My regular readers know that I travel to Europe a lot. I’m asked this question via email all the time: “What’s the difference between European women and American women?”
Really the difference is not much. I like European women, and I like American women. Sure, there are neurotic American women, there are uptight European women, there are sensual European women, but the bottom line is that people are people.
We were recently in Germany, not exactly the most friendly country in the world, which I thought was actually fine, because it also means that Germans tend to be more direct with you. You can plow through people really quickly in Germany. You get blown off so many times in a day that you get used to it, and you realize very quickly that it doesn’t matter. When you finally do have a great connection with someone, it’s clear and you know it right off the bat. While we were walking around Germany, we talked to some great people, met some really interesting men and women and everything was real.
When we were in London, it was really the same thing. People in London are a little more friendly, a lot more outgoing, and a bit more boisterous and outspoken than in Germany. But the bottom line is that people are people. It doesn’t matter where you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the Philippines, doesn’t matter if you’re in Germany, doesn’t matter if you’re in London.
If you desire to meet somebody, it all starts with you. You can go to Germany and say, “You know, Germans are a little bit uptight, a little rigid.” Then guess what? You’re going to use that as your excuse not to talk to people. You’ll say, “The Brits are a little standoffish and a little closed,” just because you’ve heard rumors about that, or you spent a weekend in England in the past not meeting anyone. That will be your excuse not to talk to people while you’re there. You can go to the Philippines and say, “Filipinos are very passive as a culture.” That will be your excuse there.
Whenever I go to another culture, I decide who I’m going to be. I’m going to be who I am, and I’m going to attract people along the way. There are certain types of people I don’t enjoy being around. I don’t like passive people, to me they’re not really fun to hang out with. I don’t like closed, rigid people, I don’t enjoy that. I don’t like hanging out with a bunch of loud and boisterous drinkers. The bottom line is, in always behaving like myself, by communicating who I am and opening myself to the different environments that I’m in, I’m going to attract people who are genuinely attracted to me because I’m attracted to them. That’s what it’s truly about.
I meet and connect with people all over the world. It doesn’t matter if it’s in the Philippines, in London, Germany, or the United States. I will crack through, and I will meet people everywhere I go. There are some countries (just like there are some areas in this country) where people are more friendly than others, but that doesn’t matter. I never allow whatever the prevailing stereotype of that area is to dictate how much fun I’m going to have while I’m there.
I decide. It’s my decision to be who I am and connect with the people I want, just like it’s your decision to do the same. When you’re a great communicator, you can go anywhere in the world, meet people, and have an amazing time and you don’t even need to speak the language.
For those men who decide they want to become better communicators, I’ve got a brand-new, very cool Art of Communication and Seduction Seminar and Workshop that’s happening at four locations across the country this year. Click here to find out more. I suggest that all of you who want to learn to be great communicators should attend.
It’s mainly for men, but even women can attend—I guarantee you will learn A LOT about the way the male brain is wired. This is all about discovering and crafting your own personal set of communication skills and how to attract the opposite sex. It would be fun and beneficial for both sexes to have a few women join in on one of my seminars for men, because it would teach the men a lot too. It would teach the men all about the way women think.
Granted, I’ve got my own women who come, role play, and give priceless feedback on what the guys are projecting in their approach and conversations with them. But man, it would be a lot of fun to have a couple of women there learning how to be master communicators as well, give the men a run for their money and seeing which sex is actually the better communicator.
(Hint: I already know the answer, but it would be fun to expose it even more.)