No, I don’t have a man crush on Drew Brees nor am I going to have a bromance with him. Here is the scoop on why Drew Brees is the sexiest man in America, and why every single man needs to listen to what he said in his post-game conference.
When asked to what he attributed the Saints’ Super Bowl victory, he basically told the world that he believed in everything the Saints were doing. He believed in his team. He believed in his coach. He believed in the city of New Orleans. He believed in himself.
He said it with such passion and conviction. I am putting a YouTube clip at the end of the blog of him making this speech after the game so you can see it for yourself.
He even showed emotion in this speech. At the end of the game, he had his son (maybe ten months old) in his arms. While his son was clueless about what was going on, Drew was not.
His son looked around the stadium like any ten month old would, with a look of “What the hell is going on here?” (Well, that is what he would say if he was talking on an E*Trade commercial). With tears streaming down his face, Drew Brees held his son because, to him, celebrating that moment with his son was more important than anything.
The bottom line is that it is called passion and desire . . . and it shows. The problem that most men have when it comes down to meeting women is that they do not believe in themselves.
They don’t believe in the game plan. I see this every day. I think of myself as the coach and you guys being my team.
I can’t tell you how many times I receive an email that says something like, “You know, I tried that one thing you talked about in one of your programs, but it just doesn’t work for me.” Do you know why it didn’t work for you?
The reason it doesn’t work for you is because you don’t believe in yourself. These principles and techniques work for me every single time, and they work for everyone else who believes.
When your coach tells you what to do, do you do it or do you just over-think things? Sean Payton told Drew Brees what to do. Drew Brees believed in Sean Payton 110% and did everything he was told, because they work together.
It’s called trust. It’s called confidence. It’s called faith, not only in yourself but in the people you go to for advice.
Do you want to be more sexy to women? Become Drew Brees.
Now, I’m not talking about you throwing the ball to Marques Colston in the end zone. I’m talking about living your life full of passion and belief.
Not one time did Drew Brees ever think that the Saints did not have the better team, even when they were down 10-0. You could see it in his eyes. All he wanted was to get back on that field, because he truly believed that the best team was his team.
When you walk over to a woman, do you truly believe that you’re the greatest gift she’ll every experience? Or, do you walk over with your tail between your legs wondering if she likes you and will accept you?
Where is your mindset? Mindset is everything in life.
Without the right mindset, the Saints would not have won the Super Bowl. I talk all about that in yesterday’s blog.
They had the right mindset. They had the right beliefs.
Did the Colts believe that they were the better team? Absolutely. Do the Colts maybe deep down still believe that they’re the better team? Sure, because they believe in themselves too.
Belief is really important. It’s time that you are able to believe in yourself, and that you stop wondering what other people think of you.
Walk over to that woman, as Drew Brees would, and claim her for yourself. Walk over to her and be the most powerful version of Drew Brees that you can be.
So now, watch Drew in action as he made this great speech yesterday:
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2:04 pm
David
Great topic and so true.
I own your mens mastery series and it is awesome. When I first got it I was all about doing things my way and then one day I decided to change that and really listen to you.
Since that day i have nothing but changes in my life and now I am getting married in the fall and its all thanks to you Coach:)
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3:49 pm
wow Anonymous, are you really getting married? Well congratulations on the marriage and its must really nice to be you!
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3:55 pm
The whole mindset thing is so powerful if we can implement it, we would really become so dangerous:)
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3:56 pm
David- That was really an eye opening video.
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4:12 pm
Does this mindset work for all types of women?
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4:14 pm
I am very suprized they won yesterday oh well i guess best things happen to those who really believes in themselves.
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4:15 pm
David: I have been a reader for some time but never took the time to really make any comments. However I’m curious today what you guys think about sex. Do you think in order to have great sex you will need tom have some great mindset?
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4:18 pm
I have always believed in everything you taught us and you know it is like a team you are guiding us with great mindset everyday. If i had to pick this would be one of my favorite blog so far this year.
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4:27 pm
Asian lover- of course it does man, its not about what kind of women it works for, i think you are missing the whole point, its about believing in yourself man.
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4:28 pm
Asian Lover-
Like Jimmy mentioned its not just about one type of woman it works for all. Re-read the blog again.
What are some of mindset are like?
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4:30 pm
David man so true. Lately I’ve been panicking and getting so frustrated. I have not been able to get one single date since last year. I don’t know if its my game or my belief system.
