What’s Wrong With People?!
February 10, 2009 
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This is an open letter to all my readers. I have but one question today: What’s wrong with people?!
Last week I posted a blog titled “Space Invaders” which some of you complained was too long. Some of you complained that it took a long time to read the whole thing.
So first I got complaints about giving you too much advice . . . and making you have to read a slightly longer than usual document to get that advice.
That was an important blog on an important subject. Whether you chose to want to read it at all or in its entirety is totally up to you. Hearing complaints about the length of that blog wasn’t a big issue to me at all.
That same day, however, I also posted a video along with the “Space Invaders” blog. There were more complaints. Specifically, a number of you complained that the video I posted that day — the FREE video I posted along with the FREE advice I provided in the blog — was a “repeat.”
Apparently I am giving too much free written advice, but not enough original free video advice.
There were complaints that you had already seen that video. There were criticisms about my failure to post a new video.
What’s with you people?!
It’s a free video. I’m working my ass off giving you guys great information every day. A lot of the information and teaching I do I give all of you for free.
I actually went and checked, and discovered that some of you who were complaining have never purchased a product from me . . . ever. Yet somehow you feel it appropriate to complain about the free video I post with free advice in it.
When did this overwhelming sense of audacity and sense of entitlement become so prevalent? What’s wrong with people?!
Those of you who complained or who were “put off” by the fact that I posted a blog that you felt was too long or a video that was a “repeat” need to stop and think about things. Really take a minute and think about this.
I work very hard. I don’t expect you to buy my products. I certainly would like you to buy my products, but I don’t expect you to buy them.
I don’t think this is unreasonable.
I take time out to give all of you free videos, free blogs, free podcasts and lot of other great free information every single day.
How about some appreciation? At a minimum follow that rule your mother taught you about “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all…” (especially when you’re complaining about what you’re getting for free!) C’mon everyone!
I couldn’t believe it when a member of my team read me the comments from some of you about the video being a repeat. Get real. It’s free information. Why don’t you try working every day to to put up a blog for free just to educate people?
I am sure if I came to your place of business and complained that you don’t perform enough work for me for free that I would get some pretty outraged responses. So for those of you who complained, I expect an apology in this blog today!
ALSO….Keep your eye on the blog this week, because I will be making a HUGE announcement — perhaps the biggest announcement I’ve made in the last decade. It’s that big. This is one you will not want to miss.
You know what the perfect analogy is for this? These people who are complaining are the same people who go to COSTCO every Saturday to get the free food samples, then who would complain that the teriyaki chicken fingers are too salty or that they’ve served the strawberry frozen fruit bars three Saturdays in a row (instead of also giving samples of the peach or grape flavors). I can only imagine the reaction these people would get from that lady in the hair net serving them that little piece of chicken on a toothpick if they actually made those complaints. . .
Today’s video is my take on the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” … and as usual, I am not shy in telling you EXACTLY what I think!
I love you. I cannot get enough of your advice. I use it in daily situations and I’ve made many friends. Not only gal friend, but guy friends as well. You definatly are the Buddha of our time. I love ya for it. I’m glad we have someone like you. Don’t really have to pay to have a “hitch doctor”
Great going, Dave. I’m always eager to hear more of what you have to say!
-Robert
Dear David,
I think your absolutely right in asking what’s wrong with people. It’s amazing to me how productive you are and how many original, useful, easy-to-implement and out-of-the-box ideas you come up with time after time after time.
I hope you’ll keep up the great work.
Best wishes, René
Robert
Thanks!!!
Rene
It was great speaking with you last week and i am really glad that i have made an impact on your life.
I do this because I love what I do and it is amazing that some people just lack all social skills.
If you fail me and I get into a relationship that is brutal, I’m going to blame you cause I’m cool like that! ha.
You should do something more on internet dating (neighboring cities) locally. I’m from a small town so I don’t got a lot of choices and I’m trying to get out of a peer group. I’d really appreciate a blog like that. It seems like it’s one of the easiest, most convienient ways to meet new gals.
Thanks again,
Robert
David,
I am grateful for what you do. I am not afraid to say that I admire you. You have my respect.
Myself, I am thinking to start an online business so when I imagine what you share here (plus the new community) every single day its astonishing! And also challenging!
So, I hope that those few people will not let you down.
Keep it up. Respect. Slava
About the complainers, David, there will always be people like that. I guess it’s human nature.
But I for one appreciate the info, including the videos, even if they are repeats. The reason why is I’m new here, so while it may be old news to some people who’ve been here a while, it’s new to me. And another thing is that we often need to be reminded of some things we’ve forgotten so even reposts help in that way.
About that movie; hey, it’s just your average formulated chick flick. Light & fluffy “Girls Night Out” material that someone made for a fast buck. If you flash enough cash in most actor’s and director’s faces, or their agents, they’ll sign on. It’s about the money. Especially in this sucking economy. They put in a couple months worth of acting or directing and that will compensate for what they lost in the stock market or to that Madoff guy who they may have invested with who bilked them out of major $$. It’s really not about the obvious, intelligence insulting “Well, DUH!!” aspect of the plot but cranking out some cheesy flick with big name talent that will get people, at least 20-40 year old women into the theater. And if they realize the movie sucks, that will spread by word of mouth. It may have a big opening weekend and then nosedive into obscurity shortly after.
Great blog David…but you have me REALLY curious about what this “huge” announcement is!
Any hints?
yeah jalen, i was thinking the same thing.
anyone heard anything about what this huge announcement is all about?
david,
everytime you “get tough” with some of these idiots who post those kind of comments, i am more and more attracted to you!
you are the man…and your girlfriend is one lucky woman…
i hope we end up with a world full of guys who learn how to be like you — there will be then be a world full of guys getting a lot of action!
it’s nice to hear someone call these people out!
david – you are such a winer!
what, we cant criticize you now?
you say you want to help but you really don’t.
