Wingmen
January 8, 2008 
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Wingmen
By David Wygant
Have you ever thought that maybe the group of friends you go out with on Friday and Saturday nights are bringing you down?
You know when I go out on a Friday night, I go out to do some serious people watching. What I see over and over again are groups of people that have the emotional tampon with them. You know to whom I am referring . . . that person who just can’t seem to have a good time.
The emotional tampon will stand there with his hands in his pockets while his friends try to talk to women. You can just see the emotional torture from which that person is suffering. He is just not happy . . . at all. Whenever one of the emotional tampon’s friends try to talk to a woman, he will usually walk over to them and ruin the conversation.
I know you’re trying to be a good friend by taking the walking emotional tampon out with you. You are really not doing yourself any favors, though, unless you’re also an emotional tampon and the two of you can bleed each other’s emotions all night.
Whom you choose to run with is as important as how you communicate. If you’re going out with someone who brings you down, then you are not going to have a good time. You are going to be so aware of that person’s negative energy, that you are not going to be able to have fun or to be intriguing that night.
You will always be wondering whether or not the emotional tampon is having a good time. So how can you have fun if you’re babysitting someone all night long? Women do this all the time.
They go out in cliques comprised of one woman who is really good at flirting with men and two others who will sit there and get angry when the other one gets all the attention. If you are a guy who is interested in one of the women in this type of group, it is really hard to get to know her when you have to deal with her friends who are needy and attention-starved.
So think about the people you run with if you when you go out your objective is to meet people. If your friends are not good wingmen (or wingwomen), then I suggest finding new ones or spending some time with those friends outside the pickup arena in situations that will help them work on their confidence. You can also send them to me and I’ll kick their ass.
When I go out I want to enjoy myself and have fun, so I always go out with people who are equally as sociable as I am. That way I don’t worry about them all night long.
So choose your wingmen wisely. It’s hard enough to create good first impressions and to create good opportunities. You don’t want your friends ruining them for you.
Your friend’s social life is not your responsibility. So be a good friend to the emotional tampon and suggest he gets some help.
I have created some great products to help emotional tampons gain the inner confidence they need and deserve. Click on the Men’s Audio Mastery Series and check out the emotional tampon cure.
Yesterday we had a great video on how not to be an emotional tampon.
Today we learn why teasing is the way to her……
I have a great wingman for going out to parties, events, etc. where people are being social. We can both hold our own and approach approach women alone, and 90% of the night we aren’t even anywhere close to each other… which always makes me think that going out alone wouldn’t be much different than going out with this guy- but yet it’s still fun to have someone there to get back to or trade stories with throughout the night if I need to, which is comforting.
One thing I DON’T like about some people is what I call “over the shoulder” wing guys. They won’t approach anyone, but once I approach someone, or a group of women, I know it won’t be more than 5 minutes and those guys will be right there behind me looking over my shoulder trying to get involved. The funny thing is that it still doesn’t work for them, because the women always seem to understand the dynamic, and unless it’s someone that I very deliberately bring into the interaction and introduce- those shoulder guys don’t get very far.
DAVID
“You can also send them to me and I
Ah Joan,
Do you have a cup of giddy I can borrow? I’m just not feelin it today….
Well my friends the time has come
To raise the roof and have some fun
Throw away the work to be done
Let the music play on …
Everybody sing, everybody dance
Lose yourself in wild romance
We’re going to Party, Karamu, Fiesta, forever
Come on and sing along
We’re going to Party, Karamu, Fiesta, forever
Come on and sing along
All night long (all night), All night (all night)
All night long (all night), All night (all night)
All night long (all night), All night (all night)
All night long (all night), Ooh yeah (all night)
People dancing all in the street
See the rhythm all in their feet
Life is good, wild and sweet
Let the music play on …
Feel it in your heart and feel it in your soul
Let the music take control
We’re going to Party, Limin’, Fiesta, forever
Come on and sing my song
All night long (all night), Ooh (all night)
All night long (all night), Yeah (all night)
All night long (all night), Yeah (all night)
All night long (all night), Yeah (all night)
[All Night Long (all Night) lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com
Yeah, once you get started you can’t sit down
Come join the fun, it’s a merry-go-round
Everyone’s dancing their troubles away
Come join our party, SEE HOW WE PLAY!
(Chant)
Tom bo li de say de moi ya
Yeah, Jumbo Jumbo
Way to parti’ o we goin’
Oh, jambali
Tom bo li de say de moi ya
Yeah, JUMBO JUMBO!