I feel like giving up. But I think about it and I know I shouldn’t. It just sucks man. I think I come too arrogant or too cocky. Dude damn. I mean I know what to do. You can see me in all the blogs. I always answer the right answer but my problem is that I think all I do is talk the talk but I cant walk the walk.
Fuck. I’m frustrated right now. I know valentines is supposed to be the lovers night but I think that I dont have to panic. Cause if I do I know I will look super needy. But I would love to get a date by friday or saturday.
Man, If anyone could help me I would really appreciate it. I really would.
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4:35 pm
Mario- I really like reading your thoughts b/c you are so sincere with yourself. I say keep on going, you have come so far, and you are about to give up man? We can’t let you do that. Like David said we are a team now:)
So keep on pushing yourself man, i still do that everyday. There are good times, bad times and ugly times but when you keep pushing yourself you will experience lot of good times i will tell you that.
do you have any potential to call upon for valentines date?
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4:38 pm
The more I live the more i see how this is so true i will quote from the blog “Where is your mindset? Mindset is everything in life”
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4:42 pm
Jeffrey man thanks. Its the only way you will get help, if you are sincere with yourself first.
Actually I had been talking with some girl but I don’t know man. She’s the kind that is cool with everyone and the one that doesnt want any ties at the moment. I talk to some girls but I dont really know how I could escalate to a potential date. I just kid around with them. But I dont know if they see me as a potential date. You get me??
Whats frustrating is that even though I follow most of this advice I can’t get a date yet. It pisses me off. And about calling someone I really don’t know who it could be.
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5:14 pm
I never understood the power of a great mindset until i came across your website and listened to what’s your excuse program.
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5:16 pm
Mario- you are welcome man. i agree the only way you get help is to be sincere with yourself first.
why do you kid around when you want to ask them out?
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5:18 pm
Mario- with some patient you never know what can happen man, so i would just relax little bit, and not be too worried about the outcome of valentines day.
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5:21 pm
Mario
What makes you think you may come across as too arrogant and cocky?
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5:30 pm
Well Jeffrey its not that I kid around when I ask them out. It’s that during class I kid around with them. Crack jokes and I think people might see me as the funny guy not the sexual guy.
Well Jacob in comments that I make during class I sound, well I think I sound, super cocky. Sometimes arrogant. So I don;t think people really like that of me.
I have to step my game up tommorow for sures. I dont know how I’m gong to do it but I will try.
I just have to stop being the funny guy and just chill during class.
Yea maybe your right Jeffry and I should just chill and not worry about the outcome maybe I will find someone. Who knows!?
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5:45 pm
Hey Dave u had me worried there…lol…I did not think u would give up Sonja and break her heart. Hey what about Daphne is she doing okay. love n hugs to u Dave. See you on face book…
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5:51 pm
AWESOME MESSSAGE DAVID
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5:54 pm
so david, you expected the Saints to win or what? I always bet on the underdogs. ;D
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6:02 pm
It’s easy to believe in yourself when you have been the star football quarterback since high school, born with good looks, and extreme athletic talents. Gone out with every pretty cheerleader you wanted, and finally end up winning a Super Bowl to boot, and winning the most valuable player award. Wow, that’s tough to give a good speech after such a life!! Try making that speech when you were introverted all through school, had a terrible childhood (due to abusive parents),and school years that did not go well, or include women on demand. I think I would pick someone like that, who has overcome unsurmountable odds, overcome a divorce or two after a decade or more of marriages, and had bad luck and hardship to overcome, yet still comes out a winner, and overcomes all these obstacals, over someone such as Brees….Don’t ya think, coach?
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6:17 pm
Mario,
In HS, there’s nothing wrong with being the funny guy. A lot of girls like the funny guy b/c they want to have fun. But are you more fun or are you more funny? You don’t want to be the constant clown and entertainer but there’s nothing wrong with being funny.
As far as going on dates, Mario… come on! It’s all about just hanging out 1-on-1. If you just ask her to hang out with you without her friends, then it’s a date!
Dating doesn’t have to be this big formal ceremony. You are putting way more pressure on yourself than you should.
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6:18 pm
Tantra, to have great sex, you definitely need to have a great mindset.
Wen your mind is in the right place, when you focus on being totally immersed and engaged with your lover’s body and mind, that’s when you get the best sex!
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6:19 pm
What does it mean to fall in love?
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6:19 pm
Asian lover,
yes it works for all women. Women are attracted with strong powerful men.
