Comments on: What You Can Learn From Matt Leinart http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Thu, 24 May 2012 21:46:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42802 Anonymous Thu, 09 Sep 2010 21:52:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42802 The podcast was very painful for me. It was painful, because the truth really does hurt! Matt Lienart and I are guilty of feelings of entitlement without behaving in ways to justify the treatment we feel we should get (note "get" vs. "deserve"). Actions get results, and it's never too late to set goals, work towards them, and improve. I'm very guilty of Matt Lienart-type behavior and need to improve. Thank you for lighting a fire (again) David! The podcast was very painful for me. It was painful, because the truth really does hurt! Matt Lienart and I are guilty of feelings of entitlement without behaving in ways to justify the treatment we feel we should get (note “get” vs. “deserve”). Actions get results, and it’s never too late to set goals, work towards them, and improve. I’m very guilty of Matt Lienart-type behavior and need to improve. Thank you for lighting a fire (again) David!

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42798 Anonymous Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:16:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42798 I think expectations is being used very liberally....and people are using it differently here in different context. Matt Leinart felt "entitled" to the starting quarterback position. That guy has had the worst attitude going into the job. He sufferred from the "Ryan Leaf" disorder. Leinart came in and didn't work as hard as he should, partying when he should have been studying...and that's crazy because the playbook is a mile thick and you have to compete at the highest level. Even Peyton Manning who has come from football royalty locked himself in the film room when he first got in the league and religiously studies the arial shots to see where he needs to improve--which you can see him do every sunday or any behind the scenes footage. Now compare Leinart to just his predecessor Kurt Warner. Kurt didn't feel entitled...in fact, he was bagging groceries and slinging footballs for arena football. Kurt always believed he could do it, but he certainly didn't whine when things didn't originally go his way. This is perhaps why his teammates rally around him, whereas they privately murmur about Leinart. I think expectations is being used very liberally….and people are using it differently here in different context. Matt Leinart felt “entitled” to the starting quarterback position. That guy has had the worst attitude going into the job. He sufferred from the “Ryan Leaf” disorder. Leinart came in and didn’t work as hard as he should, partying when he should have been studying…and that’s crazy because the playbook is a mile thick and you have to compete at the highest level. Even Peyton Manning who has come from football royalty locked himself in the film room when he first got in the league and religiously studies the arial shots to see where he needs to improve–which you can see him do every sunday or any behind the scenes footage. Now compare Leinart to just his predecessor Kurt Warner. Kurt didn’t feel entitled…in fact, he was bagging groceries and slinging footballs for arena football. Kurt always believed he could do it, but he certainly didn’t whine when things didn’t originally go his way. This is perhaps why his teammates rally around him, whereas they privately murmur about Leinart.

]]> By: Greg http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42793 Greg Thu, 09 Sep 2010 12:12:55 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42793 Bob makes a good point, but I think I understand what you're saying. Maybe the point of this podcast isn't that Matt LEinart had expectations that were too high - it was that he started coasting and approaching his challenges with his mind still rooted in the past or future. There's a concept called "taking right action" that took me a while to get. Basically, you act with presence and intention - without concern for the past or future. When I'm able to do this, my results are way better than when I cling to how smooth I was when I chatted up that hot brutette at the post office yesterday. The analogy would be that Leinart is living more in the past, and therefore his current action isn't nearly as strong as it should be. Bob makes a good point, but I think I understand what you’re saying. Maybe the point of this podcast isn’t that Matt LEinart had expectations that were too high – it was that he started coasting and approaching his challenges with his mind still rooted in the past or future.

There’s a concept called “taking right action” that took me a while to get. Basically, you act with presence and intention – without concern for the past or future. When I’m able to do this, my results are way better than when I cling to how smooth I was when I chatted up that hot brutette at the post office yesterday.

The analogy would be that Leinart is living more in the past, and therefore his current action isn’t nearly as strong as it should be.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42790 Anonymous Thu, 09 Sep 2010 07:01:13 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42790 Oh....just finished the podcast.... by the way, that was probably the best podcast I've heard on here all year. Very on target. More importantly, very timely for what a lot of people are feeling this time of year. Summer was supposed to be the time, with all the great parties and outdoor activities, but I've heard more than one person complain about how "hard" it is, meanwhile they a lot going for them but haven't tried what Dave is saying in the broadcast. Is it really possible for everyone to get that "dream" person...just the law of statistics would say that's not possible. Oh….just finished the podcast…. by the way, that was probably the best podcast I’ve heard on here all year. Very on target. More importantly, very timely for what a lot of people are feeling this time of year. Summer was supposed to be the time, with all the great parties and outdoor activities, but I’ve heard more than one person complain about how “hard” it is, meanwhile they a lot going for them but haven’t tried what Dave is saying in the broadcast. Is it really possible for everyone to get that “dream” person…just the law of statistics would say that’s not possible.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42789 Anonymous Thu, 09 Sep 2010 06:55:04 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42789 I agree with almost every you said Dave, except about Derek Anderson. He's pretty good...at least he could move the ball, something Leinart couldn't do...Leinart just played it safe with the check downs. I agree with almost every you said Dave, except about Derek Anderson. He’s pretty good…at least he could move the ball, something Leinart couldn’t do…Leinart just played it safe with the check downs.