Oh, Oh, Oh, Oh, Yes
We’re gonna have a party, Yeah, ugh
All night long (all night), All night (all night)
All night long (all night), All night (all night)
All night long (all night), All night (all night)
All night long (all night), ugh
Everyone you meet (all night)
They’re jamming in the street (all night)
All night long (all night)
Yeah, I said (all night)
Everyone you meet (all night)
They’re jamming in the street (all night)
All night long (all night)
Feel good, feel good (all night)
(All night to Fade)
Well, OK, I’ll confess…I have been one of these “downers” before when out with friends in the past and I think that it’s b/c I was unwilling to admit that going out to the bar scene was not something I liked. I felt out of my element and more unsure than I normally did. So, I rarely frequent these places now and feel much better. Perhaps the friends that David is referring in this blog are ones that just don’t want to admit that they don’t like going out to these places, but feel this is their only option for meeting people.
Just a guess.
For me, I’m generally not someone who enjoys crowds of people. It just brings me anxiety. I’m much better with smaller, intimate group settings. I marvel at people who “work rooms”.
Sorry to cut this short…gotta run. Maybe I’ll finish it later.
Bria
Bertie;
My cup runneth over….or should I say my “CUPS” runneth ove…LMAO!!!!!!
My my my, I don’t know what the deal is today. It is gloomy as hell outside, but I seem to feel overly vibrant and really have no reason to be SO freaking charged…..I guess I am high on life.
I got a sexy stylish haircut and some freaking fantastic highlights today. It amazes me how that alone can pick up ones spirits.
I tried a new girl…she is a keeper so long as I am living here.
Walking out of the mall was enough to set my vibrance aglow I recon.
It really does feel good to be gazed upon and have a man undress you with his eyes, so long as he has made some wonderful eye contact first. Any woman who disagrees should have been with me today!
Bertie I can give ya all ya need girl. I am overstocked…or should I say..”overstacked!” LOL LMBO
Please forgive me folks…It is the new moon…it makes me feel new as well?? Works for me
leon;
“Where’s The Party”
Working Monday through Friday
Takes up all of my time
If I can get to the weekend
Everything will work out just fine
That’s when I can go crazy
That’s when I can have fun
Time to be with my baby
Time to come undone
Where’s the party, I want to free my soul
Where’s the party, I want to lose control
Where’s the party, I want to free my soul
Where’s the party, I want to lose control
Couldn’t wait to get older
Thought I’d have so much fun
Guess I’m one of the grown-ups
Now I have to get the job done
People give me the business
I’m not living in fear
I’m just living in chaos
Gotta get away from here
Slow down you move too fast
Gonna make the good times last
Gonna let my hair hang down
I’m ready now
Where’s the party
Where’s the party, someone tell me
Where’s the party, come on, come on, come on
Where’s the party
LOL I really don’t go to many parties, so I thought I’d ask…”Wheres the part?” LOL I make my own dang party : P
Okay David, I kind of understand what you’re getting at…but what makes someone a good wingman?
Also, I assume the rules are a bit different for women. What do we do at the bars to get fellas like you to come over? How can we be helpful on the wing of our lady friends?
I usually wear a low-cut shirt and a push-up bra to make a nice view of my DDs. But beyond that I have no idea how to help my girlfriends out…and I garuntee they have no idea how to help me.
Joan,
OMG! You are a poet. Every day I discover something new about you! LOL.
Well I did get out and take the oldest boy to work, and that was nice. Its just taking a long time to get over the sinusitis, and I’ve been good and resting and all that, and I want my exuberance back now! lol
I am shocked that no one has made a joke about men and wings today.
DAVID;
I have been tempted to joke on the subject of men and wings, but I to take light myself! lol
It is a shame that so many men as well as women are out there “winging it,” not having a clue what they are doing, not doing as far as connecting with the opposite sex. Makes me think sometimes that dating is for the birds….mmmmm.
light=flight! damn!!!!!!!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
;P
I did ittttttttttttttttttt!!!!!
Hey 3 out of 4 ain’t bad…
LOL! I thought about it….but figured today I’m a little off and it would only amuse me…..Damn I need an attitude adjustment today.
My sense of humor has been temporarily retarded after reading your blog. I just can’t shake the image of a large tampon with a 5-O’Clock shadow, sweaty palms and a doleful attitude following you around a cocktail party … at least I hope it’s only temporary.
We have a walking tampon spotted.
That is very funny…now do you think walking tampons make good wingmen?
Cmon Joan
Give me your best joke….go for it
David, it’s an apt and creative metaphor, indeed!
CJ
A good wingman or wingwoman is someone who does not compete with you for the same target.
They are there to support and compliment you so you can meet someone.
They may also want to meet someone but they allow you first choice if you make the intial approach without making overtures to that person,
They are non competitive and they are all about being a good friend.
They are not being cheesy trying to sell you or say dumb things like.
“you guys look great together”
its all about support and someone must have great energy and not bring the conversation down as we talked about in the blog.
Those are some of the things that make a good wing.
