Comments on: What If Your Opener Bombs?

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:00:41 +0000

Tinkerbell – I agree – soh is so important.

Having a similar sense of humour even more so.

Once I was living overseas and that is what I missed the most – close friends who laughed at the same stuff.

In relationships though, I have found if people have been single a long time, they can be guarded and not so open at first (including with their soh). Over time, your sense of humour can become more similar as you are more open with each other and less rigid in your thinking.

By: Tinkerbell

Tinkerbell — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:20:03 +0000

Maybe she is not the women of your dreams….Remember, sens of humor is really important!!!!!

By: Clint

Clint — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 01:59:20 +0000

Thanks for writing back Cathy J. Its always nice to hear a woman’s perspective on dating.

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 08:21:23 +0000

Hi Clint.

Interesting question… A smile is number one. Being genuinely interested by asking questions and listening. Being funny and making me laugh.

A hint here is to never do it at the expense of someone else. eg If you try and make a joke about someone else behind their back, the woman you re trying to impress will most likely wonder when you will also do that to her.

By: Clint

Clint — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:51:22 +0000

Cathy J: I’m curious how would you want your ideal man to approach you?

By: Jimmy

Jimmy — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:50:02 +0000

i notieced that a strong mindset is always very important to succeed in this game.

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:47:31 +0000

I am writing this down David, you’re on the money again; I love the following:: “What I will do is look her directly in the eyes and say, “Well, obviously we don’t have the same sense of humor. It’s a good thing we found this out right now, before we got romantically involved.”

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:10:44 +0000

I like David’s suggestions for other things this lady may have been thinking about…

laughter is a gift so by encouraging her to laugh (even it means going the extra step) – you are already a winner!

By: Dancer

Dancer — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:19:52 +0000

@Farley: Haha thanks for sharing. Interesting though that she laughed about her being criticised

–So do you see how this scenario can go very differently when you go into it with no fear, and when you challenge someone on what they say? You need to go into these situations not so outcome-oriented.–

Life is too fucking boring not to try.

Thanks David

By: Farley

Farley — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 18:26:00 +0000

Great one,

Recently a girl told me she did not like the shirt I was wearing, it was a turn off for her. I told her she had bad taste in clothing. She started laughing