I want to thank all of you that refuse to get out there and put into practice the things taught here. Thank you complaining that a blog post is too long (or too whatever) thereby focusing on the length and not learning anything from the content. Thank you for being so petty that you will comment on any grammatical or sspelling errors or the glasses someone wears. Why? Because it lets me know that despite the wealth of information being out there, despite there being perfectly good tools and teachers and free information to help one in life, you offer absolutely zero competition to me in the foreseeable future. So long as you make excuses or find reason to not excel to your potential, the women, the promotion, the success is all mine. No, it is all everyone else’s. (The astute reader will note that the last part is of the scarcity mentality, but I digress.)
David, Thank you for your wonderful material, for your videos, for the blog posts. I read them often and I read every word. I am grateful for the advice you give.
You are the MAN David! Awesome post…and I couldn’t stop laughing about the Costco thing…PERFECT analogy.
So I’m dying to know what this announcement is all about like a couple guys have asked in the comments. When are you going to make it?
Kevin, soundsl like YOU are the winer…
dude, we all can’t afford to pay “rich man money” to get to hear your exclusive wisdom…
why should we even consider buying anything from you when you can’t remember that you’ve posted a video and you repeat it?
doesn’t impress me that you have a lot of material to offer.
haven’t you ever heard that you have to spend money to make it?
are we just supposed to pay you money on your word that it’s worth it?
ok, what to comment on first. hmmmm.
well as to the “complainers,” i know exactly how you feel david. i own a coffee/tea store and had the idea of giving free “samples” of my new organic teas thinking that once people experienced how good they are that they would be “hooked” and become loyal purchasers.
well most people LOVED the idea … and the tea… and my sales went up! But then, there were others just like your complainers. Some would come in EVERY day and want a “free sample” of the tea, but NEVER bought anything. Others would come in (who also NEVER bought any) and would COMPLAIN that I was giving away samples of the same flavor tea twice in the same week!
I finally had to stop the practice all together — I’m glad for the majority of us who do appreciate what you give us every day that you are only choosing to chastise the complainers
BTW — how bout telling us at least a little bit about this huge announcement — and you’re going to make it here, or do we have to be on the newsletter list to get it???
David, where is this announcement going to be made – in the blog? And can you tell us exactly when?
I don’t want to miss it!
David,
It’s ridiculous that people complain about your length or “repeat”. All you need to know is that most of us appreciate the advice you have given us and that’s all that matters. Forget the few who are nasty and weren’t taught any manners, there is always going to people like that no matter what you do.
just watched your video david — hillarious!
and how did that tool greg behrendt ever get such a successful book or movie?
Boys take note: No woman is attracted to a complainer or a winer…or to a freeloader.
Dr. Bob – Are you out here? I miss you
david –
you look HOT in today’s video! If I wasn’t already hot for Dr. Bob…
This video was SO funny — and your Jennifer Aniston/Brad Pitt comment was histerical
If a man throws me out of a moving car, he’s probably just not that into me — that could be the first chapter of “he’s just not into you” the next volume…
Well in other blog i already thank you for everything, you have made great changes in my life, i used to be a computer antisocial guy, now i’m full of female and male friends, i’ve a girlfriend and everyone in my life started to admire me of how i find the happiness and how i learned to love myself, whenever they ask me: what happened to you? what did you do to change?, i always say: david wygant give me the advice to, and i have recommend your website since then.
I embrace all your blogs and advices david, keep the good work, and thanks again.
Have a nice day
David
good job david, call these people out! If they don’t like your FREE advise then they can go “try” and find someone else as gracious as you are!
Good point David, but you can’t expect every fool on the internet that end’s up on your blog to appreciate you and your Teaching. I’m glad to see most people who post their comments are aware of the value of your advices and thoughts you share with us. I, once again, thank you for everything I’ve learned from you and for what I am still about to.
Andy, all the free material that David presents, along with his client’s comments should be more than enough for you to make a judgment whether or not what he teaches is worth your money. If the answer is “no”, then don’t read his blog, don’t watch his videos, and most importantly, don’t complain about the free material.
Robert
Dont let me fail you!!
Very funny post!!
Slava
Since the day i met you at union college you have been a great person to get to know.
Always very appreciative of every tip and advice that i have give you.
You are a great man and any woman that ends up with you is very very lucky!!
Peter
Living in LA all it takes is one lucky break and you are off to the races.
In my 20s i tried to be an actor and realized that controlling your own life is the only way to licve.
I did not having others control my destiny.
David
Thanks you made me smile and i am glad that i have impacted your life.
I read your blog everyday and everyday I find something new to entertain me in there. Keep going David, we all have our fans and our failures. Let these detractors be the failures, it’s not your fault if you can’t reach out to them.
Take care,
Mike
Anton
The internet is full of people who play big man.
It is like everyone wants to be a bully but once again if I was face to face with any of these people they would not have the balls to say what they post.
This is the funny thing about the internet…everyone can hide behind there screen and be what they are not
CHad
Thanks!!!!!!
Lauren
The big announcement is coming tomorrow, it will be in a video and a blog.
Lisa
As always your sexual energy is appreciated in this blog:)
Horny Lisa – “GIRLS” take note, any great guy is not going to want to hear negativity, whining, and pettieness as much as a girl won’t take that attitude in a guy.
The message is: mean people suck. And the only reason they are saying negative things is because they don’t know how to frame a compliment.
Horny Lisa, the only one women still get away with is being a freeloader, or as a good friend of mine calls them “Money Hungry Bitch”.
David likes to call them golddiggers.
Andy
I have nothing to prove to you nor do i ever need to even acknowledge you.
I have always done business with people that make there own decisions.
I will not sell myself to anyone.
You are here and you are here for a reason.
Why are you here?
If you dont believe in what i teach why bother hanging out?
A movie
we know all about his freeloaders and as you know he gets what he puts out.
Its his energy and if we could really tell that story to the world we would have a movie!
Kevin
Take a look at what at Jules posted above you.
My answer is in her post.
Thanks Jules
David I concur wholeheartedly, the book was great. The movie is awesome but it is only going to have a chance because I’m the one who is writing it and even then…. We’ll see what he’s really trying to draw into his life as we move forward into the selling phase.
It’s his energy that’s amazing and it’s his guilt that won’t let his mind grow along with it.
Thank you David — learned all my “gumption” and confidence from you
Luv ya!
David –
No hints for us about this huge announcement????