Dave
Beware of the over the shoulder wings.
They are just looking for the steal….they are like a good cornerback:)
Theresa
Yes it is a good one….one of my favorites:)
Bertie
Why the need for the attitude adjustment today?
Been home sick, antibiotics, wanna be well yesterday, peeved at myself for thinking it was just a cold. Kinda sad that the highlight of my day was watching “That Thing You Do” and taking the oldest boy to work, but I did take the short cut behind the bank and splashed through the mud. That’s always fun. The best thing about the jeep is that no matter how creepy I think I look, today it was I know I look day, men always stare……
Bertie
Men can not resist a woman who is driving a jeep that is covered in mud.
It reminds me of that great scene in Stripes when they all went to the mud wrestling event.
Feel better colds suck…..boil a pot of water chop up as much fresh ginger and add honey and seep for 30 minutes.
Then start drinking!!
I know…Muddy Jeep=man magnet. I’ll confess that I get a real pleasure out of leaving it that way for a bit. One of the boys said we really should clean after the last time we went up to the mountains, but I told him….no honey, this is what its for. Don’t worry it’ll rain soon.
I wish I could find the ginger. That’s the problem with letting the boy cook. Well actually its two fold. He is a very wonderful cook, but he could make a bulimic fat and sassy if you let him, and he’s got my spice cabinet so messed up, I couldn’t find the ginger if it jumped up and bit me on the nose, but I’ll try. Thanks!
Bertie, i take it pseudoephrine. not working too well LOL
i agree with david told you to do, but i would put some peppermint. thats my home remedy also, as well have some scotch. lol feel better Bertie, you wouldnt want to have to fly over there and help the boys take care of you. then you’d be in big trouble.
cheers,
Joe
Lets get Bertie loaded when she is sick always a good idea:)
Good evening everyone,
It’s nice to see the usual gang of suspects have been rounded up and we’re all here together again.
Since David has been talking about wingmen, this is another blog I can offer my insight on, or at least, my lack thereof. I actually never have heard of the term “wingman,” unless it refers to the classic climactic scene at the end of “Top Gun” where Val Kilmer tells Tom Cruise that’s he dangerous, but he can be his wingman anytime. We could learn so many lessons from that movie, mainly there’s no points for second best, but that’s for another time and place.
What caught my attention was the comment that David made about how you communicate is just as important as who you run with, and you have to ask the question whether or not that person is bringing you down. Boy, do I have a story I can share about that.
I do have one friend named Eric. Actually, he’s my only friend, known each other since high school. I felt like my stuttering bothered too many people and I never could be friends with them, but again I digress. Eric and I are polar opposites when it comes to women, and this is what plays into David’s comment about that person bringing you down. I do want todate more, but I don’t complain to him ad nauseum about my struggles. On the other hand, Eric is still living off his so-called “one moment of glory,” which I am sadly forced to relive every time I hang out with him. Eric tells me in unflattering detail how he did it with this skank and her vagina smelled like fish. And while he’s telling me this, I am ignoring him.
Anyway, one time he and I went on a road trip to see a Washington Capitals home game in DC. I have some friends whom I met at a conference who live there, and whenever I’m there I like to meet up with them. Although I am not into lounges, my friends wanted to go, so I went with them, and for most of the night, Eric kept interjecting himself into the conversation, and proceeded to hit on every girl who came in. I felt so bad for not only myself, but my friends, who probably wondered why I was even friends with him. He ruined this whole trip, and when we got back to NYC, I let him have it. I explained that people judge you by your actions, and the company you keep. Because of that incident, I can’t have a wingman. I refuse to.
As an aside though, I did notice an unusual service being offered in the local paper. I don’t know if any other cities have this, or a variation of it, but there are some girls who offer their “wingwomen” services to guys. Basically how it works for $50 an hour, they take you to all the trendy posh spots in the city, and help you to meet the women you’d like to meet. In addition, you pay for the club cover. However, you need to sign a contract that you understand that it is just for their services and this is no way leading to anything else. And what if you’re not into clubs? Then what? David was right in his blog about “Don’t Be Him.” There are certain places that you don’t fit in, and there’s no shame in acknowledging that. I spent too many times in the AOL chat rooms, and it was basically me, robots, girls saying “cum see me on webcam” or high school girls. Sorry, that doesn’t work. And I’m OK with that. Karaoke bars are better, and yes if anyone wants a challenge, I’m the person who can take you on.
Thank you for listening, and as always, the pleasure was all mine.
-SK.
Scotch will just put me out. Try the tequila. I’m especially pleasing with a bit too much tequila in me…….lol.
Joe,
I take ZyrtecD which has the pseudofed in it routinely. I’m allergic to peanuts, almonds, and animals. I won’t give up the dogs or the cats, and usually its not such a problem, but both boys came home sick with colds and apparently I couldn’t dodge it. I’d let some nice man take care of me…….today.
