Whiskey Dick
February 1, 2009 
26 Comments
On Super Bowl Sunday, a day full of male bonding and macho actions.
I thought we could tackle a sensitive topic, one that would cause no end zone celebrations or high fives.
A topic that no one sitting in front of the TV watching the Steelers shave the Cards by 10 would ever mention.
So when you dip your chips today keep in mind about a dip that may not happen later.
Have you ever had whiskey dick – without alcohol?
You start fooling around with a woman, you get naked, and then you just can’t get hard at all?
You can’t figure out why either. You think to yourself, what is it? Am I impotent? Do I need Viagra? Do I need Cialis – so it’s ready when I’m ready? What is wrong with me?
You know what? It happens to all of us.
Sometimes when you get alcohol-free whisky dick it’s because you don’t actually have any emotional connection with her.
A lot of women think that men are just pump and dumpers. They think that men are just into getting laid, but a lot of us are really quite sensitive!
And many of us can’t have sex just for the sake of having sex. We have to have a connection with the other person.
I’ve had nights with alcohol-free whisky dick. If my dick isn’t working, it’s basically telling me, hey man, we really don’t like this woman that much. We like her, we think she’s cool, but we’re really not all that connected with her.
So if you have alcohol-free whisky dick, it’s not necessarily that something is wrong with your dick, but it does mean that you’re probably more emotionally evolved than you thought you were!
Priceless. Too true. You’re the man, David. Go Cards! (not a fan, just cheering for the underdog)
David this is soooo true! I’m 29 years old now, and I can’t get it on with just anywoman now. When I was in my early 20′s I could get off on just the wind lol! Now my little general only arrives at the sound of a woman I connect with emotionally. Maturity, evolution and experience makes life slow down and less rushed. Something deeper does arise and I become aware of more now. Love it though, intimacy with a emotionally connecting woman is the best by far!. GO CARDS! GO KURT WARNER!
Your emotional state can also affect you in this way. If you feel very anxious about your relationship situation for whatever reason (or even have some stress from an external source), you’re very likely to have this happen to you. Clear the air and clear your mind.
Another reason can be that you’re simply thinking about getting an erection too much. Are you kissing her and just enjoying yourself or are you thinking “ok I’m kissing her, I should have an erection in a minute and then its game on!”? Don’t put pressure on yourself. It’s like when you’re playing pool/snooker. If your mind is focused too much on the outcome and you try too hard, you’ll struggle to pot the balls. As soon as you’re relaxed it becomes much easier.
I realise this is often easier said than done, so if you can’t help but think about something… think about the softness of her lips, her warm breathe and the way she riggles as things intensify.
Does anyone have anything to add to this or challenge it?
Last quarter I took a “psychology of human sexuality” class and learned a lot about this topic. The one thing I found interesting is that apparently you can’t really “will” an erection to happen, at least not on a consistent basis, which ironically is contrary to what most men with erectile dysfunction try to do.
So are you saying that this might be the one situation where it would do us good to listen to what the little head is saying? That usually gets me into trouble.
David so right…no amount of any drugs..will fix the problem..the problem is our lack on connection. I have had that problem as well. But now I am more aware of it b/c of this post. Listening to our gut is so important, b/c when there is no connection and we still push it, it doesn’t turn out well. I had to learn from that mistake. Not to push it after I feel like lack of connection.
In addition to Justin’s comment- (nice comment!)
If you are someone having hard time relaxing around women, and thinking too much about your problem won’t help.
I suggest you meditate and think about relaxing, and slowing it all down when you are in bed with her.
very true. been there. but how do you recommend a gracious exit in that circumstance.
“Jesus freak” Kurt Warner ALMOST pulled it off, against the favorites and against all the haters!
I’ve had like 3 heart attacks here in AZ… but they made me proud. Finally, a competitive Super Bowl.
Ok guys will sit this one out I don’t have one of those. Have you ever heard of sexual blahs even women get them. It does not mean that you don’t want to be with them. If you have a lot on your mind then the sex is not there.
I had noticed that when I was around a guy that he could not get up what we would do in that situation is just cuddle or lay with our bodies close together. Also your mindset has a lot to do with it as well. Relax and take comfort in the moment try new sexual positions.
A woman goes through this as well. Think about what attracted you to her in the first place and go from there. Look at her like you did when you first met her.
I have talked to prostitutes before and some of them told me how they kept their climaxes up was visualize the sex when they were with the guy. This is all I can come up with for now. I hope this helps guys. For God created me woman and not man.
Ok one more then I will sit this one out for sure. But I would like to know what you guys go through though. The woman needs to be sensual with you as she is trying to get him up. What I would do is play with him lightly and help the guy. But if the guy is getting frustrated the woman needs to understand that he is wanting to have sex but not at this time. But if my guy is tired then I will ask him to raise his leg and I will cup my hand around his groin area and sleep up against his back. I know that he can get it up later. But in some ways you are right sexual experience should be something that two people share and there has to be the connection. I had learned a person has to have physical, emotional, and intellectual attracts and the gut level attractions in order for them to be together and the woman has to find the ways to push these buttons. A man can live on physical and emotional attractions with a woman for sometime. The intellectual comes in when you are getting to know each other. But the physical attraction only lasts a short while. The same goes on with a woman. I hope this helps.
This is where guys could always take another approach: How about the good old-fashioned close-enough-for-just-the-two-of-you conversation? No, not the serious variety but the quiet, silly type. Maybe some attention that you never really get around to – like maybe that kiss that really starts out oh, so slow and lingers here and there? A stray nibble? Maybe your little general could be a cavalry man and is trying to tell you that you are putting the cart before the horse – an out-of-order sequence of events and you left something out.