Jules
Gumption.
Now that is a word i would never use:)
a.movie —
you sound a little hostile… relax!
No need to have a battle of the sexes here
Mike
Lets talk about this i think people can learn about how actions are great but the guilt and reality behind them make them fake.
How real do you find his actions?
Are they from the heart and do they really impact people or just his ego?
David —
Just cause you don’t use it doesn’t mean you don’t teach it. You taught me how to stand up for myself and be confident and trust myself … that is the very definition of gumption (by whatever name you use)
I thank you for it in any case (as does my love life)
david –
i think you just made my point. I tell you I came here to see if you are worth my money, and you say you shoudnt have to prove you are.
Dave,
Poverty of spirit and absence of decency can never be legislated for!
The change in mindset and awareness of experience your products can bring about is priceless, I know because I’ve bought them!
Never stop what you do, let those who are are willing to remain bound by their limitations, remain bound by their minds!
There are sandcastle builders and there are porch dwellers, you know what I mean!
Kenny
His actions are 100% ego based. What is tragic is that he doesn’t know any better and what is even worse is that he is quite intelligent. My guess, and I am no phsycoanalsyst (wow that was horrible spelling) but I would assume it has to do with his early introduction to the concept of atheism conflicting with his spirituality center of his brain crossing streams with his Catholic-style upbrining.
Add in that he is “programmed” and I’m using programmed in a genetics-passing-through-time sense, to produce wealth like King Midas with complete control over his emotions, but his personal life suffers tragically because what should be a shared thought process, de-evolves into a constant cycle of attack and release. He wants the thrill of the hunt but he doesn’t want to anger the forest gods, so he spends lavish amounts of money trying to win people back to his cause.
What he doesn’t see, and this is where the tragedy is, is that the people who choose to stick around his crazy lifestyle and his even crazier moods, do so because they are trying to either a. take advantage of him, b. are trying to help him, or c. are getting in line behind the other cars slowing down to watch the inevitable train wreck.
I don’t know the end to King Midas, but I am pretty sure the main theme of the story is that if you use your wealth to buy friends and family, then at the end of the day the only one who is truly lonely is the man with the money.
Andy, if you are thinking along that lines, then you just simply aren’t ready for what David has to teach you. I’ve known him for a year, I have his mastery series, and I still have a lot to learn.
If you use the action of spending money as a shield, you need to start asking yourself why you need the shield to begin with. David’s right, he doesn’t have to explain to you his process. If you want the help he offers, part of the process is having the faith in yourself to spend the money and let David take you under his wing and show you his world.
Writing is a similar (but not as challenging) career to what David does. We both have to sit there and listen to people tell stories that they think are air tight and then we have to delicately go in with surgical gloves and attempt to fix the holes we can clearly see. That doesn’t mean we aren’t all good storytellers. It means that some stories need to come from our own hearts, not from the minds of the guys who have the skills to tinker with the prototype when it is brought to our attention.
David only wants you to see that you are the one who has to take the action to get the ball rolling. Once it is rolling, then he can go in and help.
David,
Forgot to answer this question….
His actions do help people and people want to be helped. But what I have observed is that to accept his help you have to accept who he is and A LOT of people have no idea what kind of person he and most people don’t have the patience to sort through all the detrius to get to the pulp. Most people misinterpret him, and that is his fault. He has built and empire out of fool’s gold and as long as we live in a society where we applaud the fool’s as well as the real gold, there isn’t much we can do but either take his generosity in a negative way or we take his karmically imbalanced generosity and we turn it into something positive.
OM is lucky he doesn’t find more people with enough skill and grace to cradle his ego with one hand while stealthily reaching the other hand into his pocket.
The world works in mightily mysterious ways.
David,
I hate to sound like a broken record but this is the perfect time to do so. Thanks so much for all you do, from your free material to your programs. You have such a wealth of knowledge about all of this, or better yet, you tell people what they need to hear! Like, “he’s just not that into you” …uh ya, no shit (haha). Much love man
David:
I always appreciate your blogs and videos, I have picked up numerous tips that I use here and there.
I did make a comment as in “that blogs was way too long”. It was meant merely as constructive criticism so you can improve them in the future, that’s all. I just thought that you went on and on saying the same thing…That’s all, no big deal.
And if you ever produced a guide for married men I would preorder it, lol.
Hi Horny Lisa, hornier than ever, I bet you were born horny:-)
This is why people love you David…you speak the truth and from the heart! I agree with all of the women bloggers that it is great when men are direct and tell it like it is.
As far as the freebies on the web, it is true that you can not please everyone. In fact, the more you give, the more people expect sometimes. It is great to see so many of you finding this stuff valuable as we can all learn and help each other…and THAT you cannot put a price tag on!!!!
hahahaha “He’s just not that into you” – what a joke!
Mike
With the economy the way it is how do you think it limits him in showing love?
How does this impact him compared to us real people?
I agree with you he is a train wreck look at his health.
He is a mess and not a very healthy person at all and that has to do with his battles inside. His own daughters really dont want anything from him except $$$ and he blames the ex wife.
He is a blamer and does not take responsibility.
Dan
You know me well.
If i ever repeat myself which i do:)
Theres a reason for that….i want to hammer a message home so people can really get it!!
Coach Kim
Do you love me:)
Video Comments:
The movie got ridiculed with reviews. Bernhardt probably made a cool million or two. But it would have to crack the two hundred million mark for him to get close to ten, which it won’t since it made its run known the first weekend. 27 million off of advertising. I’m prediciting a huge drop for the second week and the whole thing will finish around 40 million.
Just like David says, movie!, we are just not that into you.
Take a hint Hollywood, not everything needs to be based off a best seller to go oscar gold and not every chick-lit novel designed to make women feel empowered by debasing the actions of men needs to be made into a movie. The book was popular because it was a relationship snuff film. Women read it to see themselves as the girl who gets “snuffed” and live vicariously through their stories. Women won’t watch as a movie for the same reasons, they don’t want it to seem too much like them and when the women they identify themselves with fail at romance (Jennifer Aniston was voted ahead of Oprah for who would be most fun on a road trip, translation: I’m just like Jennifer Aniston so I’m picking her in this stupid quiz because I know I would be a blast to hang out with in a cramped car for hours on end) even if it is in a movie, is too much to bear.
