.i use the onlinedating site as a weapon to get the girl that i like…she is the same martial art class with me….i can meet her every thursday…and i found her myspace!…we ever have a little talk at class…me doing some joke…and she is laugh….but i still cant compete with other of her male friend in class which also my friend too,everytime come and train,both of them will talk! but me only talk with that girl…maybe once in a month!!i feel jealous and bad for it!……..i donno how to read her bodylanguage…it seems she is not interest in me….and i know she is not interested on that guy….but i want me and her become more closer!…but i have no idea….no idea what should i talk with her at class….yet..i also a bit shy….thats why i use myspace….feel more confident…..recently…i add her..but she dont even view back my profile….i try to get her attention by giving her a comment…here is”.

Me:excuse me…yourfriend told me that you always tease me behind…what the hell are thinking you are?if you got some problems with me just tell it like a man!….

and she respond with…

ME!!!!!tease u…..whn did i????WHICH MONKEY SAY TAT I TEASE U…..i tease u wad!!!!!damn….i din do tat,plz dun simply scold ppl without proving it…..if u dun blif thn iz fine!!!!!as u wish wad u wan 2 say…Furthermore,im nt a man….so i dun nd 2 act lik a MAN!!!

Me:Then if you dont do it…relax okay….i just to make sure….and dont be angry…are you on that month?

She only respon very short word that make me feel that she is bored and dont want me…here..

She:Oppps…..Sorry….

then after i know that she wont reply me…i still trying to get her attention! and give her a comment..here

Me:oh…you know what..i dont want you fine…i want you sick! if i believe you..then you will fine…so i think i wont believe you! anyway…maybe you are girl….but you are the bitch one! i already told my friend that you wearing red”up and down!” go f**k your opponet and monkey! ! what a shame of you dragon…

She:u bitch!!!!y call me dragon…..!!!!i gt burn u up….i gt bite u …..u monkey ,stupid donkey……blek!!!!so free 2 send so many damn boring comment 2 me 4 wad!!!!every1 oso scold me de…..dun think i will b sked 2 scold u bec!!!!

Me:i dont afrait at you!I wont call you with your name!! but i want call you dragon!!! dont just only know how to say…proof if to me that you are not afrait to scold me back!! show yourself in real!! you know what…you wearing red bra and underwear!!! and its smelly!! that why everytime i jog and cross infront of your house i smell something smelly! now i know….that smelly is your bra and underwear!!!!

and from that moment….she dont even reply my comment…..i feel something wrong……what should i do david…i feel so bad…….should i apologize??? wat shud i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been divorced!

I have had several relationships locally, and all have been loving and considerate…at first. Then, they become complete jerks/assholes. Yeah, I am not perfect, never believed to be perfect. But, why is it that I can find the guy of my dreams and reality…online, and not locally? I’m reading a lot of negative remarks and it’s interesting that it looks like mostly men. Everyone has a view on relationships and how they should come about. I take a piece here and a piece there and make my own list..and I think it’s worked well. Thank you you for the advice and if their is a person reading this, make your own mind up..they are all just advise…take it as such.

God Bless,

You CAN be a nice guy (in the sense that you respect them) as long as you learn to be more exciting, more unpredictable, but more importantly… a leader, a dominant, masculine guy.

The biggest mistake that “nice guys” do with women is that they forget to respect the woman sexually… and they assume the women don’t like to get naughty and that’s when they lose their power… and that’s when women lose interest in them.

I’m sure you could come up with some scientific/anthropological explanation, just like explaining why the sky is blue. But it is purely an academic discussion. For us guys, it is unnecessary.

The solution is simple. If you want to get laid, being a nice guy is a perfect way to kill your chances. Strap down your inner nice guy and drive a stake through his chest, right along the sternum, a little to the left. Then, replace him with the swaggering jerk, and your results will improve.

Don’t ask why, just do it. The more you overthink it, the more you’ll screw it up.

FYI- Internet relationships can and do exist, but I’ll grant that they’re likely the exception, not the rule.

I’ve given it some more thought, and figured this much: that if a person bases his/her confidence on superficial things like looks, material, minor accomplishments etc, it gives you a clue as to what their values are…

Hmm..But to stick to the point; internet relationships are no good in the long run. Communcation based on internet connection leaves too much editing space..

I did meet my ex online, but that was very coincidental. But hey, if you can keep it real, why not?

Regarding your question RE: “how does one know, early on, what kind of confidence a guy (or a girl, for that matter) projects??”,

I’d say… you have to really dig deeper and read in between the lines of what the man (or woman for that matter) tell you about himself.

Initially, the confidence one projects comes from the way he carries himself… the body language etc….

But you can very quickly find out what kind of confidence one projects based on the questions you ask. If you ask the right questions, if you dig deeper, you’ll know very quickly if that confidence is backed by experience and true self-assuredness in one’s self or if it’s just smokes and screens or delusions of one’s self.

Personally, I don’t believe you need to know someone’s in depth past to gauge who they are. People change and I believe people can change for the better. However, I WILL read into how people react to their world, how they respond to my questions and more importantly, how accepting and open they are about themselves.

THAT tells me real confidence.

A real confident person rarely apologizes for who they are. They display to you both the good and the bad b/c they accept who they are. But even in the bad, they keep a positive outlook on life (Obviously, they won’t advertise their bad either… you just have to ask them… or dig deeper).