What Your Negativity Is Really Hiding
April 12, 2010 
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I received an email the other day from a friend who was checking out my YouTube videos. He noticed that people were harshly criticizing some of guys in my videos and said, “Man, sometimes those comments are so negative!”
What is up with people who write nasty comments about other people? Really, what is up with people like that?
Why would you have any desire to trash someone who is trying to improve themselves? I don’t care what you say about me, because I know who I am. Not only that, but people who write negative comments about someone is usually very jealous of that person.
So when it comes to someone who writes comments that spew negativity, it usually means that they are a very jealous person. They can’t do what you do, so they trash you instead of just congratulating you on your accomplishments.
They will say things like, “That guy is lame” or “That guy is a pussy” or “What a faggot!” Negative comments are often so juvenile. If you read a lot of the comments on YouTube, you would think a 12 year old is writing them. Actually I think I am giving too much maturity to these — it’s like a 5 year old is writing them.
You have no right to criticize people who are trying to improve themselves — whether they are just out approaching people or they come to a Bootcamp or in whatever way they are trying to make improvements. This is especially true for people who are willing to put themselves on video so that you can learn from their experiences.
Negativity is a disease that too many people have due to their own inadequacies. The reason why they’re negative is that they are so afraid to go out and try the things they’re being negative about on their own.
They’re so afraid to improve themselves, and would rather be an “armchair quarterback” who acts like they can do better. What is funny, though, is that they are the ones watching these videos.
I’m not negative about anybody. I truly believe that everybody’s path is their own, and and I embrace on whatever path people people choose to be.
If you’re not good at something, I am not going to make fun of you. I’m not five years old.
You can almost hear these people in their five year old whining voice saying to their computer screen, “You can’t do it, you can’t do it, na na na na na na…” I mean, come on folks.
We’re all out there trying to do better in life. Instead of being negative, support somebody and say “Hey man, that must have been tough doing that. I can’t do it and I’m gonna man up and tell you that I can’t do it.”
Start doing that, and maybe then people will come and reach out to you. If you’re negative, you’re not better than anybody else. Negative people are never better than anyone else, because anyone who is truly secure and confident and capable of doing what they are criticizing would never be so negative about someone learning how to be that same way.
I agree David those people are just very jealous of what they can’t do.
So like to tell them to just “fuck off”:)
I have seen your youtube comments they are just hysterical. They never appreciate the free videos. They’re so in their damn head its unbelievable.
Rick
You’re so right about that. They don’t get it and neither appreciates it. Do you have a favorite youtube video?
Sometimes I reply to those comments and just have fun making fun of those immature comments. I take it very lightly. ANytime you have bunch of stuff up on youtube you’re more than likely to get hit with tons of comments.
Those that are negative will always attract more negative energy from life.
Jacob: I don’t have a favorite but I like the way David does all the new vidoes’its neat and cool soundtrack in the beginning and end.
david i have a question.How can i build up more confidence or stoping run out of confidence, i watch your youtube video of confidence but I seems to run out of confidence,when i’m talking to a woman i’m relax and what mess me up is when i’m trying to get her number i feel nervous about it?how can i stay confidence through out?
Guys really can be more humble on that. They really all about putting someone down. That’s why they feel so frustrated with their life.
thanks for this blog, David!
my favorite line is “I don’t care what you say about me, because I know who I am.”
that’s pretty much it -when someone tries to infect you with their negativity, you have to remember you are in charge of how you feel. you get to choose whether that affects you or not.
i actually used that line a while ago, when someone was talking trash about me. instead of feeling uneasy, i actually felt sorry for them, because their comments were so negative, that i thought they must not enjoy the inner peace i have nowadays, and that came from reading these blogs and doing some extensive self-work, a task that is never really over for anyone.
I couldn’t agree with you more David. I have defended you, as well as some of your clients/friends who appear in your videos. Guess what? I get people who then personally attack me back. It’s just awful.
I believe — and nobody will convince me otherwise — that a lot of these trolls on youtube are your “competitors.” They want to put you down anonymously.
That is one of the reason I cannot stand pick up artists. Can you believe buying a product from someone called Dragon PUA or something? Give me a break.
If I am going to spend my hard earned money to get some of the most personal advice–dating advice–I’m gonna want to know that person’s real name. That is one of your best strong points — you don’t hide behind your computer. You are up front about who you are and what you teach.
Heck, I wish a David Wygant size balls and could put up over 200 plus free videos for the benefit of everyone on youtube. That’s called having thick skin or to use your useful phrase “I don’t care what you say about me, because I know who I am.”
BTW, in contrast, the people who comment on this blog on your site are the BEST. I’ve had people in the comments on your blog in exceedingly polite terms tell me why I was wrong about X or Z. I welcome that. I know everybody on this blog does, too. There is no need to get into name calling. If you disagree with someone, just tell them why.
PS You see David you got me all spun up? You created one hell of an emotion in me. I’m tighter than a hawk’s ass right now. LOL.
chevon–what happens when you run out of confidence? Usually that is when you start getting in your head with the monkey chatter. The best thing to do is to listen to the woman and be in that moment with her and all will fall into place. Being authentic is confidence…being yourself that is what it is all about.
Chevon
You’re relaxed in the beginning, your mind is empty, but it starts to fill up very quickly as soon as you start to think about the number close. You want to forget about the number and focus more on the conversation that means really listening to her without any outcomes in mind. In the men’s mastery series we do deeper into how to tap into some great mindset so you can be relaxed and confident talking to her next time you meet her. Do you have that program?
Chevon,
Try not to think about the number, but enjoy the moment. When I become too outcome oriented, I lose the power to just enjoy things.
If you get the number or email, great. If not, fantastic. That is my mindset that I am developing.
When I talk to a woman, and I run out of things to talk about after I listened to what she said, I will walk away to give my mind a break, relax and talk again to her later (If I am at a grocery store/gym/etc).
When we get into our heads, we become stressed. I know I do.
So I just try to ENJOY the moment
We really do have no right to criticize others making effort to improve. It’s a beautiful thing seeing someone face down their fears and it should inspire our love and compassion. If we criticize openly it means we’re ultimately not satisfied with where we are in that area. Saw a post you did David on youtube a while back about body language and walking, still remembered it so it has to be good!