That’s my review for the book and the movie and I have never looked at either one. That’s how obvious it looks to me that it is mindless, senseless drivel.
On a side note. For anyone who watches the TV show heroes, my brother said the funniest thing the other day. He said, the cheerleader should ditch being a hero and focus on staring in snuff films. She would make a killing as long as she remebered to change her wig each time.
Kenny
You are one that really knows the power of knowledge.
Andy puts a price on knowledge and there is no price for lifes lessons
Hey David,
I use the things that you teach (for free) every single day and they work great for me, even in other language. Your posts and videos really helped me transform my life!!! Don’t stop helping us…
Your friend
andy
you are cheap with yourself.
i have seen it many times before.
you look at price and try to justify things that way,
you need to look at what you need and not at what things cost.
i used to look at things that way.
now i look at life a lot different
Mike
But he made 2 million.
For a pop culture book that had no substance.
SO we need to dig deeper into why we feel that we have to have a magic phrase or pill that will sun up all emotions and reasons why dating does not work for people.
this is the magic pill that people need because they want it to be that easy.
I don’t want to come across as a know it all, but lived everything David teaches about, I am just trying to reconnect with everything again and it’s nice to do it with people that get it. If you have not lived as David and his team teaches get their stuff, it’s dirt cheap for what you get in return. I get it, I lived it to it fullest.
Yes, sometimes you have to put your foot down to people that complain, ironically you often get either a pissed of response or a I was wrong. In either case you win, you get rid of the pissed ones and the ones that stay are much more positive.
Be good and nice to see you Horny Liza, I actually thought we would hear more fun stories from you, that’s my complain of the day.
David, you know I could write all day about this topic.
The economy is definately affecting him and how he spends his money. I have noticed changes in his behaviors. I have had the chance to “shop” with him since the economy’s tumble really took effect and he was not the same.
I think it doesn’t affect his lifestyle much. But it does affect his mood. And when OM is in a bad mood everyone around him suffers. Luckily I have a two thousand mile buffer and I am stalling as long as possible before I give him the material. It’s done and it is great but he is not in a positive place in his mind at all and if he reads it with negativity on his mind, he will read the work as negative, which in turn he will blame me for and his cycle will continue.
One of the most embarassing stories I have about him occured when I travelled overseas with him. We went to a music store and he started doing his dancing in the store. He gyrated, totally on purpose, up to a local sales girl and her reaction was very honest. She hated it and wanted to call the cops.
OM went on the defensive and got all riled up and made a scene. I was very embarassed as were all the people we were with at the store. What happened next was even worse. The store knows that they needed his money, so the manager told the girl to go wait in a different section while she talked to OM. OM made his peace and said he was sorry (whether he meant it or not is not the point).
So we kept on shopping and he talks to me aside and tells me that the girl that he wronged was out of line and said with a 9 year old boy tone of voice that he wanted to get her fired. I typically let people live out their lives the way they want to and I have fun watching, but even I had to say something. I said if he did that in America he would get arrested and it should be no different here.
He was so focused on himself and the “wrong” that had been committed that I swear to the spiritual force behind the world, that he went up to this poor girl who was very visibly upset with him and her job which she desperately needed to help her family and asked her a question. She refused to help him and OM went into this twenty minute long tirade about how she should get fired and that it was completely unacceptable for her to be working in this store if she couldn’t handle basic customer service like anyone else.
He was so foucsed on correcting the wrong that he perceived he suffered that he completely overlooked the fact that his wrong was the one that started the whole thing by physically invading the space of a complete stranger, employee or not of the place he was shopping at. He wanted to rule by commerce and missed out on common sense.
And I think that is what his world is like now. He is probably going through lots of these actions to make himself feel better about the sinking ship that he is a part of. He is probably basing a lot of his decisions right now around percieved wrongs without thinking about the conseqeuences that brought him there to begin with. He can still afford to travel around the world, but now he can’t dish out money like it was candy, so the problem turns out to be the world and not his own spending habits.
I don’t know if she got fired or not, hopefully her manager was a smart girl and knew that OM was wrong. I had walked out of the store I was so embarased at that point.
Moral of the story: two wrongs don’t make a right. Ever.
“SO we need to dig deeper into why we feel that we have to have a magic phrase or pill that will sun up all emotions and reasons why dating does not work for people.”
I may be smart but if I learned everything there was to learn in a year, then I would be bored out of my mind. Once I figure this one out, however, David, me and you are each going to make ten million. I take my time with knowledge because to learn it right is way more important than to leap to conclusions.
One thing I know for sure is that to create a life of positivity, we need to embrace the concept of abundance in this world. There is an abundance of money, an abundance of people, an abundance of creativity, what am I missing?
an abundance of space on this blog for your writing Mike.
How did you date go we girls were all rooting for you.!
Hey David,
I appreciate all the help. You certainly have changed my life by getting me away from all that PUA crap and to find my real true self.
Even if you won’t go see the movie, I probably will (actually probably watch a free bootlegged version online) because I like really cheesey plots anyways.
Thanks a ton,
Josh
I really can’t see that the complaining was that bad about that blog, I read it more as just teasing the one where someone commented about the repeat video.Hey what do I know.
Marina —
I know David gets TONS of email comments from folks who aren’t brave enough to criticize in “public” on the blog …. so just because you don’t see them don’t think he didn’t get them.
As David says, people are very bold when they’re hiding behind their computer screen … but some aren’t even brave enough to say what they have to say in the blog — they don’t want to be challenged.
And, believe me, this isn’t the first blog that has gotten comments like this…this was just an example
People that hide are just miserable or maybe PUA’s pissed David got it..
Marina, she cancelled on me last time. I think she is afraid, and not just trying to put me off. I’m not worried about it. It’s her loss. I asked if she wanted to try again this week. We’ll see what happens.
>>>>>>>>MarinaTheNotSoOriginal
How original Marina:-)
Mike
Afraid…”She’s Just Not That Into You” There is our next 10 film….It was my idea.
