So you’ve gone out on a date with her and you’ve had a glass of wine at dinner. You’re standing outside the restaurant – or maybe you’re outside a coffee shop with a redhead. You’re standing by the car.

Here is some advice that I always give guys: always meet her out. Don’t pick her up, meet her out. Unless you’ve got some real rapport going with her, and you’ve gone out with her once or twice, have her meet you. There are a few reasons for this.

Walk her to her car. When you get there, what does she do? Does she linger, does she stand there for ten or 15 minutes talking to you, even though it’s getting chilly? Or does she hustle into her car?

I like to do this: I’ll look at her and say, “give me a hug.” We’ll hug and I’ll tell her I had a good time, she’ll agree. If she lingers after the hug, it means that she likes the way that your body felt. You’ve broken that wall or that barrier.

You’ve probably worked on that barrier over the course of the date by leaning over, touching her arm, etc, but the hug is a great indicator to see if there is any sexual desire on her part. When she feels your body and then she lingers – you can watch her.

Is she dancing back and forth a little a bit? Is she smiling more? Is she laughing a bit? Is she lingering? Is the conversation starting again? If she’s doing that, then you look at her and say, “get over here for a second,” and you pull her over to you and you give her a kiss.

That’s a great way to see whether or not you have chemistry together. If you hug her, and then she hustles into her car very quickly, she’s not feeling it.

Many times when you think she’s feeling it, she’s not. You have to test it a little bit, and the safest test is the hug.

Watch for the linger, give her the hug, and then see what she does with it.

Khiem: It’s her body language too. Sometimes I’ll just look at people who are out and I can tell whether or not they are into each other just by their body language.

Some girls are very touchy-feely, so you can’t base her attraction on just touch. But you can base it on the way that she looks at you, the way she comes closer to you. Generally that means that she’s feeling it. If you have these longer stares with your eyes, she probably likes you. There’s a lot of body language that also plays into it.