Hello David,
I got your email and I will call you most likely at 6:15 p.m. EST, which will be a quarter after three your time. But I do want to ask you something-since you grew up in the suburbs of NYC, which is worse: standing on the subways or sitting on the I-405 at rush hour? Haha.
-SK.
Steven
Nothing is worse than the 405.
I swear the devil made that freeway.
I live right off of sunset and at times you can see 10 lanes of traffic in both directions at a total standstill.
Not only that you hit traffic when there should be none.
Steven
Think of the 405 if Roger Clemens trainer gave the LIE steroids:)
Hi David,
That’s Thursday….it will be the highlight of my week. That, and trying to figure out what my celebrations will be the Jaguars knock off New England lol.
-SK.
Pats 38 Jags 17
Not even close
Oh and I think the Giants actually have a chance against the cowgirls
Hello David,
While you may commiserate about the I-405, perhaps I might introduce you to the Cross Bronx Expressway and the Capital Beltway around DC, at least with the I-405 you’ve got sunshine to look at LOL.
-SK.
Hi David,
You might be right, but just remember when the mighty fall, they fall hard, and Jacksonville, if they’re going down, they’re going to make the Patriots earn it.
-SK.
Hi David,
Although I should be watching the game, I will be fixated on Jessica Simpson…God made the perfect woman when he made her. I would break all my rules about waiting until marriage just to kiss her, just to say hello….Tony Romo really is the luckiest guy, isn’t he?
-SK.
CJ,
How to get the guys to come over:
1) Look pretty. 2) Flirt. Make eye contact and smile. 3) Rinse. 4) Repeat.
Not too hard, is it?
Steven
Jessica Simpson is perfect until she opens her mouth:)
She is not swift enough for me……or you the way you write.
As for looks she is very Dallas looking.
She is also a curse for Tony Romo….so any and all Giants fan should hope that she is flashing her rack in the stands/
Dunga
Men are that easy to get to come over.
Years spent coaching women and they still refuse to believe how easy we are to get us to approach.
We are giant scooby doos on steroids…throw us a damm treat and we will come a running.
David, I love the “Scooby-Doo” description. I read it somewhere else on your site a week or so ago. As a result, one of my favorite, low cut tops has now been dubbed my “Scooby-Snack top”. Paired with a friendly smile, it never fails.
Hey Theresa! Ladies and gentlemen, the proof that Midwest women rock is in the building! My day is complete =)
Scobby loves to nibble off the low cut tops:)
Hi David,
Very insightful comments about Jessica Simpson….and I agree 100 percent. Maybe for her next number she might try and want to sing “If I Only Had A Brain.”
Although I don’t know what happened with Tony Romo and Carrie Underwood….Carrie Underwood actually graduated college magna cum laude with a degree in communications. So Carrie’s already one upped Jessica….since Jessica’s from Texas and Carrie’s from Oklahoma, score one for the Sooner State!
Steven
She is hotter than the tinmen:)
Hi David,
Yes, she is hotter than the Tin Man. But I’m merely human. I paid ten dollars to go see “The Dukes of Hazzard” only because of Jessica Simpson. I have no qualms about saying that lol.
However, if there is anyone who thinks that Jessica Simpson was hired to play the role of Daisy Duke because of her acting prowess, I have a nice piece of property in Bronx County I can sell you.
-SK.
Nice a piece of property in the bronx!!!!
With views of some run down ratty buildings.
Maybe near co op city.
Hi Steven
Happy to see you too!
It’s nice to look at pretty girls … and guys. But after a few minutes, we all know that “pretty” fades if that’s all there is. NICE and SMART are at the top of my list. They seem to last a lot longer.
Hi David and Theresa and all the other usual suspects,
I will not be on the blog tomorrow night because I have a late speech therapy appointment and therefore will not be able to come on. So I will see everyone Thursday night. David, I look forward to our 6:15 p.m. phone conversation, and yes, while the Bronx will give you some decent views of Co-Op City, remember that the Bronx is home of the YANKEES and what I love most, a blue-collar “screw the establishment” mentality, gotta love it!
See you Thursday!
-SK.
Well, it doesn’t seem like there are any emotional tampons in the house tonight…this is a good thing.
There is nothing worse than being around a bunc of people who are “ragging” on each other. LOL
You know, with tampons, there is always at least one string attached…lol…so…
if you are trying to avoid a strings attached “emotional tampon”….seek out Stay Free Maxis with Wings!!!! LOL Maximum protection with the ability to be flighty and free of any “toxic shock syndrome” that might occur….lol.