Just watching out for you Mike. All the younglings…in here. David get some more 40-50 boys who want an obese with a great attitude and 3 kids. Just kiddin..
Hi Dan,
Keep on getting that stupid MarinaTHE..UP. Thought you were buy with the market, no rime or reason there. take care
Marina,
Ummm… no. Let’s set it straight here. She can tell that I am just not that in to her and is taking preventative measures. I’m not that into her but I am willing to give a few dates a chance to see if my spot on instincts were right. That and if no-one gave me a chance while I was developing my inner confidence then I would never have had any dates…. Wait a sec, no one did give me a chance when I was a mess and now that I have confidence I can see why it happens that way.
Sorry, if 30 doesn’t seem mature enough for you. Life lessons are learned at every age and we are all kids.
Mike
I did not say 30 was not mature, I might be 40 but still 16 inside 18 is way too mature. I have never had confidence issues but have seen something similar by being overweight and how you are treated by others, you don’t get many chances with people, you either has to be very smart or very funny, damn I am at loss here. Good nice people is all it’s about the rest doesn’t matter. I am ageless my husband was 61, age got nothing to do with anything.
Often your instinct is right, but you are right in giving her another try remember you once were the one people would not give a chance. It’s nice with the abundance theory, but sometimes you also should give people more that one chance, some are slow starters.
David,
You are great and have amazing insite to people and relationships. I appreciate you taking the time to spread knowledge to all who come here. I am grateful for the time and effort you put into your blogs. Who gives a shit if they are repeats obviously the same issues arise so why not use material that has worked before. Keep up the great work!
Mike,
I was teasing…I was referring to the movie title I changed to She instead of He..
Life is just one big playground, different rides gives different pleasures. The seesaw requires two for fun, the swings you can enjoy alone, the merry go round start of slow but builds up to one of the most fun rides. A really fun playground equipment maker is Kopan, hmm got detoured there but whatever..
I have never complained about your blog but I will apologize for not saying thanks much sooner. I have bought one of your products and I very much appreciate what you have done.
I’ve been busy with my own blog, but I still check in from time to time so I can catch up. Don’t let those idiots ruin it for the rest of us, please and thank you.
Hey David,
Fer here, from our nations capital! Long time reader, first time writer…and I just wanted to THANK YOU for all the advice you give out for FREE on your site. My friend and I had a similar conversation about this when he noticed that I hardly ever complained:
Friend: How come I never hear you complain?
Me: Because that doesnt get the job done. Some people need to just shut up and listen, or shut up and just do it. Complaining gets you nowhere….
I have ALL your products, and continue to work on myself to become THE MAN that I want to become. I’m also saving up some pennies to maybe attend a bootcamp in the future
Thanks for the advice and inspiration.
-Fer
David,
Hey man you are the shit!! I thank for all you do for everybody each day. I enjoy reading your blogs short or long and video’s is the iceing on the cake. You know there are always going to be haters out there and you cant fix stupid!! Keep up the good work…
John
Thanks and as for the haters….bring them on one by one!!
Fer
Welcome to the blog comments!!
Always great to hear from long time readers.
We have bootcamps in DC now so it will be really easy for you:)
Looking forward to hearing more from you!
By the way i went to AU
Love DC
Jen
Your comments always make me smile……..and that is thankyou enough for me.
Taryn
THanks i really appreciate the love:)
I always enjoy hearing from all of you.
Josh
I think i would watch the free version….dont want to pay for that movie.
Mike
Om is a character and if we could have portaryed that story as it happened in your mind and not his we would have a movie and a book and a cartoon.
I am no longer involved and he could not even call me.
That is wrong in all ways
Here’s something I know about writing. It takes a bigger mind to use the space needed for a big story, and I was able to handle his story from the beginning, however he wanted to tell it. This one is going to be big the way it is. The only one blocking it right now is OM himself. I can still get us all a pretty chunk of change for this, if he can stay happy with it just long enough for it to actually happen.
Marina, I apologize. I sometimes miss the sarcasm in writing which is a shame because it is my favorite form of comedy. But I think this is getting to the heart of my problem. I don’t think I can take a hint either even when it is being thrown at me. Sorry for getting defensive, I may seem like I have switched sides but that reaction came from the part of me that hasn’t earned a coaching title yet. The one who is still learning.
And YES! I take up a lot of space on a blog, even if it isn’t mine, so always save room if you know I’m lurking around. I’m greedy that way.
I always appreciate your bluntness, David. I think most people don’t appreciate your advice, because it doesn’t cost them any money. When they actually purchase your advice or products, they tend to appreciate it more, because they invested their money into it. For the readers of this blog who criticize David, you need to realize that David invested a lot of time and effort into his work. You should be grateful he is not charging you for it.
I should consider visiting your new place soon, David. Dinner will be my treat.
dan
Dinner anytime…..would be great to see you again and catch up.
As for you taking up space on the blog…take up as much as you want this is why it is here.
Dan
The taking up space on the blog comment was directed to mike. its been a long day.
mike
he really is not in a position to dictate how this is done. what he needs to realize is that he hired you and I to make it happen.
his ego is way too big thinking he is something bigger than he is.
it was my vision the whole time and i shared that vision with you.
his vision is twisted and warped and i hope that you win this battle.
its a great love story…..self love maybe:)
wow- how many comments we have so far….
and great see everyone, and also our dearest – horny lisa:)
I really believe in abundance, and whatever we give, will eventually come back to us. David’s blog is an excellent example of it, he is always giving out a lot. I don’t know anyone I would find more pleasure to work with then him.
Mike –
I am all for people writing to their heart’s content on here… and despite the length of your comments they are all substantive and great …
But I’d beg to differ with you on one point
I would disagree with your “bigger mind” comment about length of writing and instead defer to Blaise Pascal’s opinion: “I have made this [letter] longer than usual, only because I have not had the time to make it shorter.” Or… as it has been attributed to Mark Twain and two or three others “If I had more time, I would have written a shorter letter.”
