I am about to start a Bootcamp with some great guys, and I had these thoughts I wanted to share with you.
Do you want to “get lucky?” Do you REALLY want to “get lucky” this weekend?
Do you want to go out and hook up with a sexy, great looking stranger? Do you want to meet someone and have incredible stranger sex . . . and then wake up the next morning and do it all over again before sending them home in the afternoon?
When something like that happens, do you always wonder how it happened? Do you think to yourself “How the hell did I get lucky?”
What is the definition of luck anyway? Here is the definition of luck: Luck is being in the right place at the right time.
The only way to “get lucky,” i.e., be in the right place at the right time, is to prepare yourself for opportunities that will present themselves. You need to prepare yourself to take advantage when the time is right.
If you’re going to spend your life waiting for luck to show up, you might as well stop working and just play the lottery. As far as I’m concerned, I don’t believe in luck.
I believe in making things happen. I believe in preparing for things to happen.
The reason why I have such great relationships and great friends in my life is because I’ve worked my ass off to get them! I’ve worked really hard at cultivating the life I have.
I’ve cultivated my friendships.
I’ve cultivated my business.
I’ve cultivated my relationships with my lovers.
I have never relied on luck. I didn’t just walk into a supermarket and hope that I would trip into the woman I want to meet. I walk into the supermarket knowing how to connect with every person in there, so that I can create my own future.
Too many of you just sit back and wish for luck to sweep in and change your life. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone tell me some version of this: “I really want to do a bootcamp, but I’m going to have to do it next year.”
Do you know why they say they are going to wait until next year to do a bootcamp? They say that because they are hoping that between now and then their luck is going to change.
Many people tell me that they want to buy my products, but they are going to wait until next month to do it. They too are hoping that their luck is going to change before that “next month” time arrives.
Let me tell you the truth: Your luck is never going to change! You need to create your own luck. You need to make things happen for yourself.
I’m tired of all the excuses that people make. I get so tired of hearing them.
I get so tired of hearing “David, If you answer this one question, my entire life is going to change!” You know what? No it won’t.
If I answer one question, SOME things may change or you may get clarity on a certain issue. What will likely result from me answering one question for you is that the answer will probably lead to ten more questions!
The bottom line is that your entire life is not going to change by me answering one question for you. I don’t have the power to change your life with one email. No one does.
In one email, I might be able to give you a great explanation of why something happens or I might be able to open your eyes just a little bit wider. In one email, however, I am not going to be able to change your entire life.
The only way you are going to change your entire life is to take control of it. You have to be proactive and do things to change your life.
The only thing that creates change is hard work every single day. You’re basically like your own country. You need to take control of your own destiny. If you’re not willing to put the work in every single day, then nothing is ever going to change.
No person will ever be able to change your life for you . . . except for you. So take control of your life. It’s time to stop waiting for Lady Luck to come and take over your life!
Wanna “get lucky?” Go make it happen!
Hell Yea I wanna get Lucky Hahaha! I can feel you on this but I will see you soon anyway. You know who this is… OWWWW!
I think in business they usually say luck is when preparation meets opportunity.
So if you want to get lucky… prepare yourself by learning to be confident, by learning how to talk… and put yourself out there to meet the “opportunistic” girl
Damn Khiem took my comment! Luck is the intersection of opportunity and preparedness. You consciously work to prepare yourself and you can always create opportunities. Therefore there is no such thing as luck… at least the traditional definition of luck.
Thanks, David, for breaking down the concept of “luck”. It’s all in our own hands!
I get tired of hearing my own excuses, too…
The concept of luck is for people who don’t want to put anything into their journey through life – they just expect it to “happen” magically with no work, no effort, no sacrifice. We have to give up the notion that we have no part in making our lives and futures what we want them to be.
The concept of “just one” is like that: one more question, one more answer, etc. will change the world for the requester is a false starting point. Actually it’s just the next step.
There was a book that came out a while back called “Change One.” It talked about how when people diet, that they fail because they try to change everything at once and they don’t really have what I would call the “personal infrastructure” to keep track of all of the new stuff. But if you take one thing like just eating breakfast every day to get your metabolism going and do it every day for a week, then you can add another thing and do that also every day and so on until you have acquired a lot of new practices that become a part of who you are.
The same is true of this blog. I have forced myself to do a lot of things that I have not done for years or ever in my life. While it’s difficult and nerve-wracking, it’s a lot like going through a social puberty again – re-learning the things that I screwed up the first time and doing them a lot better with a different view of both myself and the world. You have to know better to DO better.