Bertie:
Hey, some good ol Benadryl liquid always takes care of my sinus woes…and anything else that ails me because it knocks my ass out! lol
Thanks Joan! I’m doing ok with the cough syrup they gave me….knocks me way out.
The wingman issue speaks to me. After a breakup I fell into the trap of becoming the emotional tampon, sniping from the outer about how all the jerks got the girls etc… My mate and I would go out and just complain about how hard it is to meet women and that you need confidence, you need to be a model, you need money etc.. basically using any excuse we could. But then for some reason I just became sick of it all.
I started hanging out with my other mate who is a champion at creating the party vibe, he attracts all the right attention and knows how to interact with people really well. I began to feel more confident, just by being in his shadow. I think it really helps to have someone there who you can learn from, much like David’s bootcamps I guess. So this mate always helps in a good way, makes you look good. And ladies am I right in saying that one of the best indicators of a man is the company he keeps? And from that I feel I’m gaining my own confidence to step out of the shadow, and fly on my own. Now its like we work in tandem, when its all on its great.
So now cut back to my original friend who drags us down, how do you deal with this when all of you grew up together? Ive told him countless times to grow some balls and just try talking to the girl over by the bar. I’m learning all this too so I’m not brimming with confidence and self assurance yet, but at least I’m willing to give it a try. He just seems to be content to sit there and whinge about the situation, or worse, jeopardize my efforts by making stupid comments like ‘wheres your woman’ or ‘yeah shes so hot’ – within earshot of the girl I was just talking to. He doesn’t seem willing to try anything new, but he’s an old friend so its hard to just cut someone like that off.
Good deal Bertie. Hows the weather there now?
I am due to move back to Southern CA so very shortly and I am thinking with my great luck, I will become part of a mudslide! lol
I will be in the Huntington beach area but still…Gotta wonder whats next?!
Joan,
I live way about uh…700 miles from there. We’ve had rain, lots of thunder and lightening, wind, and nightly power outages that are giving Kitty my Husky the uber freak out. She’s been getting up on the bed whenever the power goes out and snuggling me or throwing a paw over me, waking me up, I move over, and basically she ends up chasing me all over the bed. She’s never done that before. Its real strange.
Huskies are bit sensitive at times.
And a little psycho:)
But which dog is not
Its odd, David, because she’s always been my mellow buddy. Its Panic the Aussie shepard/border collie thats been a tweeker.
Bertie;
Very interesting with the dogs behavior. I really think animals have a sixth sense when it comes to things that are coming that we have no clue.
I notice it in the dog as well as the cats. You know your animal. so when they are out of sorts it is noticable…to me it is. I am very in tune with even the smallest of bird.
Yea…I can hear the laughter and the “yeah right” folks…but I really am in tune with them and I just won’t even try to explain it because I couldn’t if I wanted to.
I would say watch for something more to come, because animals are great with their God given instinct to take cover.
Sometimes I wonder if they don’t have more sense than we as humans, the higher intelectual being of the species.
Joan
Should we call you ‘dog whisperer’ from now on? :p
Yeah, but she’s the only one behaving differently. The cats have been normal. John’s been jumping from the bed to the top of the headboard which is a bit over six foot-its one of those huge oak affairs with storage space and a huge mirror and tiny lights….Well anyway, its tall and huge, and he launches up there which is mildly disconcerting, but one night this last week he launched off in the middle of the night and scared me silly. They sure make life interesting sometimes.
Damn it. Ok try again…
Sam;
LOL Yes, well I am already called that, the cat whisperer, the horse whisperer, the bird whistler, but most of all I am best at being ………………………An ear whisperer.
: P
Ah to he$$ with that dang toungue sticking out!!!!!!
I know how to use my tongue when it is important so
LOL
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL damned if I do and damned if I don’t!!!!!
I am sure you can Joan.
Use that tongue
But be careful of those teeth:)
David;
MMHHHMMM yep….I got the teeth “covered.”
lol 
Bertie;
That is weird. Maybe he is very worried about you? Are you the one hes bonded closest to in the house?
Sometimes, as I am sure any good pet owner knows, your pet knows when you are sick, depressed, anxious…they feel it all. People do not give their animals enough credit out there.
Bertie, have you watched my video on myspace with Mozart? He is my 11 year old persian. It is not a long stretch of video, but it definitely shows…cats DO talk! LOL
Really…it is amazing if you look into your animals eyes, you can see them say, “I love you”
That is the Gods honest truth!
Do you have Caps JOan:)
David;
Yes, I have a plethora of baseball caps. I am a collector..LOL
I have one crown, seeing as I am a queen and all…lol Is that the same as a cap??
Gee willaker whizzies Beaver………..I got that tongue thing dizownnnnn!
Hey, a friend shared this with me…if anyone is interested in Barn Owls raising their young..LOL YES I am serious……..