]]> By: Bob http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42786 Bob Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:45:47 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42786 This podcast is trully confusing to me. I have often wondered if I suffer from too low of expectations in trying to meet women. You seem to suggest that having absolutely no expectations is how you should go about dating women. It seems, I meet woman after woman, either in person, or on line, who truthfully, I just don't want to see again, after getting to know them. With all the options in meeting women today, it seems there is an endless stream of women, that are available to take out. But, I seemed to have had better luck when I dated far fewer women, who I met only at events that I am interested in. Of course, that way of meeting women is few and far between, and does not subscribe to the "abundance" theory, where you should be open to talking, meeting, and dating women, wherever you are, at all times. In meeting women at events that you are only interested in, there may be 10 or so women. 7 or eight will be married, the rest either too old, too young, not physically atractive to you, uninterested, or unavailable. After dozens of meaningless dates, using the "abundance theory", I wonder if I am spreading myself too thin, by going out every week, dating all these women, with no results. The idea of abundance seems to be doing me no good in my quest. Should I narrow down my choices, have fewer dates, and actually have HIGHER EXPECTATIONS, with fewer women? The quarterback example makes no sense to me either. In a recent, previous podcast, you state that confidence is the ability to think that you can do anything, completely believe in yourself, and not worry about failure, no matter how many times it happens. Well, this Leinart guy seemed to have all the confidence in the world, if he, as you said, expected to lead his team to the superbowl,should have been a first round pick, and immediately be a champion quarterback. What happened to him? He failed miserably, and is now ridiculed and relegated to a third string, third class, quarterback. So, his extreme confidence seems to have been terrible, useless, and even a negative influence for him. Yes he failed, but as you suggested, he is not bothered by failure, and apparently, still believes completely in himself. You seem to say that he was wrong in believing in himself, and wrong for not worrying about failure now. Of course, we are all aware, as I hope he was, that confidence is a completely different emotion than arrogance. Looking forward to your new radio show. Your blog really keeps me thinking, and reflecting, on my current beliefs, and how I should adjust my future beliefs. This podcast is trully confusing to me. I have often wondered if I suffer from too low of expectations in trying to meet women. You seem to suggest that having absolutely no expectations is how you should go about dating women. It seems, I meet woman after woman, either in person, or on line, who truthfully, I just don’t want to see again, after getting to know them. With all the options in meeting women today, it seems there is an endless stream of women, that are available to take out. But, I seemed to have had better luck when I dated far fewer women, who I met only at events that I am interested in. Of course, that way of meeting women is few and far between, and does not subscribe to the “abundance” theory, where you should be open to talking, meeting, and dating women, wherever you are, at all times. In meeting women at events that you are only interested in, there may be 10 or so women. 7 or eight will be married, the rest either too old, too young, not physically atractive to you, uninterested, or unavailable. After dozens of meaningless dates, using the “abundance theory”, I wonder if I am spreading myself too thin, by going out every week, dating all these women, with no results. The idea of abundance seems to be doing me no good in my quest. Should I narrow down my choices, have fewer dates, and actually have HIGHER EXPECTATIONS, with fewer women?

The quarterback example makes no sense to me either. In a recent, previous podcast, you state that confidence is the ability to think that you can do anything, completely believe in yourself, and not worry about failure, no matter how many times it happens. Well, this Leinart guy seemed to have all the confidence in the world, if he, as you said, expected to lead his team to the superbowl,should have been a first round pick, and immediately be a champion quarterback. What happened to him? He failed miserably, and is now ridiculed and relegated to a third string, third class, quarterback. So, his extreme confidence seems to have been terrible, useless, and even a negative influence for him. Yes he failed, but as you suggested, he is not bothered by failure, and apparently, still believes completely in himself. You seem to say that he was wrong in believing in himself, and wrong for not worrying about failure now. Of course, we are all aware, as I hope he was, that confidence is a completely different emotion than arrogance. Looking forward to your new radio show. Your blog really keeps me thinking, and reflecting, on my current beliefs, and how I should adjust my future beliefs.

]]> By: AJ http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42785 AJ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:21:05 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42785 David, It has been the one of the best podcasts I have ever listened on your blog.What you say is exactly who I am these days in dating and I am getting disappointed more and more by my expectations.I am a talented well educated nice guy and It`s hard for me to get rid of my expectations but I have to work on that as it seems there is no option left to immune myself against being hurt.It`s like you have read my mind. Thank you David,
It has been the one of the best podcasts I have ever listened on your blog.What you say is exactly who I am these days in dating and I am getting disappointed more and more by my expectations.I am a talented well educated nice guy and It`s hard for me to get rid of my expectations but I have to work on that as it seems there is no option left to immune myself against being hurt.It`s like you have read my mind.
Thank you

]]> By: David Wygant http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42782 David Wygant Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:30:25 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42782 AC Thanks for the great comment!!! This was one of my favorite podcasts yet, CAnt wait to start my radio show in a few weeks! AC

Thanks for the great comment!!!

This was one of my favorite podcasts yet,

CAnt wait to start my radio show in a few weeks!

]]> By: David Wygant http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42781 David Wygant Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:28:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42781 Steve O Get the mind in gear and life becomes easy and there will be no need for silly pick up games. The formula is that that easy, I talk all about this at length in my mastery series! Steve O

Get the mind in gear and life becomes easy and there will be no need for silly pick up games.

The formula is that that easy,

I talk all about this at length in my mastery series!

]]> By: David Wygant http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/what-you-can-learn-from-matt-leinart/4977/#comment-42780 David Wygant Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:27:44 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4977#comment-42780 PAvel The only way I am living 100 years is if I can live the 100 years healthy and painfree:) PAvel

The only way I am living 100 years is if I can live the 100 years healthy and painfree:)

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