What Are You Doing This Weekend?
June 19, 2010 
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What are you doing this weekend? Everybody loves to ask that question.
It’s almost like you’re comparing your weekend to their weekend. Maybe it’s just a phrase that we use over and over again.
What are you doing this weekend? The older you get, the more your weekends become very mellow.
I remember in my 20s, people would ask about my weekend and I would have a list of about forty things to do. “Oh my God, tonight I’m meeting some friends for happy hour and we’re going to go to this new bar that opened up on the upper Westside. Then we’re going to go to this club downtown. Tomorrow, I’m going to meet a couple guys for brunch. Then later in the afternoon, we’re going to go to this happy hour. Saturday night, we’re hitting some clubs. Then Sunday, we’re going to meet some more people for brunch.”
My weekend was so full, it’s no wonder I never felt relaxed in my 20s. I was always doing something on the weekends.
Now when people ask me what I’m doing this weekend, I say “Not much. Just chilling out. Watching a movie tonight. Getting some dinner. Staying home. Tomorrow night, maybe going out for dinner. Go for a bike ride maybe. Go for a walk.”
You kind of relax more as you get older. You tend to enjoy your weekends in a very different way.
When you’re in your 20s, you feel like you have to be doing so much on your weekends because if you’re not then your weekend is not going to be successful. I hated relaxing on my weekends when I was in my 20s. I really did.
Even when I had a summer share, I used to always make sure that I had eight million things to do. We’d go out drinking Friday night until 2:00 in the morning. We’d get up at 8:00, we’d play softball. Then, we’d go to the beach and go for a swim. Then, we’d go play some volleyball. Then, we’d pass out in the sun for a couple hours. Then, we’d start drinking at 5:00. Then, we’d go out again. Then Sunday, we’d wake up, play softball again.
By the time we left, all of us would be sleeping on the train. Of course, when we got back to the city we had to go see a movie. It’s always about doing things. But that’s what you do in your 20s.
You do much more on the weekends than you do in your 30s and 40s and 50s. Each time, though, is really good.
My relaxing weekends now are fantastic. My crazy weekends in my 20s were absolutely fantastic. It all depends on where you are at in your life.
So where are you at in your life, and what are you doing this weekend?
What are you doing this weekend is a question I tend to ask frequently to people whom I am interacting with. I am just showing genuine interest in them. I often get for an answer: “Oh, not much, just work…” Or they say they have no clue through their body language.
This to me comes off as boring. As in they are boring people, or the fact that maybe they do not want to tell me the truth, because they do not know me, as I am a stranger to them and they don’t get that question asked often by people they don’t know.
Maybe that last thing I said is all an illusion in my head.
Im in my early 20′s, 23. During the week I go to school and do my regular activities, like hitting the gym and going to martial arts class.
During the weekends though, I spend most of the time at home, just relaxing, playing the guitar. I also hit the gym on the weekends.
This weekend I go to my friends and watch games of the World Cup soccer. MAN!! This worldcup has allot of surpises. The strong teams actually play very neutral games, they do not play at their top best.
Later on tonight Im going to one big Salsa festival with a friend of mine from martial arts.
Im gonna yaw and saw and do the other thing that never works which David said in one of his youtube video’s.
YAW= yell at women.(when drunk or with friends)
SAW= scream at women.
Hahaha, no….Im kidding. Im not going to do that. Thats just plain sad….
I don’t know but my weekends are so boring. Most of the time there is almost no difference to a normal weekday.
I haven’t found the right people to hang with. I mean when I go out I want to dance I want to talk to some women and it would be really nice to have a friend that shares those interests with me. I am searching for a long time now for a guy who is a so called natural or really good with women.
But it seems that I have to figure out by myself. And of course by learning from David.
Thank you David.
Lets see… It is about 4 on Saturday afternoon and I’m taking a relaxing moment to drink coffee and reading DW of course…
I woke late- 1030, went for a run…At noon I met a friend for a quick bite and then played a gig at 2. Now as I said I’m catching up on old emails and drinkiong coffee before I go for a walk by myself and check out a farmers market… later tonight will watch some comedy and hang out with some friends from my speaking club…
I totally hear David about wanting to do everything possible in your 20′s… I’m 25 and have oodles of energy… no shortage of testosterone/hormones here!…
my early 20′s thusfar have been only as good as I’ve allowed myself to make ‘em- which by my standards is not that bright…. I am becoming a more relaxed man and doing more things on a daily basis which I haven’t done in the past…
Hahaha… Wow that really hit something in me.
So true
I’m 24 and do all those things. I’ll ask people about their weekends and in response give them my list of all the things to do. It’s so true…. for me there always seems to be a necessity to make weekends meaningful and purposeful, and if there was nothing happening I’d automatically assume that the weekend was poor.
I guess it’s something I need to learn and practice. to learn to be satisfied with the smaller things and quit expecting too much.
Great post
This has been a relaxing weekend. My son is with his father and I’ve had the house all to myself. I’ve had several options to go do things but man, it just felt so good so sit here and soak up the ‘quiet’. I must be getting old. lol Years ago, Saturday and Sunday mornings were spent nursing a hangover but now, I get in bed early and get excited about mowing the yard the next day. Does this finally make me an adult? lol
I had a great weekend (even though I was still recovering from illness, major renovations at home – and home office – and spent much of it working…)
I was editing a book which is due out later this year ‘How to have a Champagne Life on a Beer Budget’. Full of great information and easy to follow steps to turn your life around so you have more time and money to do the things you love – wish I had written it!!!
Then time out with friends and family in the sunshine…. so productive, relaxing and enjoyable.
I do remember doing 50 activities every weekend – that still happens most of the time. It’s just the activities change over time.
Now aiming to slow down and live more in the moment (longer than ten or twenty minute breaks!)