When you have a great mindset, you usually have a strong sense of purpose and direction in your life. Along with that sense of purpose, women can see the passion and raw hard on you have for life. When they see that in you, they attach that perception to you being passionate.
And women LOVE passionate guys who want to fight for something they believe in.
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6:30 pm
jacob, observational openers dnt seem tht effective in bars and clubs…..are they better for day to day occasions?
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6:34 pm
fabtastic post, very appropriate 2 me!
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7:09 pm
one of my worst fear is to think what other thinking about me, in this blog you just answered my question today so thank you.
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8:08 pm
Khiem i’m being in my eyes the constant clown. It is really not helping me at all.
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8:21 pm
I humbly have a suggestion for Mario. Seeing several of your posts over the last week, including the one about a girl not calling back, I’m thinking…
You are talking about what to do, how to act, your ‘game, whether you are too funny, or too cocky…(seriously how can you be too funny
So my suggestion is? How about the girls? How about telling us what you liked about a certain girl? The way she moves? Her shy laugh when she’s embarrased? That she is sometimes clumsy and bumps into things?
The combinations of these writings lead me to think there is a very bad case here of what david calls monkey chatter.
One of th emost powerful advices I EVER read from Mister Wygants produces, was to shut the **** up and listen to a person. REmember the excercise of writing down everything you remember after a conversation?
I should get back to this myself I realize, as I’m a real Mr Chatterpants when I’m comfortable. I SO remember this one time though, I had a drink at night with a colleague with which I felt quite the chemistry. I started listening to her. And instead of -as usual- replying to everything she said with an experience of my own… I asked another question about the same subject whilst thorougly enjoying looking at her and her eyes (yes she was beautiful to me). 4 hours later we were still talking and as we said goodbye… She kissed flabbergasted me. Nothing came of it but boy…
Shutting up and listening to people? Is that ever a powerful thing!
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9:13 pm
Did you hear that? David AKA Sean Payton is taking us all the way to the super bowl!! Of dating that is lol Great post
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9:58 pm
I will be the first to admit my bromance with Drew. Overall todays message is a perfect example how if we change our mindset, the rest will fall into pieces.
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10:09 pm
Lots of monkey chatter-
They observational exercise can work both during night and day if just get out of your head, and think outwardly.
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10:58 pm
Jed,
I just want to say that I believe what David is proposing is absolutely true – but is something that cannot be faked. We need to actually feel worthwhile. In fact, I think love is something that happens from the inside out. In order to experience love, we need to be able to generate loving feelings inside ourselves. Then others are drawn to us – it’s all about the vibe in other words!
I hear all the time about all the hardships people experience. It is a main topic wherever you go. I’m sure I’ve told these stories myself. But after awhile we have to tell a different story. I think I have discovered it’s a matter of where I place my focus. Yes, terrible things happen and most of us have had some fucked up tings occur in our growing up and even sometimes our adult lives. But it is what we do with this that counts. If we keep focusing there and talking about it, nothing can shift.
I heard an interview Drew Brees gave with Katie Couric prior to the game and thought I think this guy is going to win! Why? His attitude! It is not just people who have been born with a silver spoon in their mouths who have such an attitude. He has his priorities in place. He gets the concept of team, family, and community. He was out there not just for himself but for all in his circle – and it was a pretty wide circle. His heart and soul were in it! I believe that is why he won. His perspective is not reserved for only those who have not faced adversity. Many of the more remarkable individuals whom have faced tremendous adversity have triumphed and made tremendous contributions. They light the path for us!
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11:48 pm
lots of monkey chatter–what observational openers did you use? Just curious from a woman’s standpoint…
Mats–loved your story about listening to the girl! It is powerful as we all want to be heard and feel as though you are really present and interested in us and what we have to say!
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12:03 am
I love this message. Changing mindsets is really what got me to where I am today. I met an absurdly beautiful girl, who is also interesting and funny, for coffee on Friday. Back in November or December, I would have tried desperately to get her to like me, but I have a better mindset now. I don’t need her approval. I know I’m the man. I had a good time on the date. If she calls me back, I’ll probably be spending Valentine’s Day with her. If not, so what? She didn’t feel it. That’s her problem. I was showing her my best self, and if that’s not what she’s looking for, it’s her loss. There’s a flask of Jameson and a cigar waiting for me anyways.
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12:05 am
How do you guys like the new way of posting?
A bunch of people wanted to posy annonymous so now we have that.