I agree with you K if you are still out there. I am doing same thing and I agree that it is indeed nerve wracking to go out everyday and approach women who do not know me not knowing what is going to happen next. But still I do it because I want Change. I realize that you have to work on the small things no matter how nerve wracking they are to make big improvements on your life period.
And it certainly doesn’t hurt to learn that the world will not end just because you stepped out of the safe place in your mind. If you’re still alive after that effort – hey, it didn’t kill me so I’ll have to keep doing it to improve the ease with which I do it and enlarge my comfort zone for taking risks.
The funny thing is with the term “get Lucky” none of us would accept it playing sports or any kind of game, if we want to functions at a high level. We would be out there practicing over and over relentlessly.
I sports we start with the fundamentals and master them and slowly our whole game comes together, life lessons are not that different.
When it comes to us selves I think most of us at times have taken ourselves too granted and not put the same effort into developing “us” by practicing every facet of who we are.
Wish I could be at the bootcamp… I didn’t realize it was going on this weekend until I read the blog
>> [Diego R+R]: I get tired of hearing my own excuses, too…
so what are you going to do about it ?
I have a suggestion if a person is looking for luck to come there way how about this look up a fortune teller and see what they have to say or read your horoscope for the day….Yeah right…Why sit back and whine about it just do something about it..Sitting watching the tube and pressing buttons in hopes that Mr/Mrs Right is going to come off that screen is just a fairy tale…I know I should be talking but me and the mouse in my back pocket have to work this weekend…
I too believe we all make our own luck. If you are not motivated to take action in life, you’ll never encounter opportunity (which really what luck is)…
>> [Vlad]: so what are you going to do about it ?
WHAT are we going to do about it?
Jokes aside, I will work, to the extent of my abilities, to wipe out every excuse.
Don’t some of us feel the same way?
If anything, this blog has shown me that I am not alone in the way I look at myself in the mirror (both inside and outside). I am going to find an awesome woman (most of them are great already), and we will start a great relationship. She will make me happy in every way, and vice versa. The CATCH is, I must work on my own self first…
“in order to get things you have never got before, you must do things you have never done before”
(paraphrasing David’s message on an earlier blog -can someone please find out which one?)
Vlad, I take your questioning as friendly motivation to rid myself -and all of us- of monkey chatter.
Thanks are in order.
Luck? In everday life there is that gets you ready to seize the opportuniy when it presents its self. I have been in the sign business business for 22 years in a town that does not value my product like other parts of the country, but I was always I learned what to do to prosper when a situation presented its self. I have seen five other sign companies fail in this while I am about to retire as a winner.
Allright bragging aside,about a month ago I had put in a 10 hour day at work, I went to my dance class, stayed there for two hours, at 10 pm that day I headed home. I stopped at a grocery store to pick up some food for my dogs. When I approached the checkout line there was an attractive woman (about my age) bending over looking at one of the tabloids. The cover story was about some over weight celebrity, I instinctively said, “Yep,even fat sells tabloids.” She looked at me and similed. And then like as if id she had been coached from David, she leaned over and looked into my cart to see what I had in it. I asked her if she had dogs too, and we had a pleasant, but short conversation about our dogs. I would like to say we fell madly in love with each other, but I was not totally preparded to seize the oppurtunity and did not follw thru as I needed to. She hesitated before she left, but again I did nothing. I was not totaly prepared for the encounter.
Luck is for lotteries, and maybe leaving a restaraunt 10 minutes before a terrorist blows it up. Through practice one learns how to be ready to make your own “luck” in life. In everthing you do in life you have to get off your butt and make things happen. It might be slow and discouraging at first, but learn to trust your instincts and things will graduslly start to come your way.
And yes for two weeks after my encounter I would do my shopping at that same store at 10 pm, and I have yet to see my true love again. Ahhh, there are still plenty of other fish in the sea. Paul Loughner
Recently ive started to push forward the confidence you propose david and im still working hard.
Funny you speak of luck though.
Yesterday night was my lucky night. A girl of dreams appeared out of the blue. haha!
Thanks though
Strange that you wrote this, because in the traditional way I got lucky this weekend. However, it was just a hookup. She was a little distant physically the next morning, but very talkative. I tried to kiss her couple of times, she seemed distant once, and a little more receptive the second time. Nevertheless, nothing like the night before.
I am not looking for a long term relationship right now, and maybe she isn’t either, but what is the right etiquette for communication? (We only have email for each other). Thanks.
Greetings from Ireland…
Heard a saying a while ago that i think fits in with blog above:
Go and get lucky…
I try to use it in my life as much as possible…. results are amazing…. my Mam asks me to do the lotto for her constantly… what do they say – born with a silver spoon in your mouth? how about grabbing a spoon for yourself anyway??
we make our luck….
Go and get lucky…