Who Is In Your Hot Tub?
October 5, 2009 
24 Comments
It’s Monday. All right, so I missed with my Titans prediction. I did, however, hit with everyone else — which puts me at 11-1 now for the season going into tonight’s game. For that game, I predict the Vikings will beat the Packers.
11-1 . . . I am pretty impressed! What really does not impress me, though, are men who hang out with strippers and who pay strippers to hang out with them.
We had friends in town this past weekend who stayed at the 4 Seasons Hotel. We went there last night to hang out in the hotel’s hot tub.
There was a middle-aged man alone in the hot tub when we arrived. He seemed like a nice man. About three minutes later, though, three bimbos with long nails came bearing drinks and speaking in Paris Hilton-like sentences.
The man started talking about his hotel room and other such things. The women immediately started “wow-ing” about his big balcony. Then they got on the phone with their friends and started going on and on about how they got their nails done at the 4 Seasons and about the guy’s huge balcony.
You know, anyone can open their wallet and invite three bimbo strippers to their room. Unless you’re going to have the sex of your life, though, being forced to sit and listen to these women is just painful. I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.
Why is this such a thrill for guys? Here is this guy hanging out with a group of women who can only manage to speak in Paris Hilton type half-sentences. I never understand this.
Of course I get a guy liking younger women, but there’s certainly younger intelligent women he could find who would like him. The conversations they were having were so boring. No one was listening to each other. All I can think is, “Why?”
I know men, and I have coached men, who have done this. The sex is never any good, because the women aren’t into it. They just want the cash or the fringe benefits (like getting their nails done at the 4 Seasons).
What really happens is that the women just try to get the guy to come as quickly as possible. So who is winning here? It’s just so gross.
I’ve had casual sex, but I’ve never paid for sex. Maybe I’m just more evolved and maybe there are just less evolved people in this world . . . and that’s fine.
It’s fine if you’re the type of guy who looks at women like a piece of meat, is only interested in getting his dick stroked, and couldn’t care less about an emotional connection. That’s not the life I want. That’s not the life I teach.
When we were sitting in the hot tub, the man kept looking at me and smiling. It was like validation for him, as if he was saying with his smile “Look, I have three hot bimbos with me in the hot tub!” I ignored his smiles.
If you want to impress me, impress me with who you are as a person. I’m not impressed that you can get three strippers into a hot tub. That doesn’t impress me in the least.
While he was sharing a second grade-level conversation with those women, we were having a deep conversation about life. So why does he think I’d be impressed that he has three bimbos with him? Sometimes I’m embarrassed by my own gender.
So this kind of guy doesn’t impress me, nor does the guy who whips out the black American Express card at dinner. Why should I pay a couple thousand dollars a year to have a credit card that does the exact same thing as my free one?
I’m also not impressed by the guy who pulls in front of the coffee house in his Lamborghini but doesn’t bother to put money in the meter because he doesn’t care about getting a ticket. He figures, what’s a measly $60 to him.
If you want to impress me, get deep and tell me who you really are. I couldn’t care less about all this surface stuff.
Oh, and by the way Mr. Hot Tub from last night, I know you’re reading this today because I dropped my business card on your towel (and human intuition definitely wins out every time). This blog is dedicated to you.
I guarantee you got nothing out of last night, except a thinner wallet and maybe an orgasm. In reality, though, you are just as lonely today as you were yesterday.
So how do all of you feel about men who use their wallets on prostitutes and fancy cars just to prove how successful they are?
If you want to know know how to meet women who want to hang out with you, check out this video:
How can you tell the difference between a “checking out” look and an “I’m just looking around” look?
dmn….thats a hot pic:)
also the new setup of the videeos are really cool!
I really enjoyed today’s video and the step by step break down, the guy seems so calm and relaxed doing this.
“I swear, Daphne had more to say than these women did.” hahahahha
You are right on about todays blog, what’s with guys who seek validation by having hot women in their life, and parking their lambo without putting money in. These people need to be kicked in the butt, to wake the fuck up, I bet you see a lot of them in LA David!!!