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12:06 am
Collin
YOu have the power of Brees!!!!
Great mindset now keep that up even if she does not hang with you again!
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12:07 am
Mats
YOur post are always a great read.
Full of honesty and I really like that!!!
Keep up the great work!
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12:08 am
Joe
Everyday with the right mindset can be the suoer bowl of dating!
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12:10 am
Jed
Are you that man?
Do you want me to interview you and share your story with the world?
Are you the guy who has overcome all of that?
I dont care if someone is the star qb or not life is all about mindset and faith in who you are and it has to start somewhere.
Tell me more about yourself.
I am always looking to interview people on my podcast,
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12:50 am
Thanks David. You were instrumental in helping me to achieve that mindset. This date was huge, not because I think she’s the girl I’m going to marry or anything, but because I’m fine with it not working out. Not only that, but I had the balls to ask out a girl that most guys would think was way out of my “league.” I’ll keep doing what I did until I find the a girl who I have incredible chemistry with. I can be okay with that because I already know I’m a total stud.
As for anonymous posts, I don’t really like them. It complicates responding to people, and you can just post under a fake name if you like to keep your identity secret.
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12:54 am
Thanks for the compliment David, and thanks for whatever it is exactly that you do, there is a lot of joy in it.
I got here because of a friend who wanted to help me get out and connect. But he only showed me ‘pick-up’ artists and ‘the game’ and that whole scene. By accident(youtube) I stumbled on a video of yours. You are one of the few in this area that offers something that is not purely about manipulating people in what is to me an evil and sad way. The reason I keep reading your blog is because you have way more to offer. You have a sort of wholistic view; more about enjoying life than conquering a love object.
Maybe I’ve gotten over my shame about reading a blog on how to meet people and will start passing it on to some friends that need it more than me. In fact, I will.
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4:09 am
Great one have to say responding “anonymous” does not make sense as you really can’t
respond ro someone.
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8:40 am
David- I think its a very good option for people who really don’t want to share their real name. I’m just kind of self conscious about that, but this new way I feel less worried about what I say with my name.
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9:13 am
Loved the video! I always try to say things with certainty when im in an intimate conversation, rather than half baked answers. Hope everythings going cool for you Dave!
Pete C
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9:18 am
If you don’t want to share your real name, just use a different one or type your initials. Hell, type in fake initials. The anonymous poster thing seems unnecessary though. How are we supposed to know if an anonymous post is by the same anonymous poster or a different one?
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10:22 am
well my thoughts to anonymous he can do as he wishes. now back to face book luv n hugs
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11:48 am
Lots of great stuff here as usual
Mats: Wait a sec, you mentioned having shame about reading this kind of blog? Why is that?
I see nothing wrong with asking for advice on how to become good at doing something you are not good at
. Heck, the people who are considered to be the best at what they do, constantly seek advice and ways to improve (be it athletes, businessmen, public speakers, scholars, actors, comedians, writers, etc.) The people who are the absolute best, make a conscious effort to understand how the “game that they play” works, how to become better players, and how to make it more fun! 
If you want to be one of the best, then pick up the habits from the best!
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11:51 am
I agree with Collin. People who wish to stay anonymous can just give themselves any name they want. This way we can keep better track of who said what and give them a more personalized answer (I feel that its a bit easier to connect to someone with a nickname than to 20 people named anonymous).
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3:53 pm
Mats man wow. I understand exactly what you are saying. I think i’m focusing too much on looks and not enough if they interest me or not. However I recently was crazy about this girl. She’s the romantic type meaning that she wanted a guy with the qualities in a romantic book. She also had trouble issues. She also looked like Taylor Swift so you could imagine how pretty she was. Anyways after realizing that this girl was not interesting at all I just let her go. Before I would of kept on insisting and kept on talking to her. Now I could say that I have grown up and seen that whats important is how I feel.
Thanks man. I really now see how I worried I was. I think that right now I’m way more calm. In a way I see myself as the Alpha-Male in the class because I’m always talking with my friend about everything. Relationships, fantasies, music, girls, sex, everything. The class is always listening to what we have to say. So yea they see me in my eyes as the guy who is not shy and talks and is funny. So Why in the world should I be worried. Plus who cares if the girl is pretty. I know that she talks to other guys and thats a great challenge.
Before I used to want easy things. I now realize that if its easy then its not worth it or not gonna last. I have to get that challenge and step up to the plate and strike it with steel knives. Thats the only way I’m going to progress as a person. Its the only way I will truly grow as a person and stay that way and never go back to my old self.