It is so cool. It is 2 live web cams in a nesting box. They are doing a study on this and personally, I find it facinating!
Last night was my first looksy and I was like ok either they are dead asleep..or just plain dead. I was mistaking rocks for owls. LOL Being nocturnal, thay stepped out for the night
THEN..today I was looking in my favorites for something and saw that link and said oh yeah, lets see whats up now in the day.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH a big ass owl was in one cam and I am thinking 2 younger were asleep
LOL, so what if you think I am a kook…it is so neat. Meercat Manor is another one to watch. Thats entertainment!!!!!!!
When I say the best things in life are free, these are the qualifiers as far as the animal kingdom.
Hey, a friend shared this with me…if anyone is interested in Barn Owls raising their young..LOL YES I am serious……..
It is so cool. It is 2 live web cams in a nesting box. They are doing a study on this and personally, I find it facinating!
Last night was my first looksy and I was like ok either they are dead asleep..or just plain dead. I was mistaking rocks for owls. LOL Being nocturnal, thay stepped out for the night
THEN..today I was looking in my favorites for something and saw that link and said oh yeah, lets see whats up now in the day.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH a big ass owl was in one cam and I am thinking 2 younger were asleep
LOL, so what if you think I am a kook…it is so neat. Meercat Manor is another one to watch. Thats entertainment!!!!!!!
When I say the best things in life are free, these are the qualifiers as far as the animal kingdom.
http://www.theowlcam.com/ This is the link if ya like reality cam
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm grrrrrrrrrrrrr why did that double post???
Maybe y’all need to check out the owl cam?? LOL
SORRY DAVID….My fast finger must have punched in tooo many times
Thats ok…….I left you hanging here all by yourself.
David;
Hmmmmmm ain’t nuttin hanging on me baby..LOL!
I am bound and determined to get a little work done and see these damn owls when they are tired of bug catching …or whatever they do at night. I had a white owl fly 1/2 way into my car window one night when I was working nights.
That damn thing was up in a tree when I went to another unit hours later staring at me. LOL
(I love this tongue icon…it will be in every post now 
)
How ddo I know it was the same owl….I saw his ass…or his face in my car window…I’d know him anywhere. LOL Line em up and I will pick him out of the crowd!!
Aren’t white owls supposed to be bad in some way…like the devil following me or some crap?
Wow, 4 AM, people? Heh-heh, course I was up then too. I have a new cat, or rather he’s a
Bria Dear;
I appreciate your comment; very much so.
Actually it brought tears to my eyes in the reading, because yes, you are spot on when you talk about their abilities to feel emotions as we do. You can look into a dogs eyes, and if you listen with your heart, you will “hear” the longing just to be loved and loyal. Dogs long to be loyal to their “mommy or daddy, or mommy and daddy.”
I used to go to this place on the beach where some annonymous person had plastic bowls scattered abroad throughout the crevices of the rocks.
One day as I was sitting there playing my guitar. I noticed a cat come out of the rocks. I stopped the noise of playing and just sat and watched cat after cat come out to get their share of food and drink water as if that was their last drink.
I had always noticed the bowls of food and water, and knew they were their obviously for strays, but it wasn’t until I observed for myself the desperation in these animals that it hit me. I just sat there and could have filled a stream with my tears.
They were frightened and starving. Me being me…..well I started taking them food in the evenings and was actully able to win the trust of a good number of them enough to lay a hand of love on them. Very rewarding to win the trust of an animal, or for that matter a person who has been so hurt they have no trust left.
Just food for thought…and I will take my own advice when I am unfortunate enough to lose my furry family….You will never find a more appreciative pet than you will find from a shelter.
You have rescued them from a doldrum life of routine into a home with love and warmth. An animal will show you more appreciation than some people when you just give them a little TLC.
OK Off the mush wagon. Hey I cannot help myself…and I don’t think I want to change anyway. I love being able to love so deep…even a furry friend!
LOL Ok I am way to excited here!!! Last night…or early this AM I was talking about barn owls. I THOUHGT I was going to wait up for them, but they are in CA…2 hour difference…Nighty night I went.
Well, they are home now and I am ecstatic like a damn little kid! LOL If you want to see a barn owl and its youn move…every 20 seconds via live cam here is the link….LOL I LOVE IT!!!
http://www.theowlcam.com/
Great story Joan.
As you know I am an animal person and you are right….to get the trust of a stray is an amazing experience.
Bria
You are 100% correct Daphne and I can speak…she spends the whole day in my office watching me work and when i have an associate over she will listen to all that we say.
She is very funny that way…does not want to miss anything that is going on.
