Comments on: What To Do Next

By: Mike-Ro

Mike-Ro — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 04:21:06 +0000

Ok but what do you do if she responds and you really don’t have anything to talk to her.No clues no nothing. It happened to me.Maybe I didn’t notice everything but how do you bail out? In my case she did and said “well….bye” … I was so mad at myself because she started browsing in some candy for me because that was my openes…”what’s good around here” or something like that. I want to know this so I don’t blow it again…maybe I was scared to get personal?

By: Joe

Joe — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:34:48 +0000

This was an amazing blog! I am the type to run after a failed attempt rather than keep trying. I can recall a few times being caught off guard myself and responding with just a one word answer. Its good to know a second question is the right way to go.

By: Frank

Frank — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:25:38 +0000

Here is one for the sushi bar: Hi, is that bad sushi that I detect or are you experiencing hygiene issues.
I guarantee that one would get a response from her!

By: lots of monkey chatter

lots of monkey chatter — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:13:31 +0000

i dont agree with the excuse me, why excuse ur presense i dnt get it!

By: F

Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:29:56 +0000

Drew,

Approach the whole group, and talk to you specific girl also.
Don’t give anyone of the group the feeling that they are being left out.

Think of it if you were in a group and someone approaches your group. He or she talks to everyone except you. So you would want to just walk away then with your group.

So engage the whole group I would say.

By: Omid

Omid — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:13:26 +0000

Thanks Nick! I noticed alot of times, when I don’t use excuse me, they’ll just look at me blankly with a confused look on their face. It’s because they haven’t acknowledged what I said, they’re trying to figure out what’s going on.

When you say “excuse me” , you give her a chance to feel comfortable with you.

I’ve been experimenting with Excuse me… *Pause* look straight into her eyes, and giving her a smile compared to saying Excuse me, not looking at her, and saying whatever it is you want.

I’ve noticed the first one gives me the best results. But you also have a greater chance of her blowing you off if she doesn’t like your “look”, i.e. you smile, and she smiles politely (OR NOT), gives you one word answers, and walks away.

If she has noticed you first… then excuse me is NOT required. I.E. she gives you contact from far away and smiles. She looks at you talking to other people (Which is why David Wygant heavily emphasizes on the concept of talking to everyone; because you’re allowing your audience to take a glimpse of your character.

People learn more about you , by the way you treat other people. 3rd party is more powerful than first.

By: Nick

Nick — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:08:32 +0000

Good Advice Omid, I like it. Well “Excuse me” has always been apart of Manners 101. I will use this because I’ve noticed that when I observation open I tend to look at the observation when I make my comment. I will use the strong and confident “Excuse me” to establish that initial eye-contact with a warm smile.

By: Drew

Drew — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:03:20 +0000

This is a fantastic blog. I’ve run into this problem many times. Does anyone know how to approach a group of girls while targeting a specific girl?

By: Omid

Omid — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:02:07 +0000

I meant before making a comment to her about your observation.

By: Omid

Omid — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 00:55:28 +0000

“Excuse me…” is a great way interrupting her train of thought. What happens is that within the first few seconds of an approach from a stranger, our mind automatically assess three things.

1.) Who is this person?
2.) What does this person want?
3.) Is this going to be uncomfortable?

But excuse me, with a deep masculine voice, sharp smile, great body language, great eye contact.. and a pause… before making an observation.