I saw a movie the other night that really irritated me. Actually, the movie didn’t irritate me as much as the lead character did.

That character is the kind of guy who will offer to bring over frozen yogurt to a female friend when she’s had a fight with her boyfriend. He is the guy who is always doing nice things for women, but never seems to be able to get the women.

Let me say first that I am a proponent of doing nice things for women. I make my girlfriend breakfast every single day, and make her dinner most nights. I also run errands for her when necessary. I do that when I’m in a relationship.

When I first meet somebody, I’m not going to go run their errands for them. I’m not going to go bring over ice cream because their cat’s nail fell out.

You’ve got to establish that you’re a man, and not just one of the girls. A problem that so many guys have is ending up in the friend zone. That happens for this very reason.

A woman has something wrong in her life, and all of a sudden you are running over there to bring her chocolate to make her feel better? You don’t want to ever do things like this unless you’re in a relationship with a woman.

As I said, I’m a proponent of doing nice things and I think doing nice things is fantastic. I have found, however, that men who are the “go to” guy for women who are having boyfriend trouble or who breakup with their boyfriend will never be more than a friend . . . ever.

The character in this movie was exactly like that. Every time the boyfriend didn’t show up or the married man the woman was dating did something mean to her, this character would go be with this woman. He’d talk to her. He’d hold her hand. He’d be her friend.

Then he fell in love with her, and told her how much he loved her. Of course, she didn’t love him back. She didn’t see him that way. She saw him as a good friend.

All good relationships of course involve the two people being friends as well as lovers. In the beginning, though, you need to establish the boundary that you are the man. In the beginning of the relationship, you’re not there to satisfy a woman’s every little whim.

If you’ve been just friends with a woman, the reason why you’re just friends with her is because she looks at you like you’re a friend. She only looks at you just like you’re a friend.