David, Jacob, Khiem, everyone that replied thank You very much. I really apreciate that you guys take your time and listen to what I have to say.
Without more,
Mario
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4:42 pm
Mario-
you’re very welcome!
we’re always here to help.
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5:07 pm
And yea I’ve been doing so much monkey chatter. I mean sometimes I do it because I’m so bored. But yes most of the time cause I’m bored, but sometimes I do it cause I’m insecure. It’s not right.
So is it right for me to do monkey chatter when bored?
Another thing is that when I talk in class I sometimes talk about how girls are so curious. And I name all the things girls do. Is that bad or good? for me to talk about girls like that??
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5:13 pm
lol, boring openers lastnite 2 b honest, so boring im embarressed 2 write them, but guess thts monkey chatter, one was when i walked past a girl she luked bord shitless in her face lent up against side bar not really talkin 2 her friend, as i walk past i very confidently went u luk bord shitless, she resonds, no im jst looking for sum1….i sed who a talk dark handsome male …smile….and pointed at my self, (5 foot 7), she goes no jst this guy, anyway theres a big huge piller in front of her so she cant see rest of club so it was clearly bs, so i go hmmmm interesting, ul struggle 2 find nyone behind tht, then i sed nice talking 2 you enjoy ur night and left…..i jst feel in a normal day place u luk bord comment casually as you walk past wud b greeted with more openess from a girl, and in a bar these casual openers are not gna build attraction as quick as u need 2! ………………………………….one final thing 2 note,which is mayb showing when i talk 2 women, even tho i talk confidently, i dnt believ young women under 25 find me attractive nymore, and find it hard believing i can attract them, see when i was younger id go out pull women drunk and not anylise tht i cudnt do it sober take them out few days later sober and mayb start dating them,i was pritty confident in my dinial comfort zone, its only since i started studying game in last 15 months in an attempt to lose approach anxiety when im sober,had rejections sober, its like had a negative effect on my head, add this up with a few 9or 10 women canceling first dates on me in last 2 months and 2 b honest im monkey chattering 2 fuk. i see alot of gud qualitys in myself 2 , im fun all my mates think im funny, iv dated 100s of women b4, older women 35 plus think im super cute, jst i dnt seem to beable 2 attract the women i want always get rejected!i hope u clever coaches can make some sort of shit with my essay above, i think the conplexity how iv written it willchange ur line of work, speak soon -lots of monkey chatter!(well i had 2 live up 2 myname didnt i!)
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12:35 am
Quote (Gerardo):
“Mats: Wait a sec, you mentioned having shame about reading this kind of blog? Why is that? ”
Well having a masters in psychology (psycho-analysis), it took some humility to check out this kind of thing, as you would think psychologists know more about this than some person from experience.
Along the way though, I realized that psychology is focused on helping people mostly in abstract ways (therapy) or drugs. At the same time some psychologists almost jokingly remind us, that a positive new relationship is nearly always more effective than therapy.
Yet not one psychologist while be able to help you in a pratical way in that field. In a way this is a novel kind of therapy perhaps. Changing how you are is a lot easier if you can couple this with a changing environment (relationships with others).
Still if I’d go back to the faculty they would first laugh at me. But then after a while they would probably admit the usefulness of this kind of thing.
You often need a tiny bit of love and good vibes to get anything started.
You are correct though, Gerardo Saldana, that you have to learn from people. For some time it’s been my attitude now that I can learn something from EVERYONE, no matter how dumb or crazy they are. I guess that is how I was able to be open to the ideas going from the pick-up cons (not artists
) to here.
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6:39 am
This was a great blog. Even for a non-jebus-believer like myself, the power and obvious importance of faith has not been lost. I have found however that it’s quite easy to be cool with yourself when life in general is going well, but at the moment I’m unemployed and have trouble feeling like anything but a complete loser. And when I feel like a loser I act like one. Consequently I’m perceived as one. This will change of course when I find a job, but it seems wrong somehow that that should be my prerequisite for feeling ok with myself…
The anonymous posting thing is good, but it makes it hard to reply to someone when there are more than one anonymous posting. On 4chan.org, where most people post under anonymous, each post in a thread is assigned their own number, so when you want to reply to a post you click on their number and it shows up in your post. Might be useful here methinks.
Increase da peace and happy valentines day!
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