David;
Thank you
Aren’t we glad sometimes no one else knows what our animals are saying but us?? lol
I actually got a message from a “friend” on myspace telling me, “Geeze, I just watched your cat video and if I didn’t know better I would say the cat is having a conversation with you.” DUHHHHHHHH LOL
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He is…he is telling me how goos it feels to have my fingernails massage his back. He is in a puuuurfectly heavenly place…..my bed and hands of love. Spoiled brat…I love him.
(Is anyone sick of my tongue yet??..LOL
Ummmm well you know…I adore the owls I have been talking about. I went to the my space page that is an advocate for the ongoing Cornell University Study. These owls are so stunning to see in the pictures he has on the page of pics for people to see.
I will be honest…looking at their rear ends twitch is well a bit frustrating. LOL I need a little more movement. I guess I will settle for the thrill of the “in the box out of the box” factor. LMBO
Joan, how can anyone be sick of your tongue?
bertie, i’m a booze snob, i’ll admit that openly, and tequlia not one of my favorite.. but for you i’ll grab a bottle..
AS for having a wingman, not my things, i’m pretty much the lone wolf, in life, i have very few friends, (by choice) so if i’m going to go out i’m going to go by myself, plus if i was to bring anyone. it would be a wingwoman not a wingman, since most of my friend are woman..
Would do you think about a wingwomen instead of a wingman?
cheers,
Joe
David –
How long have you had Daphne, may I ask? I kinda get the feeling that she’s about 3-5 years of old.
It is heartbreaking, Joan, to see fear, neglect, abuse, etc.. that animals feel when they come into shelters. Most of them “recover” quickly and, but there are those who just never do. This is why I “retired” from animal welfare. It just took too much outta me after a while.
I loss my 15 year old cat this summer. I rehabbed her from a shelter 14 or years ago. She was pitch black w/ amazing green eyes. She started out in life VERY sick. As a kitten, she experienced Rhino, which left her lungs scared. She had an enlarged Aorta from suriving heartworm (yes, cats can get heartworm.) She had asthma attacks frequently and chronic URI conditions. She also had a beebee pellet lodged in her hip. After time with me – and a wonderful herbal supplement I gave her – her asthma stopped and only gave her problems the last 3 years of her life.
She was/is an inspiration to me b/c despite all of her ailments and adversities, she was a fighter and never let that get her down. I don’t think Bria experienced one day of depression. Annoyance, yes. Depression, no. She had the best, feisty personality of any cat I’ve ever had. She wasn’t fearful of ANYTHING or ANYONE. Instead of being scared and suspicious of people, she greeted them with openness and curiosity. There were many times I wish she could have told me about her kittenhood b/c she was 1-2 years old when I got her. But, as the years passed and I got to know her more, I don’t think she would have told me even if she could. “Why bother rehashing that shit? The future is where its act, girl!” probably would have been her answer.
Ultimately, she developed a tumor in her lungs and only lived another 6 mos after diagnosis. I will say that the short hand you develop with your pet really becomes crucial when they are nearing the end of their life. One day, they will look at you and you will KNOW they can’t “do life” any more. Its almost a look of request – asking you if it’s OK that they leave you. Gawd, its the hardest look you’ll ever see.
But, now I have this new cat….a stray, probably 90% full bred Main Coon that my mother trapped in her shed. Frightened, weary, wants to trust….and so the rehabbing begins again…
Bria
Joe,
I’m a tequila snob. I won’t drink it unless its Patron Gold. Hence I don’t drink much.
Joan,
Yes Kitty is my girl. in fact she’s curled up right next to me. Not an easy task for her, but she looks comfy.
Bria,
Sorry about your Bria. Its hard to let them go. I’ve lost a couple of them in the last year or so, and the circumstances were rather awful. I saw a sign out in someone’s yard the other day saying they’d found a beagle that was hurt. I resisted because the resident cat lover, my youngest son, has been on the lecture circuit about the responsibility of a dog. He’s had to pick up some slack for the one dog when his brother isn’t home, and he’s more than perturbed.lol…
Bria
Daphne is almost 6 and i got her when she was 2 1/2
She is amazing no leash ever..will sit and wait for me outside a store or anywhere and not move.
Very loyal and obedient
Joe;
LOL Well to be honest anyone whohas had a tste of my tongue has never had any complaint…moaning yes…but not in a grumbleing sense of the word.
Bria Dear;
As much as I love animals and have rehabilitaded countless numbers since I was a young girl…..kudos to you for staying there so long.
I say I couldn’t do it, but with love and adoration being the drive behind my actions….well I just might surprise myself and be better than I think at the heart part.
Now, who the he$$ is going to shoot a defensless animal with a BB gun?? Line their asses up and let me at em. They will WISH it were a gun popping a cap in their asses. I have been shot with a fully pumped up CO2 pellet gun, so I don’t take at all kindly to seeing this crap done for “sport” or boredom coupled with hatred.
