 11:22:43 +0000

i personally think it’s all about rejection and how it affects us regarding our genders, all the rest of the crap is just a smoke screen to cover up how truly afraid we really are about getting rejected. being social creatures as we are, rejection from our fellow man use to be hazardous to our health back in the day we’re we were all relying on each other to survive. to be socially ostracized is a deep seeded fear we all share.so why has socially deem it necessary for men to take the first initial steps? well because we’re all been rejected since the dawn of time, we can survive in the wild all by ourselves, woman well! why do you think they have such large networks of friend? any way back to the point! as a man gets rejected! it’s just another rejection! as a woman gets rejected! what the first thought going through her mind, “I’m not good looking enough” how do we value each other in out prospective genders then? men are most highly valued according to his skill set! woman according to their youthfully looks! so when a woman get rejected the message she receives is ” your useless”! again guys just an observation! cheers.

By: Lin

Lin — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 15:53:22 +0000

I know this is an old blog but found it interesting. Yes, some guys are confident with meeting girls, while others aren’t.

If it wasn’t for my Mum being abit forward with my Dad, I wouldn’t be here, he had his nose stuck in a book for the most part.

If I hadn’t asked my husband out.(I am now a widow) We would never have realised how well suited we were, fallen in love and got married etc.

Yes, sometimes as girls need to be abit forward. Men still can be frustrating hehe

By: Dunga

Dunga — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 00:10:54 +0000

I’m sorry if my logic escapes youGhidorah, but then again, I suspect so does a lot of people’s.

For the most part, the woman expects the man to initiate the interaction. Initiate=to lead. You can massage the words, parse them or mentally masturbate all you want. If the guy does not make the first move, he will spend most of his nights alone. Which is what I suspect is the case with you.

Unlike you, I have no problem either grasping this concept or putting it to good use in real life. Yes, there are ties where I can tell, by reading a woman’s body langauge and such that she wants to be left alone. So I don’t bother. But otherwise, I recognize that they are not going to approach me, so if I want to have an interaction with them, I must initiate it. In other words, to take the lead.

I have explained it in the simplest terms I can. I’ve had enough of you. If you don’t understand this, as I suspect you won’t, I can only conclude that you are immune to logic and reason and and that further efforts to explain will be futile.

By: Ghidorah

Ghidorah — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 01:31:35 +0000

No, Dunga. “Leading” involves things like presiding or being in charge of something. Also, it can be as John Quincy Adams once said, “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” Perhaps I should rephrase the last statement in my previous note to “Being the one to do the asking or breaking the ice is not what leading is.”
When women say something like, “I want a man who is willing to lead.”, implying that the guy needs to make the move without any hints, what they are really communicating is that they don’t want to take responsibility for their dating life (and probably their life in general). Then they blame men for the life they don’t have. The fact of the matter is that women who take no action don’t deserve any relationships. This article is terrific and I really thank David for writing it. It clearly shows women not that not only do they need to take action and step outside their comfort zones but also that they do have some control over their dating lives. Well done, David.
Also, your bit about the species going extinct is not the least bit logical.

By: Dunga

Dunga — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:12:48 +0000

Sure it is, Gidorah. Initiating is initiating. Whether the first approach, the first date, or any given step of escalation, the onus is on the man to escalate.

If the man waits for the woman to escalate, the escalation does not happen. Taken to its logical conclusion, the species would be extinct within a couple of generations at most.

That’s fine with me if you want to wait for the woman to initiate/escalate, btw. The less competition I face, the better.

By: Ghidorah

Ghidorah — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 03:39:22 +0000

Tee, one thing I can’t stand is a woman who requires the man to make the first move or has similar expectations. Some guys are TERRIFIED of approaching women, some even incapable of persuing as a result. Women need to be more flexible and take some action themselves, as David has so magnificently described. The quality of a man CANNOT be determined by whether or not he makes the first move or how far he is willing to chase.

Mr. E, delete your comment. It is dumb.

And Dunga, just so you know, initiating a relationship is NOT what “leading” is.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 01:39:10 +0000

I would like to add something to this blog I was told this by a friend men are high maintenance I believe so are us women on the other hand…We think differently in so many ways…When a woman is thinking of love marriage and kids in the man’s mind he may not be there yet he might be thinking about hey give me room to think here we are moving too fast…My though on the subject.

By: Dunga

Dunga — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 01:28:55 +0000

Boudicca:

Unfortunately the guy either does not know how to escalate, does not know he’s supposed to, or isn’t interested.

You can ask him if you want but it is understandable if you don’t because a guy like that doesn’t do it for you.

Guys–Initiate. Lead. As you’ve heard from Boudicca, she wants you to lead her. You’ll never get a better testimonial to that reality.

By: Boudicca

Boudicca — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 21:57:49 +0000

Oh, there’s a guy I really fancy in the British Library… for a long time he’s been smiling at me, throwing his arms around me and kissing me on the cheek. It suddenly dawned on me (duh!) that he probably fancies me but though I smiled at him etc he just never takes it further. You say, men can’t read women’s signals but as a woman I can honestly say that unless I get a direct verbal message: ‘would you like to go for a drink?’ I can honestly say, men are strange creatures to me too. After reading this though, I’m going to pay more attention. I may even ask if he’d like a coffee – that can’t be too brash, can it? You’ve really got me thinking. Mmmm, no wonder my smiles didn’t work