That’s hysterical you dropped your card on the towel, now I want to hear from him:)
Maybe he doesnt have the balls to write here, because you are so right on the money!
Some reason this feels like Wednesday blog, i guess b/c you have the video. I couldn’t stop laughing about todays story about Mr. Hot TUB
I;m curious if anyone in this blog ever paid for sex?
I did lol
not what you are thinking though Don Juan- I paid for the drinks when we went out on a date:)
good one howe:)
Show offs are a totally turnoff…its fine once in while to dó extravagant things but to base your personality on material things is just not what I am looking for. Near my Old supermarket there were this older chubby guy in an awesome Maserati..his plate read absurd, hé parked in the
firelane and just before i came hé had verbally put an employee Down…just Human trash, theses are the kind of people you should refer to as whitetrash.
But some of those girls also put ón a good show they Can key into what kind of personality he is looking for. Girls too are boring that Can only talk makeup clothes etc.
It would be fun if hé did read the blog, neat move to put your card there. Here the poor soul thought hé was the one knowing how to deal with women..,hey maybe it was Dantheoriginal lol
Hey Marina, how are you?
maybe it is Dantheoriginal:) i wonder where he is nowdays?
Smooth move with the card on the towel. You gotta let us know if he ever contacts you.
Howe
thanks fine getting ready for a trip and you
Flaunting money is definitely a turn-off to most, but there’s no question you can and will attract a certain type of woman with it. And for a lot of guys, that type of woman is totally what they’re looking for. Go to any club on a Saturday night and check out the VIP sections and tables with bottle service, you’ll see the same thing. Nothing new there.
My question, which is indirectly related, would anyone pay for sex if they were married or in an LTR? What I mean is, let’s say you had a major itch or fetish you wanted to fulfill, but couldn’t do it with your wife, and didn’t want an affair. Is going to a pro considered cheating?
Lance
it’s simple, if you can’t share with your partner then it’s emotionally or physically cheating. Sorry no way to justify on a topic like this.
You be surprised what your partner might be willing to do, often it surprises you. Give her the benefit if the doubt.
Great video David? I really like how you explained step by step what was going on it. Are the videos in your Member’s Forum like this?
Curious, not all videos are infield videos on the membership site. We have a lot of personal video answers to guys filming themselves.
And we also have like “tutorials” of how to do certain things… like how to talk sensually… how to position your body. Those are shot either with me, David or Yakub.
Right on Marina…Sometimes you guys just need to ask. Or find a partner with a complimentary fetish.
David or Noah,
OK, so what did Noah talk to the girl & her guy friend about in that video? He walked up and started chatting with her at first & then sat down and carried that conversation on for a while. So what did he find to talk to her & him about?
As for the rich old guy, I wonder what the 3 PH wannabe bimbos had to say about his balcony, maybe “That’s hot.”
Btw, I would really like to be not so much a fly on the wall on those conversations, but a fly on the table. My hearing isn’t too good anymore(too much loud music over the years)so I have a very difficult time overhearing what people are saying with ambient noise going on, like all the other chatter and noise in a restaurant, bar, gym & other places. It’s all muddled, indistinct noises anymore and listening in to learn what & how people carry on a conversation is just difficult. In crowded bars & clubs practically impossible.
Look, I’m NOT a fed or some cop trying to invade people’s privacy, but I DO want some idea of what they’re talking about so I can learn from them or maybe even join in and contribute to the conversation if I know something on the subject.
For instance, I happened to be in a coffee shop tonight for a while and while readinga a Men’s Health magazine near the front counter, I overheard this guy talking to one of the 2 cute girls working there and he asked if she was on Facebook. She said she wasn’t anymore and her coworker says she’s never been on FB. All to my amazement. So I joined in and expressed surprise with kind of a sly smile that I couldn’t believe they weren’t living in the 21st century yet. And then I ad libbed a bit from there. That went on a few minutes, not sure how long 3-4 minutes maybe while I purchased that magazine at that counter.
But most of the time I can’t pick up on conversations because of all the ambient noise around. I guess tonight it was because it WAS a lot quieter and they were getting ready to close.