Comments on: What To Do When They Don’t Call

By: "TR needs" HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

"TR needs" HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 06:03:25 +0000

I have a friend who i have been friends with for a long time now, and we are supposed to go on a first date some time after she gets back from vacation. I called her to tell her to have fun on vacation, but she hasn’t called me back or anything, i haven’t talked to her in the past few days. I just really like her and want to at least be friends but she won’t talk to me so i don’t know how she feels but i want to know. What should i do, do i call again, do i wait????

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 11:27:38 +0000

Hello to all you guys. I’ve been reading all of the things that David posted and just was amazed. BUT I have a really big problem. Anyone who thinks they know the answer tell me. So it’s like this. David says this…. Wow it’s so obvious I get it. Another thing..I get it…and so on. But after the 10 thing I start forgeting what was the first few things I’ve learned. That really drags me down. If anyone know how can I solve this problem and remember all the things he tries to teach please tell me.

By the way I’m from easten europe so forgive me if my spelling mistakes. And David thanks for all the help!

By: drd

drd — Sat, 30 May 2009 22:04:04 +0000

Paul,

You’ve described a situation that happend to me. Almost to the letter, except that
the mutual “friend” in my case was covering for the lady I was dating. I only found
out what was going on when the “friend” asked if talked to the lady recently. I hadn’t,
but said I had. The “friend” then splilled the beans about why I hadn’t been hearing
from the woman I’d been dating. The woman I’d been dating started calling saying
she didn’t want to throw away years of knowing each other. She still waffled on getting
together, either canceling at the last minute, or saying “I’ll call tomorrow”. She threw
away all the time we’d known each other long ago, by being evasive & dishonest. I
was expected to pick up on “clues” as to her behavior. I felt hurt & disrespected for a
while, but now I don’t care if I ever see either of the two again. There are a lot of fun,
truly nice women to spend time with, and I’ve been doing just that.

By: Wygant Fan

Wygant Fan — Fri, 29 May 2009 02:28:44 +0000

interesting! I am waiting for a girl to call me back… talked to her Monday then called her the past few days and haven’t heard back… we went out six times this past month or so, so it’s not like i am a total stranger. she’s great, maybe she is busy or whatever. guess i should try again maybe then after that move on.

By: michael

michael — Fri, 29 May 2009 02:07:38 +0000

Hey Dave, get a good chiropractor! Even if you have a bulging disc many times they can do wonders! Ask around, someone you know has a good one, I’ll bet. They helped me tremendously.

By: Tony888

Tony888 — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:36:36 +0000

Paul:

I agree with what Marina said above and stand by what I said last night. Women will flake regardless of their age, supposed “maturity” level and status. I once heard a very successful woman who was about 40 admit that she doesn’t know what she wants in life. She’s like a tumbleweed drifting from one relationship to another and another still trying to figure things out in her personal life.

And like I said earlier, it was inconsiderate and immature of her to text you instead of call you at the last minute and say she couldn’t make it without ever giving any reasons. She acted flaky twice. Now maybe she had personal issues she had to take care of in that first 5 day period after you got back, but if she’s got personal issues, maybe she’s not someone you’d want to get involved with anyway.

I’d rather stay away from someone who’s flaky, has other personal problems and is just generally inconsiderate & disprespectful of your time. Move on and keep looking for someone more worthy of you.

By: Adam DW Head Instructor - London

Adam DW Head Instructor - London — Thu, 28 May 2009 13:11:24 +0000

A great frank blog.
David, hope your feeling better and the results were all good.
I was working with a client just this week who was concerned about approaching in case he sais something wrong. I demonstrated by doing an interaction and saying something wrong that was totally off base…the women in her late 20s looked at me and instead of telling me to “bugger off” she actually felt sorry for me. The thing is we never know how someone is going to act to every single situation and thats what makes having interactions fun…

By: paul e

paul e — Thu, 28 May 2009 13:10:12 +0000

I really liked todays podcast. This is something I always do. lol. As I’m waiting I try to recap the whole night thinking what I did wrong every step of the way. Good advice on the subject! Good luck with the MRI!

By: Marina

Marina — Thu, 28 May 2009 11:15:09 +0000

Paul,

No, you don’t start playing the game hard. She’s a mess thats all, regardless of how accomplished she is in her professional field or her age, either has nothing to do with this behavouir.

You let it roll off your shoulders, it speaks volume of her and leave it with that. No reason to let it affect you. It will only affect you if you allow it to and honestly she is not worth this energy from you. They are so many other girls out there that is worth your energy.

Sometimes we girls are confused too, don’t turn her into you changing the way you date.

This really is the essence of what David is telling you.

By: john

john — Thu, 28 May 2009 11:02:16 +0000

It would be so cool to even have to wonder if you get a call back. I haven’t gotten a number in so long, i’ve forgotten what that’s like.