Very true of ALL good writing
David I’m personally grateful for these blogs. The great advice you give here and to me in person is invaluable. I always share your wisdom with friends and coworkers and they gobble it up and can’t get enough. I’m dissappointed that there’s some of you people out there aren’t appreciative of what David does. Trust me people, I’ve hung out with David numerous times, and he works his butt off doing all this for you. He should be charging you guys and gals. Since David doesn’t it’s a testament to his generosity and amainzg soul. David I think its amazing that you have this strong conviction to tell the truth and share with everyone your passion and knowledge of how dating and relationships should be. Keep it up! Let me know David too if you ever need to get adjusted again? I can only do weekend calls now : ( Miss everyone over there!
Coach Yakub — Love your new title
Thanks to those of you who have “welcomed me back”
Now if only my fair Dr. Bob would check in…
David, have you and Dr. Bob been fishing without me??
Marina,
No need to complain — I’m always checkin’ in here
Can’t remember who asked, but I have been pretty horny for a while now…don’t know if I was born horny, but i remember being a little frisky even in grade school …
Just Adjust it- can i get a adjustment too:)
man those adjust makes you feel way too good.
David,
Maybe you ought to find out where Andy works and show up there demanding to get some free services before you’ll consider spending any money…
That argument is about as stupid as I’ve ever heard
horny lisa- gotta tell you i love your openness, since you have been pretty horny for while now…are you getting satisfied?
Why thank you Yakub
Well I’m always satisfied, it just depends on HOW satisfied …
No reason for anyone to be totally unsatisfied Yakub
You know, David, you probably have gotten more adjustments than I ever got in my life. I was only a test subject for his graduate school requirements.
Coach Yakub: You think you could provide me an introduction to Horny Lisa?
oh so right about no reason to feel not satisfied Lisa.
would like to share with us how you always keep yourself so satisfied and how satisfied are you right now……..:)
hahaha Horny Lisa i admire you! you’re soooooo open and tell the truths, much to be learned from you!
David, I try to read your blogs everyday ,and thanks to your blogs I have become a better listener. The best part about it, it is FREE ,PEOPLE wake the F#CK UP. Winers try to get some free advice from David. D or Jeffries , good luck on that. Thank you David once again for all the “FREE” blogs. I really hope that you will still be blogging and not stop doing it ,due to all the people crying like little bitches. Thanks D…….PS David do not recognize these winers and respond to them, they are not worth your time or others.
Gosh! I can’t watch the video cause i’m connected through my college’s network and Youtube’s blocked. Anyway…
David, it must be so infuriating to get that kind of trash comments.
I’m not a regular poster but I do read daily your blog and most of the replies (and if I can’t, I catch up). I’m so glad to have stumbled upon it one day and the best part of it is that it’s not only for love relationships, but relationships and life in general. You never know when you’re gonna be grateful for the new acquaintance you just made. It might pay off in 5 years. Trust me.
Meanwhile, I’m gonna keep reading, silently, and thanking you for blogging.
Celeste, thanks for the comments.
Trust me, I agree with those you quoted. If you read the stuff I write where I take the time to follow that advice, you can see how much information I have packed in to such a small space and that can only come from living the work you do, especially when you are a writer. On David’s blog I just let it flow out, and it gets long but reads well.
That was more of an inderect comment about ego manifesting itself in an agressive attempt to gain fame and fortune for undeserved deeds. I was commenting to David that the guy with the biggest ego as an adult is the picked on kid who grew up to be a bully. And I was trying to infer that for the adult bully to flex his muscles, he has to let a bigger man (meaning one who was the same as him at one time in childhood but grew out of it because he let himself be embraced by the world instead of choosing to fight it for the rest of my life) take over and show him how its done.
It will all make more sense when (and if) the movie comes out.
Wow! This could get long with all the posts but anyway…sometimes I won’t post because I know you are a very busy guy, david. I stood front row at the pua summit in hollywood at the rosevelt hotel in aug. ’07 and you were one of the last speakers. I thought…this guy has got stage presence and the energy behind his message comes thru loud and clear. After I left the summit that day I was so fired up and I was talking to everyone in passing as you had suggested. Since then I got a couple of your audio downloads and your complete men’s mastery series. Lastly, you won’t find me complaining about something as petty as a repeat “you tube” video.
Keep it comin!
Thank you david for your hard work.
PS I was actually wondering…do you meditate or is it the yoga? Because you seem to deliver an awful lot of wisdom and its always fresh with new ideas.
I didn’t like this post. It had too many full stops in it.
- Just kidding david, always love your advice, you’re certainly one of the few that does keep it free. I’m glad I’ve finally got the internet back (after 6 months) and can start reading and posting again!
just checking to see if Horny Lisa has replied to Yakub’s post:-)
>>>>>>>>would like to share with us how you always keep yourself so satisfied and how satisfied are you right now……..:)
I read your blog every day, David. The fact that you’re giving as much free information as you do says a lot about your character. This post comes off as you venting a little, and that’s cool. I would urge readers to have some compassion for the complainers and whiners. Don’t reinforce their negative behavior, just understand that their behavior is based in their fears, insecurities, and an unhealthy sense of entitlement (to free information!!!).
David, you been on some woo-woo type of stuff lately, but I’m feelin’ it. The stuff about bein’ present, lovin’ yourself, and livin’ in the moment makes you take an honest look at yourself. It goes over my head sometimes, but its a solid way to deal with a lot of the issues we fellas are dealin’ with.
If I ever save up enough money, I’m comin’ to see you at a boot camp David, and we gonna do work. College is a puttin’ a hurt on my pockets, lol.
Peace
Hi David,
Thanks for posting free blogs. And a movie like “Hitch” is a good movie, but this kind of movies are bullshit.
Johnny
Lisa- you got DanTheOrignial curious too, hope to hear from you soon
Tom
Thanks and i do medidtate and do yoga.
I am just really in touch with who I am and at peace with everything that happens in my life.
That is why I am so happy everyday!!
Will
Very funny the woo woo stuff.
Glad that you are finding it now.
The deeoer you can get and the more honest you can get at a younger age the better your life will be,
I am really happy when the young guys find me.
Love passing on all my experiences for you to learn from.
See you at a bootcamp!!
David
Joel
Very funny!!!!
JT
Not only will my competition not give you anything for free.
You will never ever have any contact with any of them.
