Comments on: Who Should Pay For The First Date?

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 18:49:09 +0000

Jeff

Yes men pay and ask her out on date one you are correct as i stated above i was talking about dates in general and never said date one.

Have a great 4th Jeff!

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 18:48:01 +0000

Jack

Are you a guy who lives by all rules.

Think for a moment.

Your hanging with a girl and she says i want to take you out.

What do you do?

I never said this was a first date but it seems people love to twist the words around a bit.

I love when a woman takes me out but as i have written in the past a man should ask her out for the first date and pay.

Going forward its all equal if thats how the dynamic chooses to be.

There are a lot of women that love taking a real man out for dinner:)

Thanks for posting and always enjoy seeing all opinions.

Have a great 4th Jack

By: JackWarbucks

JackWarbucks — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 16:32:43 +0000

Sorry, I just think this is horrible advice. Guys always ask the woman out first, that’s just the way it works. There are rare exceptions to the rule, that are just that, exceptions. In reality, most women will just stay home wondering why the guy didn’t ask them out. This is basically the same as saying “Guys pay on the first date”. It’s only mincing words.

Personally, I don’t think anyone should even go on dates unless they’re “dating”.

By: Nick

Nick — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 16:19:43 +0000

Hey David,

I had always believed in doing low-cost first dates to avoid the cash issue. Sure, I’ll pay for small things like her coffee or frozen yogurt, but it’s not dinner. What do you think about the argument that paying for the first date is a bad thing? Doesn’t it send a message that you’re trying to buy her? Some women (I’m in college so we’re all broke) also don’t seem to like having the guy pay for the first date if it’s dinner. It creates a feeling of debt (cash or otherwise).

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 04:26:48 +0000

You know that there’s still a minimum amount of women who will ask a guy out on a first date.

By: Tom

Tom — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 03:45:05 +0000

Its so funny…women have been fighting for equal rights across the board, from voting, equal pay and everything else under the sun but when it comes to dating they want to be treated like little girls.
“Yeah, the man always pays!” Hogwash! I agree with David, if I ask her out then I pay but if she does the inviting then you wanna be my equal then you pay the whole tab.

By: jeff a

jeff a — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 02:44:28 +0000

David,

Didn’t you just say in a recent podcast that men should pay for the 1st date and not be cheap?

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 02:22:01 +0000

I wholeheartedly agree.

Earlier this week I addressed this in a post on my own site (including linking to David’s Don’t Be Cheap….) – reading the words are great and to have it reiterated by a man’s deep voice…

- guys – hope you are getting it!!! First impressions count!

Tatiana and Farley – thanks for sharing about other places in the world. In Indonesia also – it is almost unheard of that a woman would pay!

By: Farley

Farley — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 21:16:06 +0000

Howe,

Yes they do

By: Tatiana

Tatiana — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 20:39:51 +0000

Totally agree, a man is supposed to pay if he asked her out. And it’s not just a woman’s opinion. When I have a business meeting with men I always pay my part. If I ask my fiancee out, I pay for both of us.

But dates are different. I think we’d better stick to the ground rules, otherwise we won’t have any romance in life.

By the way, in Russia, a man would be offended with my attempts to pay for myself.