Why They Drive You Crazy
July 11, 2010 
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I want you right now to look at your life. I want you to take inventory of your life.
I want you to write down all of the people who are in your life right now. Then I want you to look at that list, and separate it into two lists: the people who drive you crazy and the people who don’t drive you crazy.
Now take your “drive you crazy” list, and I want you to write down what it is about each person on that list that drives you crazy. For example, maybe your friend Chris constantly badgers you about being late.
Now here’s what I want you to do next. I want you to start working on each of those things that you wrote down which drive you crazy. Here’s why.
Everybody who comes into your life, does so for a reason. They come into your life to teach you a lesson, and get you out of your comfort zone. They come into your life to get you out of that coma that we’re all in during our life.
These people who drive us crazy do so for a reason. They drive us crazy because they are in our lives to teach us a lesson. That is the why they frustrate us so much.
They frustrate us because we know the lesson they are in our lives to teach us is something we need to learn. Those lessons are things that are pretty tough to learn at times.
Do you ever battle with someone over and over again about the same thing? The reason you continue to have the same fight with that person is because you haven’t learned that lesson yet.
So instead of continuing to have that same argument over and over, look at your list and write down how or in what ways that person has a valid point about what they’re saying to you. Say to yourself, “Maybe the things they are trying to convey to me are things I need to learn in order to move forward in my life.”
Say the next time you’re at dinner with a friend, he tells you to put your cell phone down and pay attention to the conversation. Instead of defending yourself by saying that you just need to return one text for work, realize that you’re doing something that maybe you need to stop doing.
So the lesson from this blog that you need to learn is this: Pay attention to the lessons in your life.
Thinking about things that way will make it a lot easier to get a long with co workers!! Thank you David!!
Lol….that has happened to me sooo many times. They did behaviors similar to mine. I now see how irritating and annoying it can be. It really is horrible.
What an amazing post David.
Too many times we blame others for things that go awry in our lives. Not to say that others don’t contribute to setbacks in our lives but at the end of the day we have to look ourselves in the mirror and say “What can I learn from this person or encounter?”
In that spirit, I’m gonna share something personal.
This past week I blew it with this girl and instead of looking at WHAT I DID WRONG I was just plain mad at her for a couple of days. My mind kept asking: why didn’t she engage me at happy hour? Why did she basically walk to the other end of the bar?
So what did I finally come to learn from this person? That I’m too nice. I show too much interest up front and as a result there is no challenge to dating me.
Women want a challenge. They want to know the person they are going out with is a catch. Neediyness has to be the ultimate turn-off. It’s like bad body odor.
So thanks for the reminder David. I owe you one.
Pay attention to the lessons in your life.
Its also important to keep your eyes open so you notice them!
Concise and to the point. I am now thinking about my list. I may have a big list of people who annoy me. Most of it comes from my family:)
Its sad when we repeat the same mistakes over and over again.
heres a tip…watch Minute to Win it’s crazy couple episode on wednesday!
It’s it funny how we are so quick to point out the flaws of someone who aggravates it, when most of the time…the exact issues we fault them for are usually the same issues we battle ourselves. Life is strange sometimes.
Awesome post, great way to look at life.
Very good word, I love what you have to say and i relate to this one especially!
This is so true and very recognizable. Been there so many times.
Hi David
It’s really a great post. I think it’s very important to exclude those people in your life.