Now I think I’ll make a comment aimed at the ladies. This is how to get your man hard if he’s having problems (and you want to get a bit pronto). I would recommend this before taking K’s idea of making a puppet show using his penis. I love the creativity though K.
The problem originates from stress about what is about to come (ie sex). Take that away and you’ve taken away his problem. So tell him that you two are not going to have sex tonight because . Tell him you just want to kiss, canoodle and enjoy each other’s company. Also say it happens a lot and its no big deal (that takes away the extra stress of the embarrassment). And do this.
Now he will have no pressure, he will be aroused and will almost definitely get what my friend Tom calls “a stonk on”.
A quote from the famous Charles Darwin: “Zero stress + arousal = boner” (information source unreliable)
Anyone got anything to add?
David, why couldn’t you have posted this two weeks ago?
Haha, I actually lost my virginity two weeks ago, and this happened to me at first! I was scared. But you’re right, I didn’t have much emotional connection with this girl. I must admit, this girl was very patient with me, but in the end, we didn’t work out because we just weren’t right for each other.
Thank you so much for the post! I’m not so worried about myself anymore!
In response to larc’s comment. How to exit gracefully:
1. OK. She gets naked with you, kisses and fondles you and you don’t get hard. Some part of her (if not all) is going to think that you don’t find her attractive. Make her belive you do find her attractive. Be convincing.
2. By this point she’s wondering why. Tell her why (being an anxiety/stress in your life which affects you in this way because your emotions are tightly connected with your physical body), or that you feel it’s too early for you. Women are very sympathetic.
3. Give her an orgasm with your tools you can control (if it’s appropriate of course)
4. Take my advice above and arrange to meet her again.
PS: Thanks for the compliment on the post Yakub. I’d love to meet you one day.
likewise Justin:)
hey justin
i agree with you. ultimately it comes down to stress. that doesnt have to be an outside factor, it could also be stress about the relationship to the woman.
the most important thing to do is to release stress – i.e. that both acknowledge and understand that sex is not going to happen now. point. it actually can go quite quick then and little joe is back in action.
i think whats key is that women understand its not that we dont find them attractive or sexy if that happens. if it were so we for sure wouldnt have gone to bed with them in the first place.
Markus
I do agree with you but one thing to add when a man sleeps with a woman he does not have LTR on his mind. But don’t just sleep with her and speak all these sweet nothings in her ear and tell her how much you enjoyed the sex making her believe that u want her for a relationship. Remember a woman thinks with love and compassion and she may end up thinking you just wanted her for a notch on the pistol, trophy on the shelf or played the five f’s on her for a one night stand.
1. Find em
2. Fool em
3. Finger em
4. Fuck em
5. Forget em
My philosophy and when u mess with me I can tell when a guy is wanting to play the field
1. Find em
2. Fool em
3. Stroke em
4. Fuck em
5. Flee them
See ya don’t wanna be u. SUCKER
Next blow joe that wants to play me as a fool. Thank God I am single.
Sandra
Im sorry for you you’ve had bad experiences and think that way now. But I’m not sure whether holding this belief now – about ALL men – will serve you well in the future…
just give it a think!
I find it odd that people say Whiskey Dick means you can’t it up… in my experience, ie: drunker than a four peckered billy goat, I never have a problem getting it up. The problem is that I can’t get off! After a couple of hours of nearly giving myself a stroke, I just say to hell with it. It makes women feel awful bad when they can’t make you come.
I think anything that takes you out of the moment… of connecting with the moment on all levels in the bedroom (emotionally and physically) will give you whiskey dick.
Sometimes, it’s not even that you don’t have a connection.. it’s that you are trying too hard to please so you create stress and pressure on yourself to perform… and as such, your little soldier decides to have a strike.
I guess that’s when you resort to good old “finger blasting”
I just learned of that new term yesterday at a comedy show
Markus
I did four times and those are history. Let’s one two three do u know what I am thinking right now and if u do let me know.
Sandra
I just think of Heidi Klum. Works every time.
I had this happen when I was freshly divorced. I slept with a broad (I know bad lingo) and everything was fine the first 3 times then I had this “problem” the next time we were together. It sucked but my emtional state was way outta wack. So I just made sure she was pleasured that night.
G
Hey all… Had to reply just for my dudes out there that really wanna know they’re not alone. Some of this I’ve read I do AND don’t agree with. I had a situation recently where I was VERY MUCH into the girl. She is an EXTREMELY attractive, super hot wet dream of a girl. We had one-on-one conversation, with many instances of intimacy on many levels. However, twice within the same week, I had difficulty. I think part of my problem was exactly how much I DID like her. Anxiety, plain and simple. It was terrible. We had both wanted each other for such a long time, you know? One of THOSE deals… Then, several days later, repeat episode! Performance anxiety I’m SURE played apart. Here’s the kicker… I had sex with TWO SEPERATE WOMEN between these two instances without fail (I was on a mad roll, kids. Serious sex was staring me in the face here)! So, before the second time, I WAS POSITIVE everything was going to be fine. And when it wasn’t, I was absolutely devistated. What an embarassment, right? I’m looking to show this girl that I am every bit as good in bed as I know I am many times a month. Then, BOOM! Nada. Zilch. Noodle Syndomus Maximus. I, honest to god, wanted to go home and cry. I almost did. Needless to say, I had trouble looking this girl in the face the next time I saw her. And also, considering I never actually got the chance to try for a third time’s charm, because of long geographical distance, I’m still contemplating shooting myself in the face to this day. But, what can ya do boys? Get over this or that, and try to figure out how to prevent it in the future. My apologies if this account seems to lack function. It was simply a story that hopefully some can relate to. Later.