There are books out on the market that teach women how to ignore men and wait until they get back to you, but the truth is the right guy will never make a woman feel insecure. In the right relationship both parties know when the other is busy, and there is never that anxiety about how he is not getting back to her.

By the way even men can display the same anxiety when it comes to women not texting or calling. A few times I met guys I was on the fence about, and they would call me asking why I had not called or texted.

In the right relationship there is no need for these games labeling someone needy and the like. However, you know I choose to be single right now because men can be just a drama prone, they just tend to express this behavior in different ways.

Stop wasting your very valuable life and time on a guy whose interest is not aimed in your direction. You probably did nothing to send him away – it just may be as simple as someone was in line ahead of you and he is concentrating his attention there to give her a fair, exclusive chance. Maybe someone came back into his life who was higher on his preference scale. You’re blaming yourself because you don’t have closure that satisfies your personal definition of closure. Maybe the end of contact was his version of closure. Some people are just really crappy at ending things for any reason and they think that fading out or just disappearing works better. They don’t have to explain themselves, face our disappointment or our tears – you know how men freak out when women cry, especially if they think that it might be their fault.

Don’t beat yourself up with BS negative fantasy scripts playing over and over in your head like a broken record. While you don’t know for certain why it’s over, sometimes it just doesn’t pay to fill in the blanks. Give him the benefit of the doubt and move on with your life. If you’re really feeling wounded, then forgive him for hurting you and forgive yourself for wanting him to administer the first aid as he is clearly not the medic on duty. Heal yourself – get a new “love” provider and don’t be afraid to shop around like a good consumer. It’s like shoes – you have to try them on. Sometimes they seem right for you but wearing them for a longer time frame proves that they only looked good…they just weren’t worth a damn for going the distance in comfort.

about the one you posted on Oct11 9:01am, i agree 100% too about the fact that usually women are the ones to develop faster interest than men. And also about the fact that whoever has a deeper interest is the one that would normally tend to get overemotional. That is totally true. You go girl! Loved the whole post.

Just an FYI: psychological research on gender will never make sense at all if you would never spend time with maybe at least 50 people a day in person.

Oh and by the way, next time if all you can do is attack and insult David and the users here? BETTER NOT COME BACK!!! PERIOD!

“Hysterectomy” is the surgical removal of the uterus (womb). Did you know that the word “Hysterectomy” (termed in 1879) comes from the root word “hyster” referring to the womb and “ectomy” meaning removal.

The reason the root word “hyster” refers to the womb is derivative of the word “hysteria” based on the sexist assumption that the womb itself caused uncontrollable, emotional behavior.

Subsequently, early physicians performed a “pelvic massage” as a treatment for female hysteria to release the woman’s tension and cure her of her emotional distress. haha

Look up “female hysteria” on wikipedia or google. I know I know…”Wikipedia” but very interesting and amusing.

CONCLUSION: If your girlfriend seems emotional, that means you prooobably suck in bed. Therefore…how about you men start satisfying your girlfriends and they won’t be so emotional.

However, I still stand behind my earlier statement that we are ALL emotionally driven. This comes from my own personal experience “in the field” as a dater and friend of many daters. LOL (that wasn’t an insult it was a joke because I am one witty gal).

What pushes our buttons to bring out that emotional reaction may be slightly different. It depends on what issues make us feel passionately. And that is different for every person regardless of gender.

Personally, I have seen BOTH men and women react irrationally, emotionally and be too pushy with a mate or new love interest. Again, I maintain that whoever has the deeper feelings the relationship or a stronger interest in a new dating prospect is the person who tends to react emotionally or be too pushy in situations like not responding to an email fast enough or not returning a call.

I have SEEN my male friends flip out and text bomb girls who didn’t respond to a text or an email. In fact, I had to counsel my best male friend to stop doing this with the girl he was dating or she would lose interest… fast. And she did and subsequently dumped him. By the same token, I have SEEN my female friends (myself included) blow men off and not care at all. In fact, I have to say that I have noticed this behavior in men more recently for some reason. It’s ironic that this article was posted because all of my friends were JUST talking about how clingy MEN can be.

Nobody likes a reactive and clingy person and it is JUST as unattractive in a man as it is in a woman and will cause the other person to run for the hills.

The only REAL issue I had with this post were comments such as “As a woman, you’re very emotional and you react very emotionally to things.” …And “As the woman is going through all this thinking, analysis and sending out of that follow-up email…”

Without meaning to sound insulting these comments reminded me of that article circulated on the net from a 1950’s Goodhouskeeping article. Men do these things too whether you admit it or not. If you are REALLY into a girl who isn’t all that into you, you do it too. I have seen it happen and have been the recipient of such email/text bombings. The friend I mentioned earlier bites his nails to bleeding stumps because he constantly over-analyzes everything and is an emotional hot mess.

Look, women get very busy too …we also have jobs and busy days. But, if I am REALLY into someone, I make time to call them back no matter how busy I get. Especially if it’s a new dating interest, it can be exciting so you look forward to the call. If I am just not that interested, I will blow the person off or ignore them until they get the hint stop calling. Just like men do. I think everyone does this …male or female. One person is always more into it than the other.

I WILL agree that usually women develop an interest faster than men. So maybe that’s what makes you perceive that we are more emotional in relationships.

But the bottom line is if you feel blown off, you probably are so take a hint and move on. As a good rule of thumb I try to NEVER be the first person to call or call too much no matter how strong the urge to do so… hold back. And that usually works well for me. If you seem disinterested, they’ll chase you down like a dog in heat because it’s human nature to want what you can’t have.

So to all men AND women: NEVER freak and text bomb or mass email. Big dating “no no” for us all.

I do not think we will ever see the nutty one sided Dr Anne again.

She is all talk and cant back it up.