I came across some mid-teen boys one day when I was taking my dog for a walk. These litlle hood rats had a kitten in a tied up gym bag and were throwing it like a hardball around.
Between the dog and me, well we rescued a very, VERY abused kitten of about 6 weeks I would guess in age.
OHHHHHHHHH NOOOOOO!! I didn’t think twice to lay into them with all 4′s….the dogs 4′s…LOL She was great…My “Tootsie”…she was smart and trained…by yours truly
Ummmmm David;
Eeeeee I am sorry for taking this blog off into the animal kingdom at such debts I had to go see where i was at as far as thread content. lol
Animals are one of my many passions, so it is not hard to get lost in the moment.
You know honestly….I think life is my passion so anything that comes up….well I am prone to veer a bit….BUT I am not an emotional Tampon! LOL Hey I ended on threa and thats what “counts”….pun fully accidental…
David;
Aweeee That is only because you are a “good daddy,” daddio
She is precious to watch in the videos. Like a very well behaved child, which anyone who has seen the two spectrums knows…ahhhhh the joys of a well behaved child.
Well, this will be my last animalistic entry I peomise…
The Barn Owls??? For anyone who gives a “Hoot,” (damn I’m good lol)
here is a You Tube link that my friend referred me to to see the last Frieda and Diego experience…..ABSOLUTELY FACINATING!!!!
Thank you for your tolerance David..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQOJCWBixcA
Thank you all for your “condolences”. I’m still grieving.
She was very special. Despite all her health issues, she was relatively easy to care for. The vet was surprised she lived as long as she did. I wasn’t. She was full of life.
David – I love your dog. She’s been in some of the Utube videos and she’s just great. She seems “settled” and content with you and her life. You and her seem to have a very special relationship. You will treasure it always even after she’s gone.
Joan – the stories I could tell you from my animal welfare days would really piss you off!!! It’s just heartbreaking. BUT, it is very rewarding to see ones get adopted into wonderful loving homes. I remember one cat that was abandoned by a family that had moved. The shelter was called b/c the realtor found him in the home when showing the property. He was eventually adopted by a family that had a 10year old boy that just adored him. You could tell they were gonna be buddies. Made all the shit worth it in the end.
What’s up with these barn owls? LOL.
Later, Bria
Bria
You are so right.
Daphne is a gift
Bria Dear;
lol The Barn Owls…this is an ongoing study in Benicia CA. Here is a synopsis of what it is all about, and right now on the cam they are face front (finally) and sleeping.
The video link is cool on you tube because you can go and see the actual video, as opposed to a flinch every 20 seconds.
“..The nestbox has been in use by Barn Owls for over a decade.
Between mating cycles, the Owls use the box for a roost. (A place to sleep during the day.)
2004 was the year we began observing the activity inside the box.
There is very limited access to the box, and the only openings in it are small holes
for the cameras and “The Front Door”. As such, the Owls are pretty much left
to their business. If they want their nest littered with the bones and fur of their prey,
who are we to stop them?
Not to mention, they will use the stuff to make a lovely nest for their babies.
And when they decide its time to clean house, they just kick it all out the front door.
(just ask their downstairs neighbors!)
SOOOOOO…the barn owl….who gives a “hoot?” ME
DAVID:
I really love how deeply you love Daphne. That right there says volumes of what kind of man you are…and it is a good thing.
Well, Texas insomniac here to talk to herself on the blog.
“They may also want to meet someone but they allow you first choice if you make the intial approach without making overtures to that person,
They are non competitive and they are all about being a good friend.”
Man if ever there were a true statement…this is it! I have spoken about the girl who lays her claim on every looker in the place within 15 minutes of our entrance.
I honestly don’t go out to hunt for anything but a little interaction and people watching and a lot of joking and laughter. I thrive off of good conversations and laughing!
I believe with all my heart if you are one to smile, say hello to everyone you pass and have fun laughing and mingleing with people…you are a magnetic force for observers of you. 1/2 the time I am unaware I am being looked at and a “friend” will point out the fact to me.
I am the man retriever a whole lot of the time…in the sense these women are afraid to talk to men. Hell now I have gotten so sick of it I will say some funny crap….then I get the “OHO” (spanish for evil eye) because the guy wants to laugh in my world.
Perfect solution is to be very choosey of who you go out with, and don’t lay claim on every person who looks good. Pick a few, and leave something for someone else!
I have no problem with the ignorance nor the stupidity….THEY do! lol
Dunga, David,
In my part of the country everyone smiles at anyone they make eye contact with. It isn’t considered flirty to smile — it’s just good manners.
Oh, but thank you so much for answering my question.
A Great post on Pets here dude, I own a cute little puppy and she is the best of all.. Takes me to the olden times when she used to be so small she used to fit in my palm