All they want is your money.
There are a lot of shady people in this business.
I meet them and I think this guy gives people advice.
Scary!!!!!
Alright where is the announcement. Waiting with patience.
Dude. That is hilarious, very nice response. We use to get people that complained by the dozens about all the free games, videos, etc we gave them from Zango just because they didn’t like ads.
It is reaching an entirely new level to complain about no cost and ad free material. Wow. The internet is good for a lot of cool stuff, but this attitude of getting something for nothing is eventually going to have to come under control.
DT
David:
I liked your long blog. I can also understand you also being upset. BTW I have space invaded a few times. But always respectful and understanding if they have a BF, or dating someone.
You stated
” You trying to create this sudden friendship with your ex when it wasn’t there before is again nothing more than a selfish act, because a true friend would not want to cause their friend all this stress and pain. A true friend would see that their ex had moved on and has given their heart to someone else, and would not want to do something to directly disrupt that.”
Thats it! Good blog!
David,
Wow! I appreciate your blog so much!
Everytime I read it I learn something or laugh. I’ve recommend it to friends. Recently my b/f broke up with me… and I can remember somehwere your post saying “there are just one person” and that helps beyond words. This time I’ll put myself right back out there in the dating world and look for more fun.
Really, you have made a difference in my life. I appreciate all you do!!
I sense the dark side of the force in this blog… but you are right David, people need to learn to be more appreciative and… well… easy going.
Who cares if it’s a repeat! There are plenty more coming… abundance, abundance
I wonder if the people that were complaining were also people that voted for Obama. . . . people who vote democrat and a sense of entitlement to free stuff seem to correlate.
Hey David
It is like watching television if you don’t like the show you are seeing then turn the channel. Yes even I get lengthy sometimes we all do. If a person who comes here would really think about it.
1. You are the one paying for this website.
2. The person who charges you for the search engine to put it on.
3. HTML guy I bet he is not cheap.
4. The person you pay to create your products
5. Last but least Uncle Sam to pay even personal taxes and business taxes at the end of the year.
Now for those who want something for free listen up David was nice enough to pay out of his pocket for us to come on this site to say what we feel. So if you don’t like it then leave it. He could have charged us for it. But no if you really think about it nothing is free in this Country. I am beginning to wonder if our Freedoms still are in order.
Oh Sweetheart
I was raised by an employer my dad owns his own business. God I wished he was an attorney instead of a plumber. That is how I know about economics and Accounting. I know and David I hope you make a net Income this year.
A little secret my dad would not like it if I mixed his business with yours. Sshhh! Don’t tell anyone. My dad has been in business since 1967, and I know I had seen a Twenty-seven year old man go grey head overnight. But I can say one thing about him he provided well for us.
David
I want to thank you for allowing me to blog here. I know there were times that I wanted to air my differences but watching your videos have shown me how guys approach women but all in reality it could help us women too.
Three Cheers For Dave.
Annie Mouse
Did you know that my close male friend nicknamed angel mouse and I have a nickname for him my baby angel or alley cat. I don’t know if they voted for Obama but I know one thing I did not vote for him. Are not all Democrats out for higher taxes.
sorry nicknamed me angel mouse. Fingers are typing faster than I can think.
Crazy man! I can’t believe people actually complain about the free advice you give to everyone! I did buy a product and think it is wonderful and love your advice! Especially the free kind!
Hey David,
I just wanted to say that I greatly appreciate your blog and all the valuable content you put up. I’ve recently started doing the exercises you write about and it’s definitely been benefitting me, so thanks!
As far as the complainers you described, they remind me of a neighbor of mine. This guy is in his 50′s, has a job that he hates, single and lonely, and basically has no friends at all. He has wasted his life away and has now become old and bitter. This guy is a taker. He sucks energy from people without giving anything back. The best thing I’ve learned to do is avoid them altogether. Otherwise, they will poison you with their negativity.
David – Wow – do I feel like “K, come lately” to the David Wygant festival of love! I have the distinct sense that you really got hammered with a lot of personal, whiney-ass attack e-mails from the less successful and/or committed among us and you had a moment that became today’s blog.
Perhaps you could use some “NEW RULES” a la Bill Maher – how about:
1 – The price of admission to the DW complaint department should be a full description of the whiner’s most recent effort to practice what you teach including date/time and their analysis of why it did or did not work. Wanna bet that it was some time ago, if at all?
2 – The above-noted revelation should also be accompanied by what they would have done before starting to read your blog and getting all of that free help and advice from you and us.
3 – If it is a particularly abusive communique, they also be required to offer an explanation of why their love life sucks in the first place and all of the ways in which they could be personally responsible for it. As our good friend Dr. Phil likes to say, “you can’t change what you don’t own.”
4 – If they say that they were better off before they started reading your blog, then let’s ask Dr. Phil’s favorite come-back “and how’s THAT working for you?”
Sorry that I’m not being particularly witty about this but it was a really long day at work. I really enjoy this blog immensely and I fail to see what anyone has to complain about, even with the occasional neo-con diatribe. As someone who always ends up being tasked to train others at work for more years than many of my fellow bloggers have even been alive, it takes time to learn things like this. It’s clear that you have a gift for this sort of thing and not all of us are so gifted. However, you have always made it clear that while you always understood some things, you still continued to learn and grow and evolve and now to mentor others…much of it for free (product line notwithstanding). Each of us may not have the natural gift but we CAN learn.
I am grateful that you ended up in this field – not only for my own sake but clearly also for a lot of other folks. If I take longer to learn than someone else, maybe I will luck out and hook up with someone who DID learn this faster and is a more skilled practitioner than I am and will be a little more patient with me than the average self-serving PUA. No one learns from just hearing, reading, or seeing something just once – ask any parent or teacher or athlete. There is a lot of repetition and a lot of practice required to truly reach your peak performance.
It’s like when you talk about the book “He’s just not that into you.” I understand your view of the book but I got something else entirely out of it. To me, it was just the first step of this journey. The message I got was that we obsess about people and we never move on. It’s time to move on and he delivered it with a smile. Hey, I laughed and I moved on. And your teachings are clearly higher up on the evolutionary scale of social skill acquisition. We take you up on it as we become ready to accept our miserly results pre-DW and learn new ways to be with ourselves as well as with others. You show us ways to both act and react. Sometimes, it really is all about us.
If your critics don’t like repetition, then they should be able to prove to ALL of us on this blog that they have mastered that particular repeat lesson, skill, or activity. Like post their own damn video and let US be the judge. Otherwise, go to the other folks’ websites and leave this one to the people who want to be here. And all future criticisms will be screened by Daphne.
David is a very gracious soul, he is sharing thoughts and ideas we all need on a daily basis to keep us selves on the track regardless of where we are in life. Even if things are repetitive sometimes we look at things a different time we hear them, we might have missed something in the past. I have said it before to me David is much more of just a date coach he is a life coach which that wonderful down to earth approach throwing in orgasms and the rest of the fun stuff. Having found this post through this time is lifesaving for me as I get to check myself and get me back to were I used to be.
I know one of my greatest faults is because I don’t mind or expect people to say thanks, if often forget to do it to other. I have enjoyed appreciated all the blogs, because each of them makes me stop and check to see if I still are living that way. Thank you Thank you.
For this I can say what is wrong with me for not thanking someone who puts his energy in everyday to give this Point to Ponder about things in life. For me I for the first time in my life need some hand holding and a gentle push back to living like i did and this is a great place. For the whiners I really feel sorry for them, they just don’t know what they are missing out on.
I also thank all the coaches and all the other blogges, david throws thoughts out there but it is as much a succes because you hear all these different views on the same topic. if this was a dinner party it would be one of the greatest.
Thanks to all.
Marina Rosasco
Robert,
Thanks for posting but I hear exuses coming from you. The fact you live in a small town can still work for you if you want it to. I had a client about a month ago that I worked one on one with you asked me to go to his home town. This place was dire, on first appearences it seemed that no one lived there…at all. But we made it happen, I dont normally work in petrol stations but in this town it worked a treat. Start thinking out the box…you can make magic happen anywhere…truely anywhere. let me know how you get on…
Stephanie2
I like the way you put your words across. With that kind of attitude your be fighting the guys off with a stick…stay in touch and let me know how you get on, Adam…
Joel,
a little humour…the corner stone of any great relationship…I like it. 6 months without internet, thats great, Im sure you spent those 6 months socilaizing…what can you teach me?…
This one is to the He Is Not That Into You Starring Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie and truly of all Jen Aniston.
Ok lets take a long look at this Brad and Angelina have started there own family and if Brad wanted to be with Jen would he stayed with her. I read a lot of tabloids well the covers and it seems that the way they portray Jen is she is the victim. There is no perfect relationship yes even best of friends argue. But it is the best friend that admits hey I was wrong and apologizes for it. I don’t know them but don’t believe what you read who know Jen may not care about Brad like she used to or she would even be with him today. And also who knows Brad and Angelina could be living the life of one happy couple. I just wished the tabloids would give them a break and talk about something else but if they did they would not make the money. As far as I am concerned that magazine with their pics on it can sit on the shelf and collect dust and that magazine company can take a loss before I believe one word of it. I am the type of person I have to see it to believe it. People will say and do anything to get someone else’s attention.
Now to the blog
If those who can not hang with us big dogs need to get off the porch.
Actually if you want my opinion I call them the bull shit papers and the comedy section of Wal Mart.
Adam
I read a little further your comments allow us women to speak to you as well. Keep up the good work oh do you know a housekeeper that I can hire to get this place cleaned up. This is what I am doing I am working on my Sims 2 game and cleaning house and keeping up with the blogs multi-tasking alright. Now back to the housework. Now the Sims 2 game is my therapy for I play it like real life if two people don’t want each other well so be it. That is life in the fast lane and I am one to be upfront and be open and honest. For I do have a relationship counselor and he is free Lord Jesus Christ. If this site was not about how to understand my fellow man then I would not be on it.
It is a long story about why I came to the first place with Christian Carter and David Wygant. I am sure David does not want me to repeat myself but the more I learn from David the better I understand guys. I watch the podcast and get ideas on how men will approach me. For it goes both ways. If you come to Ashland City Tennessee you will find it is a small town and everyone knows your name. Before that sun goes down they will know your business.
Adam
May I add even your kin folk. I usually say about my small town Ashland City Tennessee is so small you can hear your next door neighbor breathe and if your not careful they have their nose in your business.
Two reasons for what you mention, David.
One is a profound sense of entitlement.
The other is that collectively, we have the attention span of a goldfish.
Not that I care so much. By constantly seeking to improve and keeping my eye on the ball, I get a leg up on the competition.
No, no, no, Annie Mouse, people who vote RepubliKKKon have the same sense of entitlement too. Just ask the former welfare recipient Samuel J. Wurzelbacher, aka Joe the Fraud (he is not a plumber, just in case you were wondering).
To help Kim and the coaches out about me:
I like someone who is straight forward and does not beat around the bush. I want someone that speaks what is on their mind not some phony bullshit. So lets help one another even though we can not see each other.
David- there’s plenty of us out here who really DO appreciate all the free stuff you pump out. Don’t get too frustrated about the haters- you’re on the internet… and that’s all some people on here like doing.
David –
I’ve heard of you before, seen you syndicated on Seduction Chronicles, but I just dug into your blog starting yesterday. And I gotta say, it is a breath of fresh air, and I am re-inspired to pursue true authenticity in the way I interact with people. This path has had me really mixed up about “how to be”, and today I am hugely motivated to really try to start over and give “being myself” a try the best I can. I’m sure it sounds weird, but that is going to be difficult with a lot of these habits that I have ingrained. Thanks to your work, I have a renewed motivation to cut the BS and get back to myself.
So from the bottom of my heart, thank you. And I for one am shocked at the sense of entitlement these people are showing. But at the same time, I’m sad to say it, the way things are nowadays, I’m not that surprised. Like the last poster said, it’s the internet. It happens, but you’re totally right for calling it out.
I’ve really enjoyed reading your articles. You obviously know what you are talking about! Your site is so easy to navigate too, I’ve